The truth, the whole truth. And no buts.
Truth is: chances of meeting and mutually accept somebody locally is not the greatest. Happens, but is often not where we happen to be lucky.So we got the ones that live more than a 3h drive away (car, plane or spaceship).
Do you understand that one have to move then?
How early on should that be brought up...
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When two people are dating long distance and they are not yet seen each other in person, they must be willing to arrange a way to meet. And there, maybe, and surely they will know if the relationship is worth to continue. And have a talked about who should move where...
Shey, so you assume all is ready to move for love?
Are you? I thought you were gonna live in saudiarabia all your life.
I would REALLY like to hear of there is somebody who is not ready to relocate, and secondly do thay still expect to find somebody longdistance? If so, what u ready to do to help him/her settle in your erea?
How early to be boroght up....it depends on how its progressing & how open you are. Plus when feelings & the heart are involved....sooner is better than later.
are we sure we do it in the right order?
Do we sometimes waste time by being unrealistic-
but fail cos it have to be "perfect" u know...
What if we instead first finding out who is eager to move for love... then meet to find out if the chemestry is as promesing as it was on the phone.
How about letting the eagerness be a drivefactor?
and if i had a real love ,i will help him finding ways to settle in my area aswell...
NOTHING IMPOSSIBLE FOR LOVE ;
Every situation/relationship is very specific so I couldn't decide it apriori. Love would lead me in the best way
Its good to build chemistry, to get to know each other. But nothing beats one to one time in person. There's you see the whole package....the words, the person, the voice,
You can't also make promises you can't keep either....I mean say you're willing to relocate & change your mind. Life is unpredictable & works its way out...if its meant to be then it won't matter who moves.
1. me , mistravel ( hehehe ) just kidding u
2. im not a bit fed up , im happy woman ya
you always create interesting topics , i enjoined to read yrs
Parti, whatt? ok, yess ...
What to dooooo??????
This sounds great!
Yea in your case Parti its more a question of
a 3 hour flight with a cessna
It wasen't as bad said as meant
are we sure we do it in the right order?
Do we sometimes waste time by being unrealistic-"
I might live until I'm 100, I might be run over by a bus tomorrow.
Therefore "wasting time" is subjective. Is it waste of time to enjoy someone's company, whether online, or off? If I am run over by by a bus tomorrow, will I regret exchanging lovely emails with someone? How can I have a long term relationship in one day?
No friendship, or love is a waste of time.
To avoid seperation in a LDR, it will involve other seperations for one person from their loved ones. That's a big ask. Should we base this decision on instant chemistry alone? Instant face to face chemistry is important, but love can also grow, or die regardless of instant chemistry.
I'm quite happy about enjoying the journey. The destination, I cannot logically predict. Life is an all day, open ticket, not a pre-booked seat.
First part is more like a draining headache lol.. (okok exxaggerating)
as about high feelings.... i think that love and friendship shudnt know any bounds or distances
Oly. Hi.
I dont think there is one standard answer, but more about finding the right recipe to navigate through the obstacles that keeps you apart. Personally I would always give it my best shot and hope luck is at my side.
If your building falls down, why would you be surprised that you have used up precious resources for a result you didn't want?
Sometimes, we may start to build foundations in an inappropriate place, and we must take our resources elsewhere. Yes, we use a little of our resources investigating, but not as much if the finished structure collapses.
So, why don't we build solid foundations? Is it for instant shelter, foolishly disregarding long-term efficacy? Is it just easier to blame someone else for knocking our poorly built tower block over?
Jac, can u give an exsample or two.
I can't seem to follow your thoughts.
Foundation i heard.
Sure, it should be good before the building rises.
How do we do that? Is assuring relocation can be on the agenda one?
If neither one is willing to move... then I feel that it is not worth getting emotionaly involved...
This with long-distance/online relationships I feel is probably one of the most important questions...
Morg, your topic is very relevant to the site, great blog
I can't seem to follow your thoughts.
Foundation i heard.
Sure, it should be good before the building rises.
How do we do that? Is assuring relocation can be on the agenda one?"
I keep writing and then deleting stuff. I'm going to go away and think about this, rather than think aloud on your blog.
I'll get back to you when I think I can be a little more concise and coherent.
Perhaps talking is overrated, and bodylanguage and helping each other out on practical things underrated.
I alomst wrote a blog about that the other day btw.
I guess thay are getting to know each other verbally more and more pr day now (and lets hope thay will still like each other then
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and its just nice to think together
Instead of sitting with the cup of tea apposite each other we do it through the screen for now. Feel unrestricted.
Its about not wasting time AND emotions.
Actually also about keeping a good flow, and make the results happen while your on it. Cos later you might be starting to give up in some way or another. fatiguee.
So better keep this:
then this:
cos you'll end up like this:
Find out what's realistic early on.
It can be a motivational factor if it seems doable.