Facebook friends with an ex bf? Is it Ok?

It seems to me that he is one of these man who are looking for new attractions but keep you still as their B Plan....
If he does not find another one ,he will try to come back to you...
I am not on facebook so I do not know its rules,
Can't you just block his profile?

Thanks Halanaka, I am confused, if i do block him he will think that I never appreciate and respect the relationship or memories that we had..

That's what I don't like about FB because you know what happens with somebody else's life.

I agree with Stillofthenight's idea, why not to remove him in your friend's list, close your eyes and ear and move ahead ...

Stillofthenight.. i think that would be great idea.. i just wana move on and forget everything about him..

Dear Prec...
Do it! Block and delete him!
If he still wants you to watch his new contacts,it means that he does not appreciate you!
Do not regret,
Finish it,
and let him think what he wants.

Precious, there is nothing wrong with removing him from your friends list. If he request's you again, just ingore it for now. If he asks you about it, simply say that you are not ready to handle his updates on his life. If he is any kind of gentleman, he will understand. Time heals and at some point, you may be okay with it. This happened to me with a woman I dated, after we broke up, she deleted me, but after 3-4 months, she added me back. No harm done. Do what feels right for you, not what he wants. It could be a control tactic on his part to keep an eye on you as well. Don't let him do it, control what you want, not what someone else wants. Good Luck!

thank you guys.. I just dont get why his friends or family think I'm a bad person to delete him..

thanks to all for the advice..

Prec...
It is the RIGHT thing to delate him.
It is obvious that you have already finished with him and you want to start something new.You cannot suffer just because somebody else around think that you should...something..or should not..something.
Delate and forget:)

if you ask me, i dont find it necessary to get fb friends in the beginning either. i was just dating some 3 months and we talked there is no sense to get fb friends, why should we. we foud it some kind of idiotic behavior when couples comments each other in the fb. why dont they discuss each other privat. do they have to show whole world their relationships ups and downs, i dont get it. in my fb there are a couple of that kind of couples...

so, now there is no problem, i, or she, dont have to block each other.

so, just block him, he is history, its the only kind of thinking we can go on. good luck to you.

Halanaka & bsooners: Thank you for all the encouraging messages and thoughts its better to forget and delete him, I should not mind about people sayings as I all I wanted is to be happy and find the right person who will love and respect me.. you made me smile guys thanks to all..

Dear Preciouslady, Regardless of what others tell you, it's still your life . If he is your " ex " then keep it that way . If it bothers you to have comunication with him then don't . if he objects then remind him of your current status and move on . If he can't accept that then it is his problem not yours . Sorry to say but you will never move on if you don't .

How can you move on if you are still link to him (i mean fb friend) How can you forget one people if you still see it or you keep checking his fb account. Maybe he created another account or his chatbox is always offline thatz why you cant see him Online. If you dont have feelings anymore w/ him, com'on DELETE in your friend list.

Preciouslady, Fb can cause a lot of problems regarding a relationship. Many things are visible there and there are many "traps", especially when there is no much trust in the couple. I've witnessed a lot of such problems...
On the other hand, Fb reveals a lot about the person. But if you aren't ready to know the truth about them, better not be FB friends.
I used to date a man and one day I saw he added again his ex-gf. I asked him why (I didn't mind it just was curious) and he answered that he had deleted her when they had broken up but since things between them got purely friendly he added her. Soon after that we broke up (he said his feelings had changed) and I suspect he used me to cheer up after her and that he went back to her.
Another example: A friend of mine met a man here. Then she added him on Fb and found out that there his status was "in a relationship" (and here he claimed to be single). She asked him was it an open relationship or what but he never replied...

Don't hurt yourself, don't cause this to yourself! Better delete him, you don't owe him any explanations or excuses!

Good luck!

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hi precious
u know what have to do.u already knew it before post ur blog.when we want to start something new ,we get rid of what holds us back.
we forget that fb is not the real word , so ,unfriending somebody ,for special reasons ,isnt the end of the virtual or real world.
u have only one choice. and u know its the b.est for u

I delited my FB profile, because it was totally useless! You should block this guy, at least... If you`re not friends in real life, then youre not friends on FB eighter... (just my thought about this)

You're just same with me now.
I still have him on my FB.
and feel hurt if he suddenly change his status into relationship.
watching his profile just makes me hurt.
I dont want to remove him.
but I dont want to check my FB.
its been long time I dont check my FB.
I avoid hurt.

boys ,girls and the others, if u feel so bad looking at ur ex recent news,why dont u delete erase block them ???? is there some kind of sick connection here??? i have all my ex on fb and dont get hurt by their updates,not by their new pretty pics.but i would delete and block their profiles in a minute if i had any problem with their new lives. i did it for one ,just not to disturb me.

Do u think by deleting him the problem is over? u urself hurt, if u want to avoid him why u should open his fb? if u think it is a must to know about him... blog him make a new one... life goes on!

Thanks guys I already deleted him, all of you got a point.. I just feel sad coz all his friend and family deleted me also in FB.. all of our connected friends are dissapointed but right now i feel much better and not looking around again this FB even to open it.. I closed the door, moving on and forget what had happened.. thanks everyone..cheers

You are a great woman and deserve only the best! Don't allow anyone to put you down! Good luck!
Celebrate your liberation

Thanks Jana for your lovely thoughts..

u did the right move girl.now ur life is ready to restart.good luck and hope u ll be happy

@precious, this may sound a little dastardly, but change your FB status to 'in a relationship' and have a friend of yours chit chat about the new man in your life. Then sit back and see what happens to him..it's nice to have some fun sometimes instead of living with the pain from a broken relationship. BOL

Hi Jana, how are you? I just read your post and have a different explanation. I have 'in a relationship' on my FB page, but I'm not seeing anyone (until I go to Latvia on Thursday) But my reason is I don't want people (women from High Schoo/College) trying to hook up with me. I know that sounds conceited, but it's not; it has happened before and makes me feel uncomfortable.

Hi Sands!
First of all, I am glad you Big Day is coming up! All the best!

Yes I understand your reasons and it's very nice of you to do so! But in the example I gave about my friend the things were opposite. The man was searching here for someone while having a girlfriend in reality... He was dull enough to add my friend on Fb or he just thought it was normal to have multiple relationships? Who knows...

Good luck to you and your lady!

got it, thanks for explaining, and thanks for wishing me luck...

If you really want to find a good guy, I would suggest joining a local church singles group, make some friends and if a man asks you out from that group, date him long enough to find out if he is really a "good guy".

Facebook, myspace, dating sites, ect usually are full of players and guys who are just looking for "fun"..Or are so unrealistic in their expecations of who they feel they deserve that they will be single and looking forever.

Dont waste your time talking to the ex..Obviously he is out having fun and he used you as well as probably other women.

Hes not worth the time feeling hurt over..

Sympathise. But best, not to go seeking on the rebound. Let him get on with his life, and try to get on with your own. Of course it hurts but you will get over it. Eventually! x

Hey preciouslady,
How are you? the kind of name you have given to yourself is really worth being so. If someone can not recognise the worth of you its better to forget him . Past is past . pl forget it and see a brighter future ahead . pl. see my profile and see if we are compatible.
txtc
Ashwin pal
delhi
Ashwini.pal2000@yahoo.com(facebook)