If I am soo wonderful, why am I still alone?
Hello dear fellas, sisters, brothers...people!We are all here to pursue our goals on this site.
Some are here to get a quick fix, hit and run..
Some are here genuinely looking for the RIGHT person, MR/Ms Right, not Right Now :)))
So for those man and women who are lost and restless, lost their hopes and got tired and mixed up with their emotions and simply do not know what to do next, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You have to educate yourself in this quite complex field or to say clear out some debris on your path to find your suitable partner. I am just like you on this site, hoping to get lucky and meet the RIGHT person. After my last flyn bailed out on me after 8 months of brain, soul and heart penetration, I was heart broken, restless, disillusioned, angry, and lost. And I am a very attractive young and as you can tell intelligent woman, who is self confident , has her life under control, but still I was looking for help and understanding. Looking for my answers I went looking online for self help literature and found absolutely PRICELESS book, written by a wonderful psychologist from CA, Susan Page, "If I am so wonderful, why am I still alone?"
I have to say it is equally a great tool for both, man and women which will help you to see your situation clearly, make your head straight, mend your heart even! Go to Amazon.com, find it and you can have it in no time for something like $8...
I am not promoting here for nothing. I vouch for this piece of mind you can obtain only because it helped me to set up my priorities, have a clear vision of who/what I want in terms of the relationship, and made me a much happier person now by mending my broken heart.
I sincerely wish you all to find your love/friend in your lives, may it be here or in real life.
Yours trully,
Sunrise
Comments (20)
Cheers!
I think I like that.....
Don't you think it is wrong to look for your happiness coming from outside? Why do some people say "I am only going to be happy when I find a right person!" You know what Buddha said? There is no way to happiness, HAPPINESS is the way! We need to re-train our consciousness and start from ourselves. Wake up in the morning and say: "I am happy, I am alive!" Then smile at yourself and carry this inner smile with you through out your day. You will notice that people will start getting attracted to you because your energy field will change from like a grumpy bear with tones of shields over his /her skin to a plush and cuddly teddy bear's energy:) People will start noticing that, and we all know it. Start with LOVE towards yourself! Then give your love by being kind and polite SINCERELY with the others.
I have been through 3 serious surgeries in my life, been there and gotten back! I know what it is like out there, I had to learn how to function twice as a normal human, and now I am 100% healthy! I saw death and I swear, there is nothing out there but YOU. YOU are your own GOD and it is in your power to be happy here, now. Destiny may combine 2 happy people in a union where they get an intoxicating feeling called LOVE.
Now I can envision a storm of side tracked comments here about God and religion, but please, lets leave this thread dedicated to solving your dating difficulties issues.
my 2 cents
"By A Customer
Lots of good catch phrases like "better than nothing relationships" that can really draw you to this book. Surprisingly poor content.
How can the advice be so simple and yet be so wrong? It tells you that the reason you're single is because you haven't found a relationship. You have to stop trying to find Mr/Mrs perfect and actually do it. You're also told that you shouldn't even consider anything less than perfection. If you follow the advice of this book, you won't even meet friends much less a romantic interest.
This book also makes complex assumptions about the reader, what the reader does, and what the reader desires. Amazingly off target considering the authors "expertise". I can follow the author's logic, but can't begin to agree with it.
As hard as it tries to be gender neutral, this book is written for women. If you happen to be the exact person the author is talking about, it might do you some good. For the other 80% of us, it's not worth the trouble or possibly harmful. It's possible the book makes a comback in the second half. I just couldn't bear to read it that far. There are lots of relationship books out there. Find yourself another one.
I do hope you find Mr/Mrs Right"
Just in case it helps anyone in their decision as to whether to part with $8.
You are talking about people who belive they`re wonderful. it`s foolishness. Another people have to say "He/she is wonderful" and a person who hear it from another people can`t be alone. It`s my opinion.
Sharing good things is always good, and we have seen quite a few of self-help blogs on this site as well. However, your blog sounds to me (and seems like to some others as well) like a promotional attempt of this wonderful book you'v read. Sadly, your blog dosnt sound like an unbiased review or a committed testimonial. It simply sounds like "go, buy, read"!!!. YOu may have meant something else, but to us readers, it sounded like a promotion.
I dnt think that anyone will dispute the fact that reading, specially classical fictions takes you thru some experiences that you wouldnt have otherwise achieved in ur lifetime. Some books move us, just like some movies do, as the experience of reading or seeing that perticular insident might creat an impact on our entire life.
Self-help does not get into that category. It does not influence you to use your imagination to create an insight..it dsnt induce you to compare your own creativity with the material, because, before reading the book, by looking at the cover, you know, you are going to find answers for somthing you lack or something you are struggling to find in life..Its strictly not an insight to your life, its readymade material designed for someones problem. Just like you buy some medicine for some ailment you have. You expect the book to cure you, show you a way, find answers to your questions.
I personally dnt belive in reading self-help and putting into practice the exact thing I read in those books..Specially, relationship theories. (some others may think otherwise) As i believe, there are no theries for relationships, due to various reasons. Mainly, a relationship is based on two entirely different persons. You can buy or find a book and follow its theories but can you control the changes in the thinking patterns/mindset of your counterpart? In such a situation you following a specific theory is uttly uselss. The responses to this very blog say it all, if all are accepting the theories, all will be well and fine, however, its not so!! people are different and tastes are different!! my point is, if a theory of a self-help book to be effective and to make an impact, it should be read and followed by all or most of the people you associate, in other words the whole community should accept that theory or guideline without disputing it. Will it ever happen? Will one's knowledge on realtionship theories can control life situations? seriously doubtful!!!
My personal view is reading a well written fiction can create a better impact and insight to human relationships, than reading a ready made self-help book, designed directly to deliver you the results (and ofcourse results to the author) and promise you with better days!! Humans are unpredictable unique creatures, text book theories might create a small percentage of impact on the unpredictability of such creatures!! yes yet reading those are lil better than not reading anything at all, provided that the reader can continue to live without a the aid of text books..
Ladies I am not promoting the site, honestly I wanna share with you this amazing offer.
Now, when I met my man, my Divine God and the most amazing soul I have ever met, I can say that that book did have many good points. However, I continue to educate myself and always in a search for interesting books. Here what I found that may be also of your interest, people! This book by OSHO called "Being in love". Take some time and research it for yourself online, read what people have to say about it. But I honestly believe it will help many to look at themselfves objectively and see HOW to experience Divine love and come to realization of HOW to treat each other during our short time, here on earth. You may agree or disagree with Osho on various topics, like I did, but it is still a very interesting piece for someone who likes this kind of reading.
I invite people to share their opinion if they care about this book.
Plerase, keep interesting information coming. Love each other, see the best in each other. This world is so beautiful if you are keeping your heart pure and kind!
Thank you again, to all:)
Olessya