Damaged Goods....
Some people are so damaged by previous relationships...I don't think they should date until they "heal themselves" or get some counseling or something.....Some people are too fragile to be hurt and consequently never recover yet think they can by dating again.....Heal yourselves......Find a new path...date different kinds of people....don't wallow in self pity the rest of your lives....If you can't be pro-active in your own mental health....you cannot have a healthy relationship....
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The really damaged people are easy enough to spot, what I do find a shame is people giving up on love after bad experiences. I can understand someone being cautious, but not even giving some things a chance is sad.
Hi Angel .. How you doing?
Now that! You are in my life...............
your my new hero
This quote from Rumi is also one of my favourites.
Most of people I have met on CS so far have been in this "damaged goods" category.
Men who have shown some interest in me and I was also interested in meeting, they turned out to be still living in the past and still feeling a lot of anger and resentment for their ex.
I have also noticed that some seem to take some pride in writing in their profile "just recovering from a relationship"!
Are they looking for some "rescuers"? Because this is what they will attract.
Anyway Callio, I prefer to stick to my horses and dogs are they are the most loyal and do not let me down.
They might also have their past traumas, but they do not download them onto others and are willing to give you some genuine unconditional love..
Special thank you, Minerva for your thoughtful comment. I am lucky to have had a spiritual teacher who has made me draw out the very essence of the things that made me not healthy. ( I called it spiritual slice and dice, lol) and I have thought and prayed a lot. No one knows themselves better than themselves...most people tend to ignore the flaws within without eliminating them. Self improvement comes from within and one must first acknowledge they have a problem, work diligently to improve themselves.....first we must have peace to do that.
For those people "damaged" by a previous relationship a new relationship can in some instances heal the wounds by helping the damaged person move on with their lives aided by the love and affection of someone else.
For those that mope for years under the illusion of "self healing" wallow in self pity at the hurt they have felt which then can build into a situation whereby they are no longer able to let go of the past thus taking their woes into any new relationship.
Calli... I would say to you being a horse person... If you fall off the horse the best remedy is to immediately get back on again otherwise your fear of falling will haunt you to the point you may never ride again!.... Right or wrong?