bridal price
Bridal Price exists in a lot of cultures aroundthe world. And the price of the bride depends on the
worth of the lady, if she is well educated or completed
her university studies and has a pretty good job, the price
is fairly expensive.
My late hubby and I were married in my country in
a simple western wedding ceremony. A few years later
we moved to Indonesia. Since I'm not Bataknese (my hubby's tribe, I had to go through several ritual or traditional parties
to be qualified as a Bataknese. First, I was adopted by
my mother-in-law's brother and my surname was changed to that
of my new adoptive father's name. Then came the preparation
for our traditional wedding - we had to go through this again
even though we had wedded back in my country. So the bride price
was talked about. After many hours of discussion between my
hubby's family and my new adoptive parents, a price was agreed on.
My price was 3,000,000 rupiahs - approximately $395USD. My hubby had to pay this amount so my adoptive parents can use it to put up our traditional wedding party....pretty neat and interesting tradition...
Now looking back on it, I can only smile to myself...
Wow, am I that cheap??? I have always thought of myself as being very expensive
I know that this does not apply to people from the Western world but if you are to go through what I went through, how much would you put your value on, ladies?
And to the men, how much do you think is the fair price if you were in this situation???
Comments (8)
3million rups is expensive???
So how much was yours?
I don't know really, I suppose enough to make her special day special.
oh god that could run into thousands, I'm feeling rather faint. I wonder if thats why they collaspe at weddings, cause of the price...
that ceremony... n how was rupiah in that time?
Did I have to pay for that because I had to be given
a Batak surname? I knew my late hubby told me he paid
that amount so it could be used for the traditional wedding
party....
Anyway, I went through the whole thing not knowing what was
going on, just followed like a blind person cos I didn't even
understand the language back then....
But I would admit that I quite enjoyed it cos it
was so different from the normal weddings that we
had back home.....
They probably collapse not because of the price, but what to
expected on their first night together....
once I had a padang's neigbour. He didn't have a job.. so his wife proposed her with only Rp.80.000. lets say for now its
7$USD.
But in my own culture ( Javanese) Man supposed to give the money no matter how much it is. If they want to make a wedding party, if the men not give enough the money for the wedding cost. so for the rest should be the bride's responsible.
and back again.. its up to them wether they want to make a party or not.