Well, I suppose if you are actually compatible with someone and not a total sh.. of a person by nature, it is probably safe to be yourself in a relationship.
How long can most people live with "mutual, negotiated subjugation" anyway?
And btw, Elley.... You've been doing this all over the forum tonight. Please stop. You'll end up hurting yourself. Also makes me think: What HAS he done now.....?
Best thing to do when you're feeling nervous is to yield to subjugation and / or efface yourself
Found my dictionary.....
It's funny you brought this topic up actually, because just yesterday I was thinking about wanting "all or nothing" and "compromise"....... I didn't start a thread coz I was sure it had been done over and over.
......mostly because I remember him on the forums a little before he got so "weird". I respect his intelligence, his humanity and his humour (when it is in good taste). And I believe you have to look at your experience of a person as a whole. This is not Hollywood, after all!! We are hopefully not judged totally by our regretable moments or our latest performance.......
Having said all that, however, I think it is probably best to avoid responding on a public forum to people you dislike or are experiencing tension with. There is such a thing as control and there are also social rules..... fact of life here...... you don't make an effort to obey them, you suffer consequences.
How did you break it off exactly?? Coz if you were a bas8ard about it I would caution:
"Don't! Don't!"....... maybe...... or at least think twice.
I got a message on my answering machine last year from one such guy. Freaked me out so badly, I put on 3kg in a week!!! And No Way did I call him back. I started screening my calls instead, which is something I never do.
I think whether or not we go by our gut feeling or a more (objective) check-list, more often we end up lying to ourselves about prospective loves out of loneliness, boredom, disorientation and sheer desperation for that obscure feeling of longing for something that might bring a small degree of meaning, peace and happiness to our lives to hopefully subside.....
I think both suffer. For a while now, I've been thinking that separation is wholly unatural to human beings, for spiritual reasons. Trouble is we're usually either desperate? or lost? or something? and we wind up with the wrong person. Or we're just not ready. I have started to believe that even total bas8ards suffer on some level, because total bas8ards are more lost than anyone....
I was thinking something on these lines today, Conrad
Summer..... the windows open, people come out onto their balconies, all sorts of music I'm not usually into starts blaring, people on the streets till all hours.....
Are you two for REAL???? Seriously now. For the last few days (or longer??) it's been like: ::crack whip:: Down Smoky!! ::crack whip:: Down Rusty!!
For F*ck's Sake, I know it can get a little boring around here, but don't you think your efforts to "liven" the place up are getting a little out of hand lately.....?
Oh sorry, Wedward, I don't think I answered your question(s).
I think some women look better with make-up on and others look better with no make-up on at all depending on their personality, colour, facial features. Some women "carry" it better, if you know what I mean. It's a bit like clothes. Some women can get away with wearing the most outrageous clothes because their personality is big enough to carry them.
As for beauty coming from within.... Some (those who cannot see further) say beauty is skin deep. And for a quick glance, I would say they're right. People who are beautiful on the inside usually only appear that way to people who are interested in the inside, and then only after they get to know those people, really.
I hardly ever wear makeup. I have one of those faces (personalities?) that eye-shadow and lipstic look cr*p on.
I wish I could apply eye-liner and mascara with greater expertise, because that looks nice.
I would still probably not wear it too often however, as I am one of those people that touch / rub their eyes all the time and end up looking like messed up pandas
I'm fluent in 2 languages and find that I can either speak both well or I get all tongue twisted and muddled in both depending on how much (and what) I've got on my mind
Yes, yes, I really like Lemon Meringue Pie too....
Sorry, Wedward..... just one more thing......
No Way!!! do I still dance the Foxtrot (slow slow fast fast....)!!!! What do you take me for??!!?? I dance the Slow Fox (slow fast fast... with a long, low gliging -I wish- step and up on the second short/fast? step.... lotsa contra body which I totally suck at.... and thanks to lying on my belly, shoulders hunched up for hours on end fiddling with CS instead of going to dance lessons, I'm starting to lose my shoulders and spine which were the only really good thing about my dancing)
The rest of you, if you haven't already seen this, for pity's sake, WATCH IT!!!
It goes for 2 hours..... It's worth it!!
I really never knew what the hell I was doing on this site But if the only reason I've been here was to be told about this link, then finally I understand!!!
Looks like god's name is Rockerfeller, not Jehovah, after all..... RFID chip??? Bloody Hell!!
Seems we have a choice between Fear and Love to make, folks.....
Hope it won't be just the same old people who already know about some of this kind of stuff watching the video. Hope more of you will choose to Lower your Blinkers and TUNE IN!!!!!
Best I've seen of this kind of thing so far!!! Excellent!!
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Yikes,Elley!!
RE: Subjugation and and self-effacement in a partnership.
Well, I suppose if you are actually compatible with someone and not a total sh.. of a person by nature, it is probably safe to be yourself in a relationship.How long can most people live with "mutual, negotiated subjugation" anyway?
And btw, Elley....
You've been doing this