Internet Infidelities

A few years ago, a close friend with whom I spoke regularly, told me he had begun to use the Internet to get into some forums and mainly to chat . He said he began to have relations with women, some quite close but harmless.

I remember on that occasion I asked him a question:

- "Do you love your partner?"

- "Of course" he replied.

- "In this case stops to chat, I recommended."

- “With this there is no problem."

So, I kept asking:

- "How about if your partner starts to flirt with the neighbor from the window of your room?"

- "I dread to think," he replied.

We speak:

- "What if you had your cyber conversations personally to the office mate?"
- "Not the same," he replied.

I recommended that if he really loved his partner and didn’t want to expose to destroy their relationship, it was prudent to stop chatting.

After a while we talked.

- "Still hooked to the internet?"

- "No, you were right, I had to cut, there was one that asked for my phone, she called home and to the office, and was willing to meet me in the city. Never again. Also I know other friends who have not cut in time.”

Then it was an isolated case, but today is a fashion spread widely. Not long ago we read the headline "Internet Infidelities become a new reason for separation." These are real cases, like my friend, people begin to fellowship in an intimate way with their "friends" online. In some countries this practice has become the leading cause of divorce.

Statistics show that many people log on daily to forums, chats, online communities. These people very quickly get long lists of friends. The process is very fast, in less than three months you can get a big number of friends that you will eventually write e-mails on a daily basis. The problem appears when the person starts to become infatuated with one of their friends online. "I stayed up later at work to talk to him. He said wonderful things. Then I phoned him and it was amazing what he made me feel" this is the explanation of a young executive who now, after separating from her couple lives with "his friend on line."

Different sociological studies, show that the initial anonymity fact brings a great deal of security. The relationship is initiated in complete anonymity, so the ciberaffaire, unlike the physical adultery passes totally unnoticed. Another element that sets out the studies is the clear relationship between s*xual or romantic relationships online and divorce.

As in the case of my friend, many are in danger at home, of course in these cases the problem is not the Internet although it is logical that actions some people would never commit to daylight can carry out easily hidden behind the anonymity of the Web. I think these actions are not so sincere and its reiteration, initially innocent, helps lose the fear and come so far where you never wanted to.

It’s nice to have friends and share time with them but maybe is so much better to keep them in real life, since if you are in a serious relationship and you love and value your partner, respect and trust has to be mutual and is a good idea to stop destructive behaviors.