Friends or just temporary friends?
Some people are...well not funny.. Im starting to get real fed up with a few of my friends IRL..Somehow if one of my male friends meet someone...their all of a sudden not allowed to have any contact with me...At first i laughed at it, but now it´s annoying..
Im tired to be the one they call when it´s doesn´t work out with their girlfriends..Im not a threat for anyone.. So i really dont understand the behaviour..
I have a female friend who is exactly the same... she meet someone..they move toghether... get married... After the marriage she totally forgot about her friends.. When she´s in a divorce she calls and cry her heart out... She´s dont that a couple of times and nor of us old friends can be of any threat there... Whats is she scared of?? That we´re gonna hit on her husband? geez...
In the middle of the night a male friend called me...I haven´t been talking to him for over a year coz he wasn´t allowed to speak with me.. but now... I told him to get some new friends coz im tired of this silly behaviour..
Im so tired of being a friend on some of my freinds condition... Not all my friends are anything like that.. but a few...
So for all those who stay in touch with their friends NO MATTER WHAT.... That´s true friendship
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I'm sure, like you, you wish nothing but the best for friends and ex friends, but a friendship must be reciprocal or it starts to feel icky.
OOOPS... time to get to work....
good day friends.
Every time a "friend" had a blue with the wife or needed an excuse to get out, I was the the one they came running to. As a result, I became a tad unpopular with most of their spouses who seemed to assume I was leading their hubbies astray. In actual fact, I was just being used.
And off course when things were patched up in their relationships my phone hardly rang.
Come to think of it..... I'm still waiting for one of them to return a tent he borrowed off me 25 years ago.
Friendship has to be equal and when it isn't it's just not healthy.
You don't have to respond. When someone calls you that only calls when they need you, ignore them. Then weeks later give them an email saying you hope all is well.
Make people respect you or you will be a victim.
Relationships come and go, but true friends stay forever!
Now, if she called, in real trouble or if her husband died or something, I would be there in a heartbeat. I still love her, she is just not available for a friend relationship and I am unwilling to do that which does not bring me joy.