Dear Dodge, "who dangles the biggest carrot" is not my case. Divorced when my son was 3years old,see him every week or second weekend, ex remarried,and in every visit,i will tel him,if he ever needed me,i will be there for him.I never told him to disobey his stepfather.- Then 13years old told that his stepfather hitting him ,dispite his mother's objections,so i invited to come and stay with me,i negotiated with his mother the condition having him,and ever since everybody happy.
One other problem is this.. When the child return visiting his/her natural mother/father, they advice the child,perhaps out of spite, to disobey the stepparent.
Thanks V and RavenO,follow your advices,had a look for Stalassein and i did not get any wiser,how the -ssein- was stuck in the word Stala,as we know meaning DRIP,the SSEIN what exactly indicates??? the speed of dripping??, and from where the SSEIN derives from?
Disappointments is part of life,as is living an excited and happy life,though you cannt live constantly,excited and happy forever every day,and for the same token disappointent every day as well.-
No matter what you call it," help her be a happier person" this help you offered her, is called "change her as a person", and you both come ending it, as none of you ACCEPTED the other,how they really are,not how SUPPOSE to be.According to you she has been selfish,and i should imagined she thinks the same about you.
By what rights you tryied to "change how she viewed her life", am sure you would not liked her to change you "how you viewed your life". You have not learned one thing.... In life you cannt change the other person,you can only accept the other person,and acceptance of each other is very important in a relationship.
If you want to be sure,about him,do some research (yourself,or private investigator) quote=keepinitsimple]I recently get to know this guy, he's 10 years older than I, working as one of the top executives, busy, works from approx 9am-9pm (I think). Well, here goes the story:
The 1st time we met, it was okay...just had coffee no dinner, decided not to rush into things. And we agreed to meet again the next time.
The following 2 planned dates were cancelled flat out coz he was busy and unwell, had sudden company function, whatnots. They were true, coz he showed me some photos on 2nd date.
In between the days, he'd text me, but never called, saying that he missed me, but I'm puzzled outta my wits: why is it so hard to just call? Does he actually mean what he's been saying?
2nd date was a dinner...pretty alright (that was when I witnessed The Germans slain England). We kissed (I know...so stupid of me to give it too quickly, but I don't regret it that much). Period, the evening ended.
And the following week had been tumultous. He hardly called me (despite his habit of telling me how much he missed me). It ALWAYS took him ages (literally) to reply my sms. EVERY SINGLE time I called, he never picked it up and never bothered to call back or ask what was the matter. And so far, 4 out of 6 planned dates ended up being cancelled and 3 out of 4 were coz he couldn't make it. What frustrates me even more was on the last 'supposed' date, he didn't show the courtesy of calling or texting me to cancel. It was I who asked him first about where he was 30 minutes before the stipulated time. And the reply that came was surprisingly expected "Sorry baby, I can not come". PERIOD. I had to ask what was the matter then he explained that he had to be with his friend who was still unconscious after breaking his back an hour before. I mean, he could've called or sms, no? Or is it just me who's too particular?
I'm not exactly known for patience (I think), but with reasonable excuse and sincerity, you'll find me pretty level-headed.
Alas today, I decided not to take anymore crap from this guy after he told me he can't meet me again this weekend coz he has company gathering in Bali (imagine how envious i get! haha...) I believe I deserve someone who could at least spare 5 minutes in his busy day just to hear my voice, to just chat for a little while. Shouldn't it take a person only seconds to reply an sms from a special person? Shouldn't you feel the burning urge to call this special person after seeing '3 missed calls' on ur phone? That, apparently, was not the case with this man...
So, if anyone of my fellow cs-ers believe in the same thing as I do, kindly show ur encouragement for me in this state of confusion, that'll be truly appreciated. However, if u have different views, kindly speak up too. After all, more brains is better than only one, right?
Thank you so much for reading til thus far, Cheers sunshine! =)
No, Impositions by societies to be NATURALLY mogamous has been proven wrong. We are NATURALLY polygamous,and amongst the polygamous, some have chosen to remain monogamous, as they have found the perfect partner to stay monogamous, and hopefully their partner feels the same.
I was about to be deported from S,Africa demonstrating agaist the Apartheid,and trhown 3 days in jail i965 demonstrating for democratic rights, in the birth place of Democracy. In my age don't expect to run for cover from tear gas and police batons,but i encarriege the youngsters to stand for their rights.
You belong in a country with a democratic goverment and what Mindfful said i agree,what about you, are you going to watch from a sideline? or are you going to do something about it???.I have not seen you outside 10 downing str, protesting for the rights you believe in,as far the subject of this thread is concern.
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RE: Step Parents..
Yes OLE,OLE,OLE for SPAIN Is Manolo in S,Africa? the one with the big drum???