I define madness as that drive to do things we are not socially supposed to do. Something off the boring beaten track, even if it is something so bad.
I suppose everybody has something of that, as these are natural statistical fluctuations around the average (who is the doer, the builder, the administrator, etc)
About your idea of finding our complement, does it mean to build it from certain initial rough material, or find it ready? I think the second possibility would have a probability next to zero in life (if we see our hooking up with others as a random process) Cheers my dear friend, and I am glad to talk to you again (though not in the intensely beloved threads...LOL!!!)
Well, Wilde was an extreme genius, and eventhough his fantasies and longings were not in women, he must have observed enough to see the complications in women -for plain men- as something simple. It is always the same with geniuses.
As for the second part of your mail, I reckon the exceptions of that rule amongst women or men too, but if you happen to find that hard-seeking-men woman then you likely have the ingredient you need for the disastrous recipe. No doubt about it.
I do not know if I am thoroughly tortured by the idea of being a lonely man... maybe at certain little moments.. you see, at least in this youth I see so much to do on my own (things I would never do with someone else or I have ever done so far with one) It is true what you say about changing attitudes and about being your worst enemy. Thanks. In afct this thread is a reflective one -as usual- and not a moaning one, though I can see I am always moaning and mourning a little bit about my own misery. Thanks again and stay as cool and cute as usual.
Lilly, there is always a touch of madness inside. Is that learned or born? or just a unique combination of both? an unusual ingredient looking forward being mixed with something else for the best recipe it could ever find. This is the route as you have described in your post... and this is the struggle each of us, unique mixtures, has to face before it all turns into dust. Thanks for your lovely and constructive/instructive reply.
You are 0% wrong about what you say, and I thank you for your nice post. Some people love living in their own reality. but that is not the world where we have to feed and breathe. Maybe that clash between both worlds is just another mirage that the older years will dissolve into a calm contemplation of a mystery that is now just chaos.
True, negative thoughts have to be rooted out as soon as possible. When they grow, they get branched off, get hold of other parts of our mind and life, then it gets too hard to take them away. Thanks for warm reply.
I think she was a little Stalinist when she was younger...probably she learnt that dish cold then... Sure, some women or men do those revengeful things, but I am not a gullible guy actually, not even in my worst moments. However, there must be something wrong in relationships finished regarding not to have found the RIGHT ONe, but I always tend to think more of the things an individual has inside to ruin what is built with so much effort.
It is true, but do not you think there is a genetic load too? My granda, mother side, was a big womaniser, but he was also a guy of deep feelings. Why do we see such contradcitions? He had in his family many Catholic priests as ancestors and othe rcrazy people. What do you think about the genetic load? Do you think it is another way to keep recipes for disaster?
I just had a coffee with an x-gf before a trip I was about to start. She was with me before my last gf with whom I just broke up with too. During the coffee we talked about many subjects, but nothing about love life. Stupid subject in this case I thought. In the end, when I left my x-gf, I remembered her prophecy long ago about having the same end with the next gf as I had had with her. I shuddered. The night was fresh as only the summer nights are here, so I decided to walk for a while. It is a fact that I have always felt that I am not well-equipped for long relationships with women, but in spite of my certainty and even pride about that I noticed that I was crumbling inside and feeling that my way was marked toward the void. The nasty feeling held me for a while until I arrived home and slept. Next morning however, I felt that the more I thought of the doom, the more I was going to attract it by taking more stupid decisions based on fears an insecurity. I thought this negative thinking was a recipe for disaster. I also thought that if I was not equipped for long termed relationships then I should no hurry into another one just because I was not sure if I could be strong enough to watch my own fate. I decided then that I had to hold my fate fast, and I had to do it as bravely and energetically as I would have done with any other fate. I wrote in my notebook: Recipe for disaster and memorised it in order to avoid it anytime it feels like to use it.
Hey Alby... do you have time to enlighten us with some comments of the article from Haaratz about the dire need for Israel to negotiate? I shared it just above...
Waiting under my boddhi tree to hear your voice...
It is true: choices. For example, people choose to take apps from Facebook. It is stupid fun, but just with one of them, your computer opens its door to other people to see into what you have inside..
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Recipe for disaster
Have you added a nice ribbon for her...