What you haven't had you don't miss....
...and there is the problem.I dislike the term..Soulmate..because so many Soulmates have split up. So I don't know what you would call a relationship where you could spend 24/7 with that person. But one such person for me was with my ex back in the UK from 2008 to 2013. I could spend all day everyday with her and vice versa.
The love for her I had never experienced before ever..and although 2 years on from our split, many dates and GF later..yes I've had a few in 2 years..I cannot find a similar experience.
What I have discovered coming away from such an experience is I am a much better person,well i think so, but I am also quite numb. By that I mean as much as I enjoy time with some of these women, they are cute, sweet sexy, good sex blah blah blah. for me its easy come easy go.
And I don't like felling like that as most of these girls I end up hurting by saying good bye, which I dont like to do. Of course if you don't date, don't experience them in the ways a couple should do then of course you will not get to know them deeper.
I never compare as everyone has their different qualities. But I tend to feel sorry for some of these women as I know they want a good man in their life, and i end up feeling guilty that I can't give them what they want..of feel what I want.
You can be damaged in a bad relationships..by mine wasn't bad, but yet i feel maybe i'm damaged..
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I think at our age it gets harder...or maybe we just don't want to commit...
Obvious question - no way back to her, is it gone beyond repair?
A " sense of belonging" has become a deep meaning for me..
because we may love someone doesn't guarantee we feel we belong with/to them....
So nope Ian your not damaged....
your just missing your sense of belonging
Ps, you can be damaged in a good relationship too
I would cherish present and my future.
I have to move on for my luck.
Those who thought they were, do.