Okay, let me put it another way. If someone, in the future, loved me enough, that they felt they wanted to say it quite a lot, I would be pretty cool with that.
Were you with someone, and had grown used to them saying this a great deal, how soon would you notice, if they began to say it a LOT less? And, having noticed, would this shift concern you?
But people don't, because they always think the 'next thing' will meet their unrealistic ideal. And, nail on head, re apologies. You know, it is only a word, however, said with sincerity, it carries so much weight. For all my faults, and there are many, I always recognise when something is my fault, and don't feel so full of false pride, for that IS what it is, that I cannot bring myself to apologise.
A lot of people won't though, and that is the beginning of the end, imo..
This was never intended as a thread to belittle British girls, that would be rather silly, given that I have only ever had British g/f's.
However, if the facts show that we have a big binge drinking culture in this nation, and the health bodies support that view, then I see no harm in it being stated, on here.
Likewise, it is an accepted fact that we in the UK have among the worst teeth in Europe, owing to a variety of reasons.
Of course, not ALL, it is never ALL, just a higher % than you may find, in other nations.
You are the uncertain. Your biggest weakness is that you lack self-confidence. You're never quite sure what to do in tense situations, and you often panic when you need to make an important decision. You need to just listen to what you really want, and follow that path. However, don't only ever do just what you want, but also remember that there are things you need to do as well, sometimes.
I think that there is a culture of consumer behaviour, among the people of Western culture, when it comes to relationships.
To be honest, the usual theme is that we go through a spell of being single (lasting whatever), we eventually meet someone, there is a peak period, at the start, and then, when problems arise, people bale out, and often too soon, imo, when if they had spoken some more, compromised, and acted as adults, maybe they could have figured it out, rather than quitting (assuming that there are still some feelings there).
It is fine to quit, if it is done, dead in the water, but I think people too often break up, for some reason that could have been sorted, and it is often their own pride, or their own inability to accept their part, that causes them to prefer to walk. It is like they chase, chase, chase, this magical relationship, only to find that the next one, it brings problems as well, different one's perhaps, but problems, anyway.
And, after a time, the same thing happens.
Rather than address the problems, people would rather keep on chasing this idealised person, that most likely doesn't exist.
Oh, come, come, Mr 'Lover', surely you, of all people, must know the answer to this -
But seriously - there is no magic formula, and, tbh, the vast majority won't reply anyway, so I would just send something brief, pick out something in their WRITTEN profile that you resonate with, mention that, and leave it open for them to get back.
PS - If they ARE really pretty, don't even mention their looks. It totally throws the pretty one's, as guys ALWAYS do.
It is, but in my short time here, it seems par for the course.
It's the internet, I suppose.
I don't think it is wrong to say that there are different cultures and behaviours between people of different nations, IF THERE ARE! If there is more of a negative drink culture in the UK, than in France, then why not mention the fact? If most of those that create violence on holidays tend to be English, then I see no problem with atttributing that culture, mainly to English holidaymakers, in places like Spain and Ibiza. If they happen to be factual matters, what's the harm?
LOL. I have moved to different nations before, as well as having been on holiday, at a fair few. I am basing this on what my eyes have seen, all of these years. Now, at no point did I say EVERY female in the UK had an obsession with drink, reality TV, and dressing in shellsuits, but, from what I have seen with my own eyes, it IS a higher than average, compared to females in other nations.
Not really sure what is controversial about this. It would be like making the fair observation that, compared to other nations, we have one of the most terrible record for obesity. It's a medical fact!
Correct, I am not really looking at the 'material' aspects, and, don't get me wrong, of course there are many great women, here in the UK. But to deny that we have an ugly drink culture here, and all it's negatives, would be to deny what the official stats say. It would also be to deny what my eyes see. And, having lived in other nations, I see MUCH less of this, among their local people.
There is no harm in getting a few friends together, having some drink, some food, a good night.
However, for me, seeing a women in the street, staggering around, blind drunk, or at home, with her head down the toilet, well, it's hardly an attractive thing, is it?
I have lived and worked in Spain and the Canaries.
It soon becomes evident that two things are true;
1) The most likely to cause violence, are those from our Island.
2) The girls from this island have no respect for themselves, or their own safety. I often helped total strangers, female, too drunk to stand, into a taxi, and safely back to their hotel. Then I would go home.
As to the more material side, I definitely think that there are differences there too, from nation to nation.
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Can you ever be told/tell someone you love them too much?
Okay, let me put it another way. If someone, in the future, loved me enough, that they felt they wanted to say it quite a lot, I would be pretty cool with that.Better?
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