Reasons for having children
I was engaged in a discussion, a long one, about the motivation people have for having kids. I argued that for the vast majority of people, and wrongly, having children was a decision determined by invariably selfish reasons - carry on the family name, "I could teach them so much," "We've always wanted a family," "They bring you so much joy," "You haven't felt love until you have had a child,"......etcI understand the very primitive, biological drive (selfish gene)that resides within us, but haven't we progressed past this simple evolutionary urge where we can have children for far more noble reasons?
What are the right, "unselfish", reasons for having children, or aren't there any and we should just reproduce because that's our nature.
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we have not progressed beyond the primitive.
you want an unselfish reason to have children?
how about to provide another generation of people?
is that not reason enough?
Once upon a time marriage was still mostly a contract for a man to own a woman. But we're on the brink of a new era where it is also a contract for a man to own a man or a woman to own a woman.
kids these days...
Almost all parents want to see in their children replicas of themselves, but magnified to more greatness, obviously! More educated, better groomed, more sporty, more wealthy, more....more...more
This stops when the child matures & starts thinking for him/her self!
On the opposite side of the coin - every child thinks their friend's parents are better that their own and secretly hope their folks were so!
This time I am not going to amuse anyone
Interesting topic
This afternoon, I was having a chat with my friend, she's married with a child. I knew her story when she first met her now husband until their son was born and is growing up at present. It turned out that they truly love one to another and their son is the living proof of their union of love and she added after she delivered her son, she felt that she's having stronger feeling of love bond to her husband. Children are expected to be their parents' love binder (believe it or not, my parents gave me a name something like that to bind their marriage until death do them part which was true for them). I hope it does make sense. I don't know if you are familiar with Indonesian saying but probably you have heard of "buah cinta" or "buah kasih" (fruit of love) which refers to children in a family
Having children to bring you closer to your spouse or somehow cement a relationship, or as a testament of your love, just reinforces my belief the majority of people have children for the wrong, and often selfish reasons - that's not to say the child won't be loved by these parents.
I suppose I just think a lot more people should give a lot more thought as to why they are having children, these decisions often being made on a whim.
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