When your children Get Aggressive,what is your act
This is what usually some of my students parents ask..well,kids are kids because they are not grown up. It takes time for their physical and mental to mature. While they are growing, children will display the most unacceptable behavior such as biting, hitting or screaming. How do you think you can get help with such behavior?
if the aggressiveness is left not managed, children may believe that it is ok to continue to be aggressive. This explains why some children are well behaved at the age of 2 while others still unacceptably aggressive at the age of 8!
Here are some tips on how to manage aggressiveness in children:
Reduce Exposure to Violence
Take a while to ponder how did children pick up their aggressive behavior from? Chances are, they picked it up from a family member at home, the TV or from school. Whichever it could be, you must minimize the exposure of your children to this violence.Children are often good at imitating violence they learn by hitting, biting or screaming.
Set Limits and Take Immediate Action.
Now, what happens if you see your child display any of the aggressive behavior? Set rules immediately and have in mind what you need to do if the rules are broken. Which will work better – take a way privileges , time-out or grounding? How would you ground? Always remember to match disciplinary action according to bad behavior. What does this means? You wouldn’t want to merely make your 5 year old stand at time-out corner for a minute for biting his sister. You need to go further than that to make him understand that aggressive behavior are not permitted at home.
Instill Self Control,
Teach him how to express himself without being aggressive or violent.
Stop Your Spanking.
wish this was useful to most of you Parents.
Would you like to add some of solutions?
you are Welcome.
Comments (5)
Helpful for grandparents too. Too often people expect for someone else to train their children, such as school teachers, ministers and so on. But, the fact is good behavior and manners must be taught by a parent and at home.
Thank you for your blog!
When I was a child I was very sensitive especially after my father's death so the WAY I was told to do something made a huge difference in the way I would respond and whether I would cooperate or not. My sister on the other hand was not sensitive but she tended to act out so she would stand up to authority and become aggressive and she didn't care about the way the order was given.
My advice is that the most important thing is that you really try to get to know your child as an individual. What makes him or her tick. Try to really understand their character without being judgmental and from there try to determine the best approach in disciplining that child. What works for one may not work for another child.
wish the others will give us their comments too. :)
HOWEVER: irrespective of these variants, if the parent doesn't CARRY THROUGH with decided means of punishment, all becomes hypothetical . . . . and then
quite frankly, my dear . . . . .
you are BUSTED
Good Blog