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She may have lost that loving feeling but when Paul Shane saw the re-run of this he must have got that sinking feeling, big time.



How can something seem like a good idea one minute and then, the next, make you want to curl up and die. It happens to me regularly. Most mornings when I wake up and consciousness slowly seeps into my head, the memory of some of the things I've posted on the forum, the night before, comes back to me and I feel like burying my head under the pillow. But then, I go and do it all over again. What's going on? Please tell me I'm not the only one locked into a cycle of self humiliation.

Success can be defined as the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. In simple words, one reaching their destination.

Accordingly, failure can be defined as the lack of accomplishment of a set aim or purpose or one not reaching their or set destination.

During this process, I found that keeping any set goals or purposes hidden or a secret does help not only reaching a destination faster but, avoiding sabotage from others who failed to reach their own destination, set purpose or aim.

In the end of the day, everyone has their own opinion or the so-called opinion.

Another hearing many differing opinions may lead to confusion.

The workings of the mind do come with intention and purpose in the expression of an opinion.

Not all express an opinion with good intentions or purpose.

It is up to another to discriminate between beneficial and not beneficial, healthy or unhealthy as in the discrimination between right or wrong.

Success as in the case of failure is a matter of choice and how it is defined by one may not be defined by another.

Failure for me is giving up, success is moving forward, marching towards a set aim or purpose, even it is just a small step.

Therefore, progress.

Progress can never be made through giving up marching towards a set aim or purpose, a destination.

Moving forward that is what success really is for me.

Progress and growth.

If there was growth from an experience, no matter how hard or difficult, unfortunate or negative then, there was never any failure.

Failure is the lack of progress and growth.

If another moved forward, even if this was a tiny little step then in reality, this was not failure but, success and a success.

Not reaching a destination but, marching towards a set aim or purpose or destination.

How do you define failure and success?.

Is this dependent on the external or internal?.

Does it regard money, a title or a position?.

Happy Wednesday, April the 11th.

Without trust there's no reason to continue! Not communicating for quite long say weeks together and for no valid reason,when u know the other one in search of new relationships (keeping Ur partner in the dark)..ain't fine. When confronted,saying Dear,am always there for you is unnerving! Isn't it better to move out from such relationship where you are sure,u r unwanted! Without guilt those behave! Saying I was here! Went no where! What r u saying! Huh! Such kinds are rare!

As you might see up there in the title there are some very meaningful and strong words that many of us just do not know their true value..... My life is a roller coaster. My relationship went in shambles and i decided to share some thoughts with you all ... peace

My personal relationship did not work out because i did not trust and did not take things to the next level. If someone's worth the extra effort try and go their way. By that i mean if you have an argument it is ok to give in and not to escalate things. YES it will mean telling them its your fault when deep down you know its not. Deep down your partner will know that they are wrong and will appreciate the extra effort you put into the relationship.

Never say goodbye! It is a really cruel word especially when you are having an argument ... Never go to sleep without talking things over.

Family is important but do not ever let your or her family be the reason to breakup. At the end of the day you would be living with the person and not with their family really. If you do not agree with how family regards your spouse it should not be the cause for breaking up.

Never ever compromise if your partner still meets the ex. If there are kids or real estate it is understandable that you might have to compromise but it does not mean that you should accept everything for e.g a social occasion .... That being said you know when you should trust the partner or not. Trust your gut instinct. It is ALWAYS right!

Honesty is also very important. Show them how much you really love them. It is useless keeping it to yourself out of pride.

Be Positive. Do what it takes to win the other person back. Do not play the proud human and let things fall off your grasp. That being said don't ever be a stalker ... be a gentleman!

Never cheat your partner! You will regret it later on. I was on the receiving end. Be careful that you were not the one to cause it! While nothing justifies affairs .... make sure you never motivate the affair to become a reality because clearly you must have been doing something wrong! And most probably that is why the partner went into rebound mode.

Show commitment, not only to the person but also to the relationship itself. Don't be overloaded with work all the time. You will just instigate thoughts in your partner's head who will in turn cast doubt on the outcome of the relationship.

Don't be cold with your partner who is trying to attempt to fix things between you two after an argument. Don't play proud... it will get you nowhere! You will regret it when someone that really loves you is gone for good..... you will only realise that when it's all too late ...........

Never try to replace your partner with someone else. Another date after a breakup will just resolve nothing! It will only make you feel worse because the person you left is in reality irreplaceable! Stop trying to find your ex in your new acquaintance .... it just won 't happen! And you will mourn your ex even more! Give yourself time!

Think about things! If the relationship is salvageable, then there is no reason not to give it another try! Give it as many tries as necessary. If you really love someone then you should not put a number of lives on the relationship before you say game over. That is just nonsense and will bring you nowhere in life! These days we live in a very busy life .... and there seems to be less and less tolerance between couples ....... Be there for each other and show love to each other.

A rebound 'date' will never make you happy... nor it will make you forget.... you will just feel more and more miserable.

Love is not only on Valentine's ...its for every day of your life. ..... Stop listening to others to forget your partner... especially your new acquaintance ...... Let nobody interfere with what you really want in life ..... Never give up

When 2018 started, I have vowed to pursue a less lazy life and try to be a more devoted woman who knows how to clean and cook.

Ive mastered the cleaning part when I was 6 and a master of it now. The cooking part however proves to be way more challenging than brushing the edges of the bathroom floor. So Ive pushed myself harder and in less than 3 months, I learned not to burn my fried spring rolls and sunny side ups.

I have a feeling though that I have to learn how to cook vareity of dishes to be able to satisfy my future husband. Or else, he'll have to suit himself in takeouts everynight for 3 years before he divorces me.

Good day CS!

If at any time in 2017 I have annoyed you
Pissed you off
Or offended you...
I'm sorry...
Happy New Year!!!

by nature we are shy,mean,cold,warm,weird,crazy,tough,kind,confused,
greedy,aggressive,confident,pettiful,cowards,naive,nervous
intelligent,selfish,proud,carefree sometimes the situation
forces us to be who are acting.
of recent some character tried to chat me up but I had him
one disturbing question poor me I got blocked hahahaha I
didn't mind his actions because he is one of a character that
never want to communicate ...
think he is so hard on himself and life at large though he lives
under pretence but he is stressed if only he communicates things could look way different .

something always buffles me as in how do people start
praising other countries and forget their own..

I do always move from countries to countries for certain reasons but
never do I at any time forget where I come from.
and its funny some chinese look alike faces calling her self an american or african as if the origin country is a curse to mention about...

I think confidence pride is all I call self love
I mean having your culture to praise is health other than praising a foreign
one just simply you want to fit in society and maybe you went to those
other countries for studies or marriage or born there and you now forgot
your origins....

I can't hurt myself to this I am seeing here or in the name of survival for fitness...
@selflove is everything because it comes naturally at no costs.

Ever get tired of the same old bullshit from people who could care less about you
and perhaps have no incentive to change or constantly depressed or sick of their
life and the choices they made?

Ever get tired of offering suggestions to help people who seem to embrace their misery?

Ever get tired of beating yourself up seeking approval from those you approve of
yet they just don't reciprocate?

Ever get tired of the drama of others?

Ever get tired of stupid mundane sometimes pointless forums or blogs seeing that most people
just have nothing else on their plate to offer?

Are we not tired of being surrounded and very much alone?

Tired of being tired? Thinking that sleeping it off will make it go away
only to find the pain is still there?

Its really sad indeed because no matter how polite we may act or the noble intentions to
offer some solace there is this void of apathy and it drains the energy from us.

People who are constantly depressed drain the energy of those who seemingly are doing fine.
Depression kills and destroys all that is good in anyone. Where does it come from why are people so miserable.
Why do we tend to attract the very thing we despise in others. Perhaps because those who are equally miserable
who do not want to face their issues attract others who do not want to face theirs. Hence they have something in common.

What is sad is having mental illness and depression or physical ailments and seeking others with similar
issues is not an ideal match.
If two are in darkness how can they see themselves to the light?
People in general have their good points and pitiful points and trying to focus on their good points and their potential of greatness is the best we can offer one another but if people only focus on how miserable they are
it actually repels the healing they seek.

I know I am not the sharpest pencil in the box or the brightest bulb but, its so disheartening to see the same old story of people we may care about watching them on a path of self destruction.
When it comes to the 3 kinds of people out there Perpetrators Victims and Rescuers its time to consider the real perpetrators people have such as fear, doubt, lack of confidence, emotional or physical illnesses, anger, hopelessness. These things in my opinion are the worse enemies we have and often sabotage our ambition to find friends and healthy relationships. As far as being a victim many have choices to be one to the perpetrators that rob us of life. Ah then the rescuer which claims they have overcome the perpetrator and profess they are no longer a victim.

How I hate despise this because those who claim they have overcome the role of victim of self made monsters their testimony is a reminder of we have the power to change. Yet how often do you give away that power to the victim and perpetrator?

So, in knowing who our friends really are it those three which are constant reminders of our perceive guilt because we can't measure up to one another.

A woman will always think the grass is greener elsewhere and will always consider their options.
A man may do the same but with a twist because deep down inside no matter how much people
profess they don't need anyone nor want anyone maybe they just gave up on everyone.

Yet they find their comfort zone in their sickness they won't tell you about. They won't tell you how alone they feel or how unhappy they are.
The mask we wear defines only how well we are able to hide our pain.
One day we will have to take off the mask and face our real selves our pain our regrets and declare our passions that we want to live and love and play to be happy and to be needed and wanted and be fruitful
and be human as God intended us to be.
Overall we will have to decide who are friends are and who we wish to let go or hold onto for the new year.

At birth we boarded the train of life and met our parents,
and we believe they will always travel on our side.


However, at some station
our parents will step down from the train,
leaving us on this journey alone.


As time goes by,
other people will board the train;
and they will be significant
i.e. our siblings, friends, children,
and even the love of your life.


Many will step down
and leave a permanent vacuum.


Others will go so unnoticed
that we don't realize
they vacated their seats.


This train ride will be full of joy,
sorrow, fantasy, expectations, ( mostly unrealistic)
hellos, goodbyes, and farewells.


Success of the ride consists of having a good relationship
with all passengers requiring that we give the best of ourselves.


The mystery to everyone is:
We do not know at which station
we ourselves will step down.


So, we must live in the best way,
to love, forgive, and offer the best of who we are.


It is important to do
this because when the time comes for us to step down
and leave our seat empty
we should leave behind beautiful memories
for those who will continue to travel on the train of life.

Unfortunately, carrying around the caboose of regrets, emotional baggage
and anger only just makes the journey that much more difficult


I wish you a joyful journey on the train of life.
Reap success and give lots of love.
More importantly, thank God for the journey.


Lastly, I thank whoever
for being one of the passengers on my train.


(By the way, I am not planning to get off the train anytime soon
but when and if I do, just remember I am glad for those of you who were part of my journey.)

It matters not how many passengers who board or disembark as much as the quality of passengers
who made a difference in our lives.