How should we live?
Why do we ask this question, and what does it imply? It implies, doesn’t it, that we are looking for rules, for some kind of ideology or moral code by which to live our lives? Seeing the prevalence of misery and chaos in the world, and experiencing pain and sorrow in our own lives, we ask if there are rules we can follow that will set the world to rights or at least bring some improvement.What is implied in living by rules? It implies conforming to an idea, doesn’t it? But ideas do not equip us for meeting and understanding life. On the contrary, they limit us because ideas are only conceptual structures, collections of symbols on a page. Once formulated they are fixed, although we may debate their interpretation. Life, by contrast, is constantly changing, endlessly subtle and complex. So to meet life with ideas is to do it an injustice; it is to impose a narrow formula on an infinite field.
Why do we want to live by rules? Is it because we feel compassion and want to make the world a better place? If so, compassion itself will guide our actions; we do not need rules to muddy the waters. Or do we want rules because we are afraid of disorder, afraid of having no path or guide? If so, inventing a path won’t solve this problem; on the contrary, it can only compound our confusion.
This is not to suggest that we should not have guidelines, which can be useful for reminding us of life’s essential truths. The dictum ‘Do unto others...’, for example, reminds us of the value of empathy and consideration. But if we follow it out of a desire to be morally righteous or spiritually safe, the hypocrisy of our actions will ultimately lead to conflict.
Rather than asking how we should live, let us consider how we are living now. If we can understand why we live as we do, that very understanding may free us to live intelligently and harmoniously.
At present, most of us are primarily concerned with fulfilling our personal needs and desires, tempered perhaps with concern for the needs of our immediate families and friends. We have fixed opinions, rigid convictions, non-negotiable beliefs; we identify ourselves with nations, religions, ethnic groups and ideologies; we are acquisitive and ambitious; we are, if we are really honest with ourselves, deeply insecure. None of this is conducive to collective or even individual well-being; on the contrary, it is a recipe for unhappiness and violence.
Condemning self-concern has no value; you only condemn what you do not understand. What has value is to understand the roots and causes of self-concern. These lie in the fact that we have been conditioned from birth to experience life as separate selves, isolated in our own private worlds of pain and pleasure, comfort and strife. This sense of separateness may be partly innate, but it is reinforced by our culture and conditioning. The simple act of being given a name reinforces the belief that we are separate. Assigning names to everything around us and acquiring a conceptual view of the world compounds the illusion of separateness to the point where we accept it as ‘the way things are’.
It is the feeling of separateness that causes our chronic sense of insecurity and insufficiency – discomforts we try to allay by acquiring property, status, beliefs and so forth. But acquisition does not bring fulfilment or security; on the contrary, it only reinforces the feeling of being separate.
We can be free of the sense of separateness only when we understand the psychological processes from which it arises. This doesn’t require a university degree, but it does require a willingness to reappraise the way we are living now and to examine the processes of our thinking in our everyday lives. Only by inquiring honestly – which implies putting aside all our beliefs and assumptions – can we discover the limitations of thought and end the illusion of the self.
Those that read this in its entirety, will understand fully what i have meant.
Comments (32)
I did add the last line thinking/knowing that you may indeed comment on its length.
I guess Parti my friend, i have written this so as to show that sometimes i can be serious and to appease those that lurk around the blogs complaining about the so called content.
I say this to you most sincerely, Although i do not know you, i am falling so in love with you.
You have exactly understood all that i wrote,
I thank you for your most kind words, but i have reflected on this blog all day after reading those that were here and are no longer available to be read.
May you haver a great day and i hope the sun shines brightly for you wherever you may go.
My apologies.......
I didnt mean to bore anyone with this blog.
The next one will have the laughs back.
Instincts still play an important part in our daily life. For some more then for others.
I think most - if not all- humans want the same thing in life. The difference is the tactics we use to reach that ultimate goal. We make choices for supporting one group or another because we think they will get us to our destination faster. But because of the opposite groups. We get slowed down and sometimes even get pushed further away from our goals.
I'm not new to the forums , but i am new to the blogs , and i hope people will get to know me over time . i'm a gentle polite lady , not confrontational in any way , so my posts may be abit bland for some
But i am enjoying the blogs so far , and thankyou again Simmo --you are a gentleman !
I hear what you are saying,
There are two other examples as well, Those that wish to lead their lives with honour, Diligence, Respect and Love that do not wish to be on either team/group.
Then there are those that i feel most sorrow for, The ones who jump back and forth from one team/group to the next and have a high self opinion of themselves, when in all reality, neither team/group wants them and only treats them with contempt, yet they do not realise that they are in fact just a pawn in a game of chess.
I thank you for your kind words, However you call me what many here may disagree with you.
to the blogs, and please do not let anyone here stop you from posting what ever it is you wish to post.
Most here are fun,Good and polite, i am hopeful that you will enjoy your stay here at the blogs.
Although i am not overly religious or maybe not religious at all, i will say
"AMEN" to what you have said.
and i stand by what i said --you are a gentleman !
Thankyou also for your advice re the blogs
Must go and have my breakfast now --chat again later
Tis lovely to see you here.
I am with you, we are condition from a young age to be able to formulate how we should lead our lives, and if taught correctly we also should understand that we can learn new and important things daily and from any person no matter their age.
I remember saying to a friend of mine when i was raising my 3 children alone, I have taught them and they understand what is RIGHT and what is WRONG, and i have also encouraged them to make their own decisions.
I can only hope that they make the RIGHT ones.
It seems that people in life sometimes forget the RIGHT from WRONG and take a path towards self destruction.
I can assure you that the people that Teddy and i speak of do not have the intelligence for that.
If their brain was dynamite, they wouldnt have enough to blow their nose.
So as you can see, it is not you that we have categorised with our comments.... or have we.....
Most definitely not....
Enjoy your breaky and i do look forward to reading more from you on the blogs.
There is a difference between being light hearted as you are on most occasions and jumping around all over the place cause someone says something nice to you today and then says something else the next day....
Or it just might have been Thunder and Lightning followed by a splash of rain.........
Nice Blog Dude, The Pulpit suits you.
Personally I have always thought Conformists to be lazy Thinkers and Non Conformists to be The rebels of change.
Most of my time is spent on the sitting on the fence between both.
I consider myself to be a Lazy rebel
The ( destructive ) Evil Wievil . . .
The Lazy Rebel it is for you....
Me in a Pulpit......Mate you got to get me into a church first... And Unless i'm attending someone's funeral, i cant see myself in a church anytime soon.
Thanks for dropping by,
I guess the old saying...."Rules are mad to be broken" rings true then.....
I see why you would say that, but i did ask why we would need rules.
They may add to all the uncertainties of how we choose to lead our lives.
Nonetheless, "rules" used as guidelines may be more beneficial.