1) Soft focus photo's, professionally taken. Tends to be more of a female thing, from what I can see. Come on girls, that pic is not natural, and not a true representation of you. If you think they are a good idea - think again, imo.
2) Large chunks of text that have clearly been fed through an online translator. These members will also do a variation of the above, and post a pic of a stunning model. In reality, it will be a wee man in Nigeria, collecting e mail addresses. But good luck ;)
3) This is more a man thing - your car. So, you have an SUV? Uh huh? And we need to know this with a pic of it, do we? I mean, is that a closer for anyone?
4) I never ending list of things they want and look for. Of course, we all want someone we connect with, but aside from a general outline, don't do a big list!
5) No pics. I think if others take the trouble (2mins), to put up a pic, then so should others. If people with no pics use this place for dates, and find they are not getting many, then they can't moan, if they have not bothered with pics, imo..
6) Lots of text speak. Esp from anyone over the age of 30. It's just wrong. On so many levels.
I think because I once placed myself in that situation, and lived to regret it. I seen how some people can use that situation to their advanatage, and, when they do, you are in trouble, because you legally have no rights!
I cannot help notice that I have come into contact, online, three women, in the last 5 months, and one of them
A) Lived with her elderly father, and couldn't leave the house, without letting him know where she was. She could not have a real life, because she would not stay over (not that I wanted or asked!), but i mean, even at a party, she wouldn't. Nor would she have people around there. Even though this women was not my physical type, even were she, I would still find her life a bit of an odd one, to be honest.
She works full time, yet claims that she couldn't afford her own place. But she was 30something, so, old enough to do what it takes. Mind you, when she told me that she pays £25 a week, for EVERYTHING! It's not like she had only recently done this, due to her dad's ill health, she had NEVER left. For me, that speaks volumes, and not in a good way..
Then I was messaged by....
B) The women who was living with her SISTER. Furthermore, her sister and her, who co owned the house, didn't always get on, her sister would get envious if she found a guy that interested the other sibling, for example. Again, because of this, she pretty much did not have a life, in our outside of the house.
Anyway, I have come across this a bit too much, and yes, if it is a long term arrangement, such as those examples I gave, then I have to say, it doesn't exactly do much for me.
It kinda says something about the person that they choose to stay at home, right into their 30's, doesn't it?
I think it would be okay, for a few months, but, in the longer term, there would need to be more fairness in the arrangement, as I would always feel a bit vulnerable.
I'd want to speak to them for hours, on the phone, spanning a wee while, and, then, from that, I would know if there was anythng worth pursuing. For me, the interest is usually there or not. So, if I was able to do that, and she was happy for me to ring her at home, then sure, I would trust her until she proved not to be trusted, I suppose.
But, as I say, your instincts should tell you who sounds consistant, and who isn't.
People could be the same, even if you had met them, in the 'normal' way, as well, of course.
I think if you look within yourself, you can often tell whether or not the person is being genuine, in all that they say, or all that they write. After that, it's down to taking a gamble, but life is a gamble.
Which superhero are you? You are Super(wo)man, the sort of righteous, indestructible do-gooder the world is crying out for. You use your uncanny powers for good, not ill. You are upright, resolute and just a wee bit boring
I think it is lovely to see people hold hands, give a warm embrace, if they are meeting at a train station or airport, and, yes, even a kiss can be okay...but, you know, there is a line..
MrInteresting Forum Posts (323)
I've noticed this..
To be honest, I find the experiences amusing!