If you had the chance to hear all the nasty things people have said about you behind your back, would you like to know?
It would hurt too much. I just don't see the point. Ignorance is bliss, or at least less painful than hearing nasty things.
Others say, "Yes, I do want to hear all the nasty things. I'd find out who my real friends are".
You know, if that was the only way I could find out who my real friends were, I'd take a long, hard look at the quality of my relationships and the caliber of the people I spent time with. Think about it. What you hear in gossip is a poor way to measure friendship.
I already know who my real friends are. I'm not worried about them spouting crap about me. In general, the people to whom I'm closest are not the kind of people who typically have a whole lot of interest in bad-mouthing others, not really.
But damn! We're not perfect. Nobody is. You can't help talking trash about, well, trashy behavior. For example, if I saw people screaming at each other in the Staples parking lot, oblivious to everyone and everything around them, yeah, I'd talk about them, LOL. The truth is, bizarre or anomalous behavior, whether online or off, is something people - me included - will always discuss...for five minutes, maybe. The negative appeal fades pretty fast.
My few real friends and I, for the most part, talk about ideas, events, and things. What's going on in our lives with school and work? Our families. Our hopes and dreams. Art, books, movies, music, psychology, writing, philosophy, history - and humor. Thank God for humor.
So...why subject myself to hearing all the nasty things other people, who aren't my friends, say? I don't especially care. It's not like they're part of my life, anyway.
Long distance relationships, just like any other relationships, take love, time and effort. People who always say that long distance relationship doesn't work it's only because they are too afraid to try it or perhaps never truly fallen in love with anyone that's not within their area. Yes, it's true that long distance is geographically undesirable, but if the love shared between two people is genuine, then anything is possible. Love should not be measured based on distance, background, religion or whatever...all it matters is how you feel for the other person. Of course, there is a downside to it that you don't get to do things with the other person. However, technology is so great nowadays that there's the telephone, there's webcam, and there's the airplane that takes you to your love anytime you want. I don't think when people ask about long distance relationships that they plan to stay that way forever...but nobody says that the distance will keep you from learning more about the other person, become better friends, then lovers...then if your life permits or you're really in love then you will find a way to be closer to each other. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."
The biggest issue with long distance relationship is trust...because quite frankly, you won't know if the other person is cheating on you or not. However, if you don't trust the other person, why be in a relationship at all? And if he cheats when he's far away from you, what makes you think he won't cheat when he's close to you? There are some couples who live in the same city as each other but rarely ever see each other at all. It's hard, but it doesn't mean it can't work. Not a lot of people will be able to handle this pressure, but those who do and still find love despite the distance, and then their reward is a lifetime of happiness and true love. One of the most common sayings is that "love has to withstand the test of time and distance"....you have to ask yourself the question: can this person love you 10 years from now when you're not as young and pretty? Or can this person still love you when you're thousands of miles apart and yet he still remains faithful? If you answer yes to these questions, congratulations you are very blessed. But if you answer no to any one of them, then you haven't found true love. To me, people who are in a long distance relationship gets their test of love early in their relationship, and those that have a short distance relationship will get their test in the future...for instance, might be one day after the couple get married and the husband has to go to war.
How to make it work? Trust and communication! When two people connect on the highest level, nothing can keep them away from each other. So is it that long distance relationships don't work or is it simply because the love isn't there?
Well it's often said that nice guys finish last when it comes to the matter of women and dating and let me tell you something. Nice guys do indeed finish last in most cases! There are several reasons why and not only this, Being too nice can ruin your chances of being good with women forever as it becomes more of a habit the more you do it.
They make the girl too comfortable- In order for a girl to be attracted to you there must be some amount of tension in the atmosphere where she feels attracted towards you. What nice guys do is that they make the girl so comfortable that she ends up talking casually as if she was talking to a friend.
Nice guys don't seek respect- There are nice guys out there who would do anything for the girl even if it's at the cost of their own self respect. They would be ok with taking a few blows thinking that pleasing the girl is every possible way will eventually get them the girl but you see this is not the case. You will always end up losing the girl if you let her crush your self respect.
Nice guys are too easy to get- Humans beings have a natural tendency to chase things that are not too easy to handle. The same concept applies to women and dating. You see when it comes to girls they always work hard to keep the attention of a guy who is too hard to get instead of the one's who are an easy catch. And the fact of the matter is that most nice guys are a very easy catch.
It all goes with the situation your in, I dont just have myself to consider, my decision would have to be very soul searching, she would also have to be the greatest love of my life for me to even think of such a movement!
Hello druidess,Each moment of ur life is a picture which u had never seen before. And which ull never see again so enjoy> & live life & make each moment beautiful....
Are you 100% sure that, if you're in a relationship, and somebody better came along, you would never leave your loved one?
I have no idea what tomorrow may bring. I cannot be sure of anything I may or may not do. Realistically, my actions will depend on what occurs in my life. I live in a real world where relationships can be broken in a heartbeat and lives destroyed in a moment. There are no promises in life and no guarantees of tomorrow. There is today and the people who share it with me.
To be in love is a divine feeling. To love and get love in return is for few lucky souls. If you are one who has found love that is great. Is your partner your soul mate? Your love will one day wither away. The days of bliss that you are enjoying will become a memory and the new realities of future may prove to be not very attractive. But if you are soul mates, you both will be able to enjoy life together for a much longer time.
After sometime the physical attraction will reduce. The romantic feelings will get battered with time, but your passion for what you enjoy doing will not reduce. If your partner shares the same passion, you will enjoy doing that together, otherwise, you will look for mates with whom you can share your passion and slowly drift away from your partner.
Many people who believe in God do not understand how anyone cannot believe in God. They explain that it is obvious there is a God, as how can anyone believe this all happened by accident. That everything is so perfect for human life. Believers do not understand why anyone would deny what they see everyday. Believers just know that it all must have been created, as a gift by God and that it had to be God as who else would do such a nice thing?
Many who believe in god cannot understand how anyone can doubt the words of God or the information in the Bible or Koran. It is proof that there is a God and he has left his words to help guide us through this life. They cannot understand why anyone would not devote their life to God, the creator. How can anyone not see the truth before them and understand that God loves them in every way.
Those who do not believe in God cannot understand why perfectly sane adults believe in an invisible friend. Non-believers stopped believing in Santa Clause at age 4 and refused to fall for that trick again. Non-believers cannot believe that we allow folks who still believe in a Santa Clause like omnipotent God and perpetual invisible friend to walk the streets. Non-believers wonder why if someone has an invisible friend over the age of 20 that they put them into mental institution to study, yet if they believe in an invisible God then that is okay and they are allowed to carry on in this way.
It seems this is the big hang-up and arguments between believers and non-believers and it appears both sets of groups are at an impasse, but it sure is fun to watch them all argue over it in the sound and fury of this species. Think on it and have fun in your next debate.
On your first date meeting for the first time, a small kiss on the cheek is a great icebreaker. All people like to be kissed from soft and smooth lips. Not a hard kiss, no saliva, and no crack lips. Chap stick, lip gloss, etc, is necessary to keeping your lips smooth at all times. This first soft kiss will relax the tension that is there. You can now easily get on with the socialization. If you have been emailing and chatting over the Internet for sometime, this first kiss would be a good thing to do.
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