DIVORCE PARENTS AND CHILDREN

When a couple is divorced, either one will have the custody of their children. Would you "poison" your children's mind about your ex? Whatever happens, they are still the children of your ex. I'm always against divorced couples bad-mouthing and turning their children against their ex. Resulting in father/mother having less contact or none at all. Unless a parent has been abusive which could harm the children.

Anger aside, think of the children's feelings and emotions.
Most young children love their parents even when both parents are divorced. Parents should tackle this maturely and not use their children to hurt the other. It is unfair to all party and gain nothing except hurt.
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yes bad mouthing and making out the dad or mum to be a bad person happens a lot , and when the kids grow up they never seek out their mum or dad banana
Hi Virgo, yes bad mouthing is common. There are reasons for couple to divorce either good reasons or otherwise. There is no point sticking together when both are always quarreling or in other word so unhappy with each other.
As a teacher, I see how children and parents are affected emotionally.

Recently, a divorced father came to school and asked permission to see his son. He said he wanted to see his son, just for 5 minutes. He peeped into the classroom just to have a glimpse of his son. I think he did not want his son to see him. He came down from the classroom with tears in his eyes. So sad to see that. crying

Case 2: Fathers that have custody of the children , usually warned the school not to let mothers see their children. These fathers are afraid that the children's mothers will kidnap the children. What could the school do but to listen to the fathers. In case anything happened to the children, the school will be held responsible. There were divorced mothers who came to see their children without the fathers' knowledge. We let them see the children. Teachers are not robots without feelings.
Hi honey,
The children are the ones' who are victimized.
I've seen a case similar to yours in my school,
a father giving orders not to allow the mother
to see the children - 7th and 9th year old's.
And I went a bit further and asked the 9th
year old daughter about her feelings for her
mother and father. The kid loved both parents
so much but is totally torn in the middle cos
the father had been bad mouthing her mom to her...
Very sad.....
You know honey, sometimes I wonder why it is so difficult for parents to air out their differences and make up with each other again. I've never been in a situation like that. My parents were never divorced and I would never dream of going through that either. peace
ppl are strange .
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