i died for love

Very touchy, indeed. Is something for us men to think about. Thank you very much.

She didn't die for love, she died because she didn't get what she wanted. Sorry if that sounds harsh.

People only want something or someone because they think they will feel better in the having of it. No thing outside of us can make us happy...or make us sad. Nope, love had nothing to do with this one.

People have different view and opinion to ward love and to define love!

Personal love to do with individual feeling, not other people feeling or group people judging or opinion .

Sounds like it was just jealously and infatuation to me......also, I always get rather confused when people post poetry in the blog section, because there is a poetry section?

love is not worth dying for...love is worth living for...love is adjoined to us in many different wayz...and although one , two, three experiences provide us with no hope....there is many opportunities to see the hope....after the darkness is gone...take care...

Mr. Pitts, I know, then we could blame everyone else for how we feel. But even if we do try to blame everyone else, it causes us to be even worse off than if we take responsibility for our own emotions. Because at that point we give up all of our power to something outside of us. That is not a good place to be in.

I'd rather take full responsibility for my emotions and know I have all the power to change the way I feel in any situation. Simple but not easy. JMO

well Miss Venus I agree that we are the only ones that can truly make US happy, but I also think if the right person comes along they can make us want to be a better person, and make us happier than we could by ourselves.

Some people just have an energy about them, something that draws you in. I think the mixing of all the different energies can bring about a certain momentum for change, if that means helping change ourself so we can be better...then I think that contributes to our individual happiness.....

You are so beautiful...Both from the inside and outside...You write so well... possess something called "literary talent".

Miss Drea, I think people, all kinds of people, can inspire us to make changes that benefit us and those around us. But none of them make us better, or make us change. We decide to do it and we take the action necessary to transform.

Since everything on this plane is about the illusion of duality, the other side of the coin to being given credit for changing someone is you have to take the blame if they fail. No thanks, perfectly happy with the idea that people are responsible for all their own changes, happiness, and so forth.

I enjoy being a facilitator of that if it fits, but don't want a person to think I fill their cup. That's how codependent relationships work. Been there done that. Yuck!


I totally agree, Nite Star, you have a lot of talent. Sorry for not acknowledging that right off the bat!

“Oftentimes the loss of love may leave such a void in our hearts we want to die, but truly loving another is setting them free and wanting their happiness in everything.”

Calmheartseeks, your comments are always so insightful.. I like it. Yea, it is inappropriate to “die” for the love of one person. But sometimes you can’t help it.

I thought I had died several years ago. But recently I found that my heart is still jumping. Sometimes it jumps so quickly that I nearly can not breathe. I guess only I die can I be reborn.

Venus, I agree with you on some of your points. Yes, we decide to do it and we take the action. But sometimes I found that even though I took actions, I still could not get the results. And sometimes I do think it is because I take the actions first that leads these results.

nice poem.

Miss Venus-

Yes, I agree with you about duality and that we control our own happiness...I guess I was just thinking what helps us get to that point....and it seems to be that other people can be catalysts for our own inner growth

mjames-

You crack me up sometimes. Watch out though because officer easywriter is on the loose and will probably come and try to make a citizens arrest on you for leaving such a "rude" comment, considering when I told that other girl to learn to spell, I recieved a massive lecture on my callousness and rudeness. haha!

Anyway, I do agree with you to a certain extent....many times men feed off of the naivete of women..but it works both ways.

P.S. Nite Star; your profile shows a sensitive, caring and sweet person. Remember that you are a gift; not something that was created to be a mans toy for whatever they want to do. Your heart is a gift but you have to see it that way or others wont either.

If you are constantly being hurt, then the common denominator is you. You are choosing terrible guys. Dont' be fooled by sweet words or looks or money. Love takes time. Anyone can be there when everything is good, but who is there when things are bad.

You have to find out why you are choosing so poorly. Again, there are great guys out there but you have to be smart. Love takes time, and love is action. Dont' get overwhelmed by all the fun emotions of love. I hope you do great.

Oh, and by the way, Mr. Mjames, I happen to absolutely agree with you! I do think you "shoot from the hip" a bit harshly in some of your post comments (this and others), but in this case you give good advice.

I still think this writer has a lot of talent. Not sure if you were just critiquing this poem or the writer's abilities, so that may be the only point on which we do not agree.

Nite Star,

I just read your poem on your blog. This is my first time commenting on a blog. I must tell you... I met a man on this site, and he recently broke my heart... He met another woman on this site... Out of curiousity, I ran a search to see what the site had to offer to men in our area... In the results I seen you... I remembered your picture when I seen your blog. I have to tell you, when I seen your pic in my search results, I thought to myself, "she is so beautiful, what is she doing on a dating site. I can see how a woman like that could take a man..." I truly feel your heartbreak. The problem is not with us, it is with the men. You deserve better. You could have any man you want. Any man that leaves you, is crazy, and probably not a good person. there are a lot of men on here, that use women. He will eventually do the same thing to the woman he left you for, that is his game. And, she is NOT better than you. Don't let him make you feel that way. There is nothing that any woman can do that will make him be a better person. And, he is not ever going to find a woman better than you. HIS LOSS.