First, you have children from that love. Some never do. You have 2 pieces of the future. Pieces of humanity to be molded to the best of your abilities. You get to watch them grow and blossom into special people. Lucky you! Cherish that.
Second, you have a piece of a dream: owning your own home. Some never realize that dream. Lucky you!
You have 3 good reasons to be strong; 2 wonderful children and a home. To be the best you can be. To make the life you want. You're very fortunate.
You'll be tired and things won't always go right. But the strength you possess will see you through. And in the end, you will stand tall.
And remember that the ultimate measure of a woman or a man is not where she/he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where she/he stands at times of challenge and controversy. Wise words from Martin Luther King Jr.
Feeling accepted and knowing you "belong" seems to be very strong in some people. I tried for years when I was younger to win acceptance from just my family. I needed to feel like I belonged. It never worked. I was too different for the comfort of those who loved me.
Being accepted and that sense of belonging often require a good deal of change or repression of individual characteristics. Too many are willing to do what it takes to belong or fit in.
Historically, individualists and nonconformists have been labeled as something less than acceptable (in some cases, subhuman). It is the nature of human beings to use labels as a definition of another person's worth. This will not change in the foreseeable future; at least not without a major restructuring of basic human nature. And that type of change simply is not possible.
I'm very open in a relationship. I have nothing to hide. If my experiences can help someone understand me, or help them shed a bit of light on their own life, then it's good. Our past, good or bad, defines who we are, good or bad.
Cosmetic surgery (such as those listed) is never about restoring function. We no longer live in a world where function matters. It is now all about form. You could truly be the most wonderful and brilliant person on the planet, but if you aren't "beautiful", you might as well not exist. The only thing in life that will guarantee your acceptance without your being beautiful is money, and lots of it. There has been created an artificial and very superficial ideal of "perfect" form. And we must conform to be accepted!
Unless there is a physical necessity for such surgeries, they are merely used to make others think better of us which allows us to think better of ourselves. We'd be a lot better off if we learned to accept ourselves for who we are and how we look. Genetics and Mother Nature may not have been kind to all of us, but we are who we are.
I am passing this on to you because it definitely works, and we could all use a little more calmness in our lives. By following simple advice heard on the Dr. Phil show, you too can find inner peace. Dr Phil proclaimed, "The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you have started and have never finished."
So, I looked around my house to see all the things I started and hadn't finished, and before leaving the house this morning, I finished off a bottle of White Zinfandel, a bottle of Bailey's Irish Cream, a package of Oreos, the remainder of my old Prozac prescription, the rest of the cheesecake, some Doritos, and a box of chocolates, and a half bottle of scotch.
You have no idea how freaking good I feel right now!
I'd tell you that I'll fix supper right after my bubble bath and a good back rub from you. Wait a minute! After my bath and back rub, I'd need a perfect cup of tea and a bit of time with my feet up, relaxing. You might get a bit hungry. And if I'm doing the cooking, you'll have to do the cleaning up after.
If I were making the trip to see you, I'd be bringing my two dogs and we'd make ourselves comfortable at your house!
PEOPLE on this site are no different than those on pay sites or in real life. The good, the bad, the users, the idiots, the holier-than-thou, the scammers, etc. People are people, no matter where you go. No one is perfect, although some like to think they are.
Unfortunately, we now live in a disposable world of instant gratification. Human beings are only slightly more important to some than the "junk" we collect to try to keep us happy.
What's worse is when you've met in real life, spent time together, talk on the phone or online multiple times every day, and one day they just disappear and you've been effectively erased from their lives. Happened to me twice in the last 2 years. And people like that wonder why we don't want to get close to someone.
My ex pulled the same stunt on me after 23 years of marriage. He simply didn't come home one day more than 4 years ago. No arguments, no discussions, nothing. He abandoned me, our daughters, and our grandkids.
When it happens, I simply wish them well and move on. Makes me more and more cautious every time I start talking to someone. One day it will have happened so often that I'm simply not going to be able to develop feelings for anyone. I hope it never gets that bad, but the possibility is there.
Sean Connery. Then, now, always. And he only got better looking as he aged. Even now (Entrapment) he's gorgeous. First Knight? Totally dreamy. As the voice of Draco in Dragonheart, OMG. But I have a thing for voices.
Not everyone has a wish list for Christmas (or any other holiday). I haven't received a Christmas gift in nearly 20 years. My joy during the holiday comes from giving.
The term "gentlewoman" is still in use in the US to address a female member of the US Senate or the House of Representatives. It is basically an archaic term which fell out of popular use years ago. It's just easier to refer to a "gentlewoman" as a lady.
I don't necessarily resent "me". I don't like the way I am, but there's no getting around it, so I've learned to just go with the flow. I'm a natural giver and have spent my life giving to others all that I can. I expect nothing in return, but to be appreciated and accepted would please me. I'm accustomed to sacrificing everything for those I care about. My own wants, needs, and desires mean little to me as long as those around me are happy.
I've been told that I need to learn to be selfish once in a while, but I'm not sure how to do that. Being selfish just goes against my grain, so to speak.
Unfortunately, being a natural giver, I find myself being used and taken for granted. That doesn't bother me much. There are limits, but I find myself hesitant to express those limits and will just continue to give and give.
I don't believe it's possible to change who we really are. Not in terms of our core values and beliefs, that is. Outwardly we can make ourselves appear to be anyone we wish, but eventually our true self will shine through the disguise.
Thank you for the kind words demonfairy and taxidiots.
I've been told that I possess a warped sense of devotion because I willingly lived in hell no matter how bad things got. After my ex's first head injury, a "specialist" told me that 98% of the spouses of head injury survivors simply pack up and leave because life is unbearable. I had a huge stubborn streak and telling me something like that was like waving a red flag in my face. There is no way I was going to become (or allow my family to become) just another statistic.
My devotion and dedication cost me more than anyone can ever understand, but I also gained a lot through the experience. Hopefully I will have the strength to survive anything else life may put in my path.
Bad changes in life have as much (or more) to teach us as the good changes.
My ex survived 5 head injuries during our marriage of 23 years. My middle daughter survived 4 head injuries during the last 7 years of her life. Head injury is devastating to everyone involved, but to have 2 loved ones with multiple head injuries was unimaginable.
In 06 my middle daughter and my father died on the same day, twelve hours apart, and they shared the same birthday. My ex abandoned my 6 weeks after her death. Shortly after he left, I lost my home, nearly lost my youngest daughter when a car hit the horse she was riding, lost my horses, most of my personal possessions.
I'm not sure how I found the strength to survive the changes life threw at me, but I did. I sometimes wonder how I manage to smile at anything in life now, but I do.
My family spent more than 2 decades living in a hell not of our making. The changes were devastating and the scars run deep, even now. But life is all about change. We must find the strength to roll with the punches, no matter how hopeless life seems at times. We must find something to laugh at every single day.
I use a bookmark for the page and I always remember where I stopped reading on the page. I have a half dozen books at one time in the process of being read. Even weeks after having last read in a book, I can still remember where I stopped.
Books are a major passion of mine. I instilled that passion in my girls and am now instilling that passion in my grandkids.
I've lived nearly my entire life with that knowledge about myself. After the first few decades you become numb to the pain. Then you're free to realize (and believe in) your true worth, to yourself.
I've even been told right here that I have nothing to offer anyone. I just laugh. Some folks might be amazed if they knew how "valuable" knowing me might prove.
Never doubt yourself. If someone can't see your true value, it's their loss, not yours.
Here is another great source of inspiration that will help you put your life in perspective. This young man lives basically on his own, even though he was born without arms and legs. Pretty amazing.
You will heal, but you have to allow it to happen. Look inside yourself and realize that there were lessons to be learned from your relationship. Become a good student and learn those lessons well. As you journey through life, put those lessons to use. You'll find that no matter how many speed bumps you hit on the highway of life, you will somehow find the strength to go on. Just make the effort to guide your changes in the right direction.
The following is simply my honest opinion. Take it with a grain of salt.
Every nation has its good points and its bad. If the people of all nations were truly smart, there would be no war, no poverty, no violence, no starvation, no unemployment, etc. Most people (as individuals) can be smart, but human beings (as a species) are basically greedy, stupid, thoughtless, etc.
All nations possess their own inherent form of "smarts". If those in control weren't smart, they wouldn't be in control. They may not be smart in terms of the big picture (what's best for everyone), but they are certainly smart enough to maintain control, tenuous though it may be.
One nation is no smarter than another. It's all a matter of perspective and degree. Superiority in terms of financial stability or technological development or athletic prowess or artistic prevalence is not what makes a nation smart.
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RE: "All Because Two People Fell In Love"...
All because two people fell in love!You experienced love. Some never do. Lucky you!
First, you have children from that love. Some never do. You have 2 pieces of the future. Pieces of humanity to be molded to the best of your abilities. You get to watch them grow and blossom into special people. Lucky you! Cherish that.
Second, you have a piece of a dream: owning your own home. Some never realize that dream. Lucky you!
You have 3 good reasons to be strong; 2 wonderful children and a home. To be the best you can be. To make the life you want. You're very fortunate.
You'll be tired and things won't always go right. But the strength you possess will see you through. And in the end, you will stand tall.
And remember that the ultimate measure of a woman or a man is not where she/he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where she/he stands at times of challenge and controversy. Wise words from Martin Luther King Jr.