WHY HAVE I NOT FOUND MY SOULMATE YET?

I’ve been on connecting singles dating site for quite awhile and ive gotten absolutely nothing
Ive redid my profile numerous times
But not sure if it’s my profile or there’s just no one on
Yes im on disability

Yes I smoke
But these 2 factors should not matter
What matters is a strong connection and undivided attention
Someone please let me know what if anything I am doing wrong
Any answer will be appreciated confused
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Are you contacting other members or are you waiting for them to contact you?

Start fresh - say as little about yourself as possible.
Don't mention the disability
Post new photos.
Change your username

Godfearing18 is a little over the top in my opinion
Don’t think I can change it
There is a website called meetup where single people will meet for example to go hiking one morning or meet at a bar in the evening. Then you will meet with say 20 people and talk as you do activities together. You are in Chicago so should be a lot of different activities.
The only guarantee about our lives is that they will end.
The fortunate deserve their fates no more than the most wretched and slighted among us.
Perhaps you are mated, fated to be alone.
Maybe you don't have a soul.
Maybe the notion that there is someone for everyone is sweet sounding poison.
Maybe, all the above and more, put more fear and pressure on the process than many people can stand.

If we lead with our fear and anxiety, we transmit that to others and they learn that they would rather not be around that and avoid the situation, conversation, etc.

If we lead with what makes us happy, energized, excited, we transmit that too and people look for that, to be around that.
Our passion for life can generate passion for our company.
Turn to and follow your own light.
NB!!! Meetup is a fantastic way to meet people with shared interests but it is NOT only for singles and NOT usually for dating unless specifically described that way. Most meetups are just a way to meet people. Singles who go along expecting to score, and worse, get angry when the person they hit on is in a relationship, are a pain in the butt.
There are several websites for Christians who feel strongly about meeting other Christians, as there are for every religion. CS is multi-cultural and apart from the occasional self-appointed preachers who bang on and on about their beliefs, avoided by serious religious types. I suppose you could find one of the religious blogs and start making comments and see if you find a kindred spirit. Not impossible.

Best advice, though, in your case I would change my church, if there are no younger women there, and find one with a lot more social activities. That is by FAR your best bet.to meet someone who shares your core beliefs. Ideally you'd meet them when you nip behind the hall for a cigarette, they'll be smoking there too
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One more thing, your pictures. You look like you are somewhere between angry and rage. Happy looking pictures are much more attractive than serious looking pictures. I don't like to smile either, I had to wrestle with my face to get the little bit I did on my current picture but happy is definitely more attractive.
To be honest, I did not look at his profile....I was just commenting on his profile name.

You have always been upfront Track..and, have worked on yourself physically and mentally.

And, I have always thought of you as one of the good guys here. But, most of all, you have always stood up for women and not had to appear as fitting in with the other guys.

I have always appreciated that from you.
There are worse things than sneaking a smoke or maybe drinking once in a while.

I know many religious people who can quote every Bible verse...and, some are the most mean-spirited people you could ever meet....
Put on another 100 lbs and grow a mohawk and wear suspenders. Appearance is 25 percent of magnetism.
Could your pictures be serious in a less intimidating way. You don't have to have a fear grin plastered across your face, look how nice I am please don't hurt me - you don't have to look like butter wouldn't melt. But what about staring off into the distance as though you were lost on some horizon? Admire the view from the top of a mountain, and get someone to take a picture of it. Don't even look at the camera or at most give a glance over your shoulder like you'd just noticed they were there.
No argument from me, I smoke smoking and firmly believe the most interesting people are often the ones hanging out by the bins rolling on the floor laughing

I was responding to the guy's post, although I notice he's changed into a girl now after comments about his photos. He's very religious. And I agree, there are some very mean-spirited dreary boring religious types about. Some are genuinely lovely people but probably would be anyway?
Answer some of your responses, heed some advise.

More importantly... forget about the 'soulmate' and focus on actually getting a date.
frustrated doh! forgot I was responding to a specific comment
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