Do black people make bad parents?
I don’t normally use London buses. I don’t have to because I have more than one car to use, but one of the businesses I own is located in a part of London where parking is almost impossible. So I tend to park a couple of miles away and jump on a bus.This part of London has historically been pretty ‘black’, all due to a lot of immigration in the 1950s and 60s. There were a lot of problems back in the 1980s, but recently a whole load of money has been poured into the area, young (white) professional couples have moved in, the bars and coffee shops have sprung up, property prices have soared and the whole area has become more ‘gentrified’.
Obviously most of the people from the past still remain, so now there is a complete mix of ethnic backgrounds and cultures and in the main everyone rubs along pretty well. However as a keen observer of human behaviour, my bus trips have led me to wonder about the parenting qualities of many of the black mothers I see. To me they appear completely ‘un motherly’, almost rough with their children and not at all attentive. In contrast the white mothers are often talking to their children, pointing out things from the window and generally giving an impression of being far more attentive.
As far as dads are concerned, I think it’s pretty well known that many black guys seem to father children by various women and then depart the scene. Which fairly well speaks for itself.
It’s a (sad) statistical fact that in the UK today, a young black guy has a higher chance of going to prison than going to university.
So all in all it makes we wonder if black people generally make not so good parents, or if the views of the left leaning, hand wringing liberal folk are correct and it’s all to do with relative poverty and lack of good role models.
By the way, I am not bothered about any accusations of racism. This is purely based on my observation and is in no way intended to be racist.
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I worked with a Ghanaian and she would only talk to her daughter with her back turned as if the child didn't warrant any respect.
My friend has just heard that her Malawian partner of 9yrs has been unfaithful. He has a child in Africa who wanted to come back to England to visit him but he doesn't want her here.
Another friend had a black African friend who had many children from different relationships and said he wants no contact from them until they are 18yrs old.
I know a professional woman who married a black African, had a child and her husband wouldn't work. He stayed for a few months then disappeared off the face of the Earth.
I have knowledge of only one more black parent. He was seeing my mother for years and wouldn't leave his wife and child to be with my mum. He always used his daughter as his reason for staying in his marriage. Were there other women he was seeing??
You are right. My mother's lover was brought up in England and obviously had a close bond to his daughters'
Some countries are very proud and also can be very cruel parents.
FGM is now being talked about here again. How can a parent stand by and watch that?
what corners you about black people?
what they do and don't do isn't your business. You should focus on your ethnic group and leave us alone
I hate it when people generalise
Every ethnic group has good and bad people
You can't tell me that Caucasians don't go to prison
You lack respect dude
I can only talk about my experience being a father of two dauthers
that I love very much. Thay are now young ladys.
When thay were young our house was always full with their friends from school some times the friends stayed and have dinner with us and some times thay would stay a week-end with us,
After my divorce there was a big fight, But in time both of us learned to put our fight aside. My dauthers have the keys to to my apartment, thay come and go when ever thay want to.
Some times thay my dauthers would saty for only one day or a week-end ,some times a month or longer, In this time we make a garden we go shoping in Amsterdam ,we go fishing, we go to a art gallery to a live performance of the ballet,a Jazz festival, a concert from BACH showing them how to make a Pasta, Listening to them about what kind of books thay like to read ,meeting there friends,telling one another storys before bed time, having picnik on the beach, telling them about cricket sailing the wide open sea. and alot more,
Now I have two sons in law and the Ice man my grand son I love all of them. As for living on welfare I am a Machine Opertor in my free time I help out on the farm as Cook Gardener and bar keeper.
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You truly sound like a good father and it's nice to read your comments.
My parents were white and sadly, I couldn't say the same about them.
Guy
So who's right and who's wrong?
Your broad statement about black people is what is upsetting...your observations maybe true but the does not reflect the entire population...perhaps you want a reaction?...however, that being said...cultural and socio-economics may play a role...as far as prison is concerned...many are faced with discrimination and get longer prison sentences in regards to the crimes committed...many blacks lack the opportunity for higher education and the cycle of poverty perpetuates...so instead of looking at an observational point of view...understand the reasons why...just a thought...
Lets not kid each other...Do blacks make bad parents?...is screaming of getting a reaction...your stats?...why do you not cite where you got your info from...observations alone are not good enough in my opinion...