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I recently went out with my ex. We talked sincerely. I asked him what we are doing and to define the relationship. I told him that I don’t want to pressure him to commit to anything he isn’t prepared for, but I wanted to know what we are and where this is going. He said that he has feelings for me, and that he isn’t interested with other girls. He asked for more time for him to sort his work life so that he can have more time for his personal life.

I told him that I didn’t want to be an option. He said I am not an option. However i think he meant that there’s no other girls. But I meant that, i want him to prioritize our relationship, should we get back together. Because I felt like I am in competition with his job.

I understand that we are here in this place mainly for jobs. But, I want to be his priority too. But I just can’t ask that of him in fear that he will always choose his job.

Should I just continue with moving on? Or Should I believe him and wait?

If you don't know any of the words in the title feel free to google it.
I tried googeling woman and got non the wiser!

I am who I am. I have in an atempt wrote my profile as truthfully as I can. I realise it severly limits my possibilty to find someone. But I belive it's the way to go since I in the past sugered the deal how to say!
Writing things that I like going for walks, culture, dancing and so on. That's not true though.
I have no problem finding a woman really, it's just that I find always the wrong one. We spend some years together and eventually figur out we don't match.
Getting older I realise time is slipping away and I no longer have the time to sugar the deal.
I am not looking for only a sex partner for wild romps in the hay. But rather someone who finds it fun in the long run to put up with an old fellow like me who is a bit peculiar.
Women who would suit me is like Unobtainium.
To posses all the qualities I look for and also actually connect with one is as easy as asking Albert Einstein about Unobtainium.

Update on my Ex-friend.

Someone told me that she’s been asking some people why I am not talking to her. What?! Was she asleep when she did what she did to me? Or did she forget about it?

If she really cared about our friendship, why ask other people instead of directly coming to me and ask me?

I nominate flowerlady009 as the absolute most rude and offensive female profile I've ever had the misfortune of meeting online at this singles site. If anyone could find a more negative person I'd be shocked and surprised! Any other users meet people who are so utterly rude and obnoxious? I'd be amazed because I've never in my life met someone with such a negative attitude! For any guys thinking about texting that one, my advice to you is don't waste your time!

It has been my experience that while talking to a woman, a man should just keep his mouth shut until she is completely finished talking....no matter if it is for 10 seconds or for 10 minutes. I don't care if you are surprised to hear and you want to share with her that you also named your dog Sparkling Piss....keep your mouth shut and just listen and let her finish. If not, I have found the conversations usually end shortly afterwards.

Just my 2 pennies.

I am again tired of CS and people with narrow minds on the forum.
I will probably leave soon. Again.
I might come back if something drastic happens in the world.


I could write a profile text omitting things that probably would be not popular with most women. But I have done internet dating before and it is not in our best interest, trust me.
After a couple of years of me trying to please my women I brake of the relationship for a reason or another. I have learned that people never change to the better but the opposite.
As a child I preferred to stay with my self and did not like to play typical boy stuff. I learned to read and write long before schooling and read a lot of books. Even boring books cover to cover like the bible. I always read with criticism and tried to find out more info before believing anything. I still do.
Now as an adult I am a bit different then most. I am not religious. I do not drink, smoke, do drugs or drink coffee. I talk a lot when meting people and say what I think wich is not always popular. How ever I prefer not to socialize. I rather stay home. I have traveled to many countries but no I prefer not to. I do not like shopping, walking, biking and cultural stuff. I like to watch TV but only sports, history, science and science-fiction. I like to play Backgammon and Chess. I do not care about my image, so I will never buy unnecessary stuff, like new cars. I will never live in an apartment or in a city. I like to live in the countryside without close neighbors. I do not cut my lawn. I prefer the will flowers instead of cut grass.
Things I will never ever do.
Jump out of an plane.
Bungyjump.
Climb high mountains.
Take a pedal bike holiday.
And one last thing. I am always right. It is a good and bad thing I know.

I am looking for a women who is not very sociable who prefer to stay home together with me. Someone who wants to live outside the city. I like others animals but prefer not to have any my self. I prefer tall and slender women but can compromise about height.
For practical reasons I prefer only someone who already lives in EU. I will gladly relocate to southern Europe. When you contact me use my name so I know you read all of this. My name is Jens

The goverment want to make it more difficult to bring relatives and new partners to Sweden. The goverment might fall on Monday 2021-06-21 due to another reason. But after a new election if the opposing parties win they want even more restrictions. So from July 20th it will be difficult to bring a partner to Sweden. Not impossible though. 2015 came about 100000 refugees. Those who could stay now want to bring their relatives. To stem this the new laws will come into effect. Unfortunatly for those who want to find love online they go by the same rules. Basically only those who have living quarters with extra available rooms and have been employed for at least 12 months with big salary can bring spouse. If you have your own buisness and have not regulary withdrawn salery you are in trouble no matter how much money you have in the bank. If you are a Swedish citizen and have lived abroad for two years with a spouse you are ok. This is the goverment will. Opposition does not want any immigrants at all.


2021-07-10
Government made new law to speed up immigration decisions. After you file a complaint that your case has been processed for to long the immigration office should give a decision within four weeks. Today I got an mms from a person who has an ongoing case since mid 2020. It's clearly stated in the letter that immigration need more time and o*al interviews and will not make decision within the 4 weeks. So the office piss on the law makers!

Hi all wonderful guys here , wishing you all the very best ,
whatever you wish I wish may you receive it soon ,
whatever you seek may you findout the real person for you,
whatever you dream with true heart may it be nicely fulfilled ,
always stay positive and try to work on it .
Good Luck .

I just started my day with a bad thought.
Had these feeling of uncertainty.
I've been doing these work for 15 years and yet they haven't seen my worth.
Been doing my best to impress them, but seems like they are ignoring me.
They even have time to hold on to newbie who brings nothing to them but expenses.
Just these work environment thought.

With regards to lovelife, still hoping for the best.
They say that since I am in 40s it would be a waste not having a husband nor kid.
What can I do? No one courts me.
Or if there is, they are just students who still need to prove their worth. I don't like someone who depends so much on someone (say from their parents).
I need someone who is independent enough to have me.
Just a thought.
Good day everyone.:-)

It has been 12 years since we have been apart. We have seen each other from time to time...and me, I always avoided her if I could. Whenever I would see her out, she was with a different guy each time. Honestly, it never bothered me. I was glad to see her out and hopefully happy. However, from what I knew of her...she really took a path of destruction in her life. There was nothing good I have ever heard from others about her. Again, I didn't care...we were not together but these people knew we were together and could never hold back from telling me...she did this...she got involved here and there....all of it was never good.

When she first cheated on me, which ultimately lead to me breaking up with her....initially...I told myself that she would genuinely apologize, that I would consider trying to make things work. At least at that time, I would believe she honestly felt bad about her actions and just maybe, she would consider me in the relationship if we stay together. After we initially separated, days went by and then weeks....yet, no apology. Then that is when I figured, this is indeed the end and prepared my life for a new path.

Last night rolls around, twelve years later. My buddy and I decide to go out to the casino, get a bite to eat and play a quick $20 in the machines. I sit on one machine and my buddy says, I will be over here. I check what direction he walks in so I can find him later and I play my machine. After playing, I get up and go looking for him. When I walk around a cluster of machines, there he is...sitting next to my ex and chatting with her. Initially my reaction is just to turn around...never seen...and just walk away, but I am getting tired and want to round up my buddy. So there is where it all starts. My ex and I end up sitting for an hour chatting. She is drunk and emotionally all over the place....going on about how she is single and hinting at getting a room there. I just change the subject and listen.

At this time, I am dropping subtle hints about it is getting late and I am tired and I need to go. As we are departing, she says...I am sorry for everything. An apology after 12 years. I did give her a hug and then left.

I think that is the first time I heard that word from her mouth...ever.

Now of course she was drunk. But it is said that when people are drunk, their filters come down. Meaning..that they feel freer to express what is really going on in their heads.

Has she seen enough of the single life to realize that grass was not greener?
Was she just feeling lonely at that moment and just wanted company?
Or, was she genuinely sorry and wanted to make amends?
Or, should it be just another "thing"...and once trust is lost...it is lost for ever?

What do you think?