Require of your man to man-up

If you don’t require of your man to help out financially and physically in the house, make sure that the doors are locked and the property is secure before you go to bed then you will have to start taking his place. If you don’t ensure that the kitchen cupboards are set for the month, the refrigerator is filled, the laundry is done and your house is clean, it would mean that another woman (the domestic helper) will have to do it. Please accept that I have nothing against anyone who has a helper at home. This in turn means that if you have a son at home, he also will not man up and do the things that the man of the house is supposed to be doing. It just means you are putting another woman at risk of having a lazy husband who knows not what is required of him. We set the tone of the relationship. I won’t even go into the physical abuse, because that happens if you do not set the tone and pace of your relationship.

We give our power away when we decide that we will accept just any kind of treatment from the men in our lives. If he cusses you out in public, how could you expect any other man to treat you differently? If he doesn’t provide for your family and you don’t hold him accountable for it, how would you ever survive and feel like a caregiver.

I’m all for feminism and woman’s liberation, but I have to say that if you don’t know your standards and value and ensure that the man you are with respects you for it, then you will be trampled upon. If you do not take care of home like you should, how do you expect of him to want to do the same? Our sensitivity and beauty does not allow us to sit spend the money with our boyfriends and husbands on unnecessary things and not care about what is going on in our homes. We have to understand that the home comes first, for if that is second priority to anything, it would simply be a house.

We are stronger then men could ever imagine, but we are also more fragile than we think we are. We are beautiful inside and out, but we take for granted that beauty needs to be nurtured. The saying goes ‘every no good woman was made by a no good man’. I disagree with this statement because mine reads ‘every no good woman was made by not expecting of her man to man-up’.

Ladies require of your man to be a man. Do not settle for less than that.