Shallow people

i didnt disappear if you read my 2nd message to you so i think i said to you that lets be friends and and every things will be ok ...and you would be well soon..

Salmiya,you told me i didnt want to chat to you because i couldnt chat to you on yahoo messenger,my messenger dont work,you didnt believe me,like i said i dont lie

ok but open yours IM here on this site so we can talk quickly ...

Hi calmheartseeks,i prefer to be honest from the start,Its been the same on all dating sites,I was talking to a guy for months before i told him about my cancer ,after telling him i never heard from him again,I soppose cancer does frighten some people

but i m not that person who will run away from you. i know you have cancer . and hope you will be well soon .

What a beautiful blog love :o)

aaa dasti, how are you, read your blog, sure dont worry about them if they are that shallow its great they show their colours now as apposed to later, stay as positive as you are, sending you lots of positive vibes and hugs from ireland

Amen afraidofthedark best to know now than later. True love true friends are there for the good and the bad. Sometimes it is not easy. But to play devil advocate some nice people really can not handle illness. It sends them shrieking away. That is how I ended up taking care of my parents when they were ill. My dependable sister found out sick old people scared the hades out of her. And then irresponsiable me had to woman up and do the job. Do not regret it to this day. Hope you keep the positive attitude. Thanks for sharing and best wishes.

be a strong Dasti, write these<friends>you know where...You have all life in front of you, you will be ok. Your friends maybe they dont know what is the meaning of friendship,

I am so sorry to read this and there is nothing wrong with telling people but this sort of thing may scare people not always because they are shallow but because they don't know what may happen in the future. I think better to start out as friends and let them get to know you first. But only you can decide. All the best!

Cancer scares the beejee's outta many people... try not to take it personally Dasti.

- Michael

I don't know the answer. I certainly don't speak for all men. However, personally, I would prefer to invest my heart with someone who is healthy and is more likely to be around long term.
I don't believe it is a matter of fear of catching it, as you suggested.
I do think you are doing the right thing in letting people know.
Perhaps you are best matched with a guy who has gone (or is going) through the same thing. That way, you can be great support for each other and have similar risks for remission. Either way, good luck to you !

Thank you all for the lovely reassuring comments

Cancer or not you are still beautiful,do not let anything deter you from doing what you want to do.Its good to be honest at the onset.I like your honesty.God bless & keep you safe dear.Love you

Hi Dasti, I understand what your going through. I had cancer last year. I just did my last treatment 3 weeks ago. It's weird the way it works, when I was on the treatment men would just run. Now that I'm not on it anymore they stick around and talk to me. I wish you the best with it though. I hope you don't get it again and the treatments help. You will be in my prayers. Much love Keel23

I have two friends of my age going through this - one has already been given the all clear, thank God, while the other still has an op to go through. Luckily, both have great supportive husbands - I understand you Dasti - when I went through a depressive period, I was always upfront about it whenever I met a potential partner, and yes, most would melt away. Most people, understandably enough maybe, are looking to start off a relationship with the least amount of problems possible. You know, they examine the goods and return to store if its shop soiled - I may be coming across as bitter, but am just realistic. Then there are others who are made of sterner stuff and restore your faith in human nature. But I still think that when we are going through health problems we'd better be realistic and stick to our old tried and trusted friends/family as a 'new entry' is less likely to want to start anything with us. God bless you and may you soon recover your health.

Hi Paloma66,Thank you for youre lovely comment

Hi Keel23,Thank you for youre comment,I hope you remain cancer free,I wish you all the very best

Hi Libra62,Thank you for youre lovely comment,I agree with youre comment

Hi Hunter501,Thank you for youre lovely comment ,Im sorry about youre sister,Ive always been honest and will stay that way no matter what,Yes there is some good treatment now,Im staying possitive and living my life to the full.

Hi IaHawk44,fantastic comment,Its nice to see a caring man,goodluck with youre new lady,i wish you both all the very best.

Hi llufir,Ive had that on lots of sites even before i got cancer,Just think their loss,keep searching

Wow so many beautiful people on here ^_^ Love ya sis x x x