Engagement Ring, Wedding Ring and Gifts.
What do you do with them after a divorce or break up?I went through my messy closet over the weekend and found some gifts from my ex-hubby that reminded me of many good memories. I found some unused perfumes, some jewelries, clothes and bags but I couldn't find my wedding ring. I know I stashed it somewhere but can't seem to find it. I used to wear it even after the divorce, finally took them off after many months of dating someone else. I'm thinking of keeping it for my son, after all it's from his dad.
I have a "break up and make up" relationship with someone. The first time I broke up with him, except for the clothes and underwears that I already wore, I brought the rest of gifts he gave me over to his place to return to him. I returned it thinking and feeling that it was the right thing to do but he took it as something spiteful.
Maybe it's the way I broke up with him that time.We had a date, he asked me to go over his place for a special dinner, I said OK but with an intention of ending things. I found him busy cooking duck ( that I never like to eat! ) in the kitchen and making special cocktails. I waited for the right moment to break it to him.
I even helped prepare the salad and set the table . I was having hard time swallowing the food, explained to him that I never like to eat duck when he asked if it tasted good or not. It was my first duck dinner
After we cleaned up the table, I finally found the courage to say goodbye and gave him back those gifts. It took him by surprise, told me I can't break up with a man who just went to a great length to cook good dinner and fed me!
Anyway I took those gifts back after a week later when we made up
He told me that next time I feel like getting rid of his gifts, I should just throw them or give them away...not throw them back to him. He said he gave them to me so they belong to me
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My son seems interested in some of the gifts that my bf gave me too. I found some of the CDs he gave me with my name on it..and my son wrote his name over my name
he also took one of the perfume yesterday and a silver necklace. I will steal the necklace back before he loses it
Yes, I agree. It would be good to pass on to your kids and grand children those gifts and memento. I keep all photos and cards too and never get rid any of those little gifts that reminds me of the fun days.
well it happened...sometimes I act without thinking
I was guilty, what else can I say?
Saddest? why is that?
it's OK to be emotional and sensitive...just not all the time
True
I know your humor too...so you can tease me, taunt me...any way you want
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Ahhhhh CC...
I know your humor too...so you can tease me, taunt me...any way you want
Ch it reminds me of lyrics of a song.
Bend me shape me anyway you want to.
Is this the one?
I can easily move on..delete and destroy...am I cold ?...I don't need items to remind of good and bad times..
Although I do have a nice bum photo of a certain person..
To keep this comment on more of the family orient side, I will not get into great detail.
Being single, with some extra money from selling the gifts...you could buy yourself some adult toys.
Despite some of the less than mature comments...
I say chose your sentimental things and get rid of some that remind you negatively...any bad feeling you have towards your ex...light a candle and meditate...
Or next time just put them in with Johnny Junk!...
You have to let go and move on, the past is the past and there is nothing you can do now, mistakes are mad.
Make the break final, it has no future and a very little past. Do something before you waste your life on...only if !
Even if you get rid of him, you'll never ever forget him...half of your daughter is him
My ex-hubby told me that every time he looks at Yazan he thinks of me...Yazan looks more like me
Yes, you are cold....it would need more than just a bum photo to warm you up
I actually I found one adult toy and it has a name! I never dated it, I stashed it in one of my suitcase the day I received it for fear that someone will see it. It's the most outrageous gift he ever gave me, he bought it from UK and brought it all the way here. My face was bright red that day he gave me the present. I'm planning to have a date with it sometime soon
That's my trouble...I can't seem to let go of every memory
But I'm trying, really am
Hope all is well with you there
return the rings? then what? maybe they should just sell them if they don't care to keep it?
for other gifts, specially clothing, of course we can't return them and I feel bad getting rid of them or giving them away
Yes, it's a give and take so no sense in returning them to each other...that would be very silly.
If the break up is really bad and most of the memories are unhappy then maybe we should just get rid of them
Well, how have you been ?
I was thinking of that but how much will Johnny pay me for them?