HALF-FULL OR HALF-EMPTY

Romance never goes out of fashion. It's one of the most desired things among women. We love the idea of hearing “I love you”. Watching soapies, romantic movies and reading romance novels, we desire for our partners to say the words we read. I’m a hopeless romantic myself; however age gives us a different perspective on life, one that can only be gained by experience. Wisdom, such an infinite word, is never ending and encompasses a lot of things.

One of my ex-boyfriends told me that I completed him. I was thrilled and flattered to say the least. Until recently I though I was “die mommy”. I only now realized how unfair that is to anyone. The responsibility of completing anyone scares me. This to me simply means that you come with a glass half-full or half-empty.

I’d rather want to complement someone. Complementing means that which you lack, I have. It also means to me, that the person knows themselves and has made peace with what is, but is also working to improve on shortcomings. My niece always says that “hout en kole maak vuur”. So if two people, who are looking for someone to complete them, get to meet, that would make them “kole en kole” or “hout en hout”. We all know that a fire made only of wood doesn’t last as long as the one with coal and wood.

The law of attraction says opposites attract, right? So how is it that needy people attract each other? I reckon that if we both came with 100% of ourselves there would be no need for “completing” but rather for “complementing”.

I want you to consider this: “Do you want only a 50% person or a 100% person? Many a time people say it’s a 50/50 deal, but I beg to differ. In a 50/50 relationship the partners are so dependent on each other. Seemingly the one cannot function without the other. However in a 100/100 relationship, people are interdependent. This simply means that you “prefer” each other rather than functioning on “need” to have the other person.

So tell me is the glass half-full or half-empty? Choose before you decide to go into a relationship of desperation and don’t sell yourself short.