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By Ehi Daniel Ekhator

Relationship is dependably sweet as nectar when it begins, before pride pushes in. I have become aware of "compatibility" as individuals claim, yet i am here to say, no ONE IS COMPATIBLE. In an alternate word, everybody is compatible, it depends on how you handle your relationship, tolerance and pride.

We have neglected to understood that whoever we are dating is not our brother or sister, yet a stranger we are struggling to understand.

A few of us are used to a framework within our lives, when we meet somebody who mean to change some of the aforementioned things we are used to, we raise our claws. Some partners might say "cherish me for whom i am". Obviously, one might cherish you for whom you are; however, not all that you are. There are some attitudes your partners can't put up with, and you don't need to constrain it on them.

Others might say, "LOVE ENDURES ALL THINGS" This is a citation from a partner who is attempting to advocate a senseless and excruciating attitude. Every living soul has a feeling, change your attitude and quit acting savvy. The same individuals neglect to understand that provided that you cherish somebody, you might do anything for that individual which starts from changing some unbearable attitudes.

The fondness that we share, kisses, sex should be the bond that hold us together; of course, but it is not when some certain elements are lacking.

A few partners with so much pride might want to let you know they are dating you out of compassion. They make statements like "You can't survive without me" Seriously? First of all, you are not God, and yes your partner can move mountain without you.

An alternate articulation from these set of partners are "you will never find anybody like me" Like i said, it is brought on by pride and when your relationship get to this point, recall that, the time it now, opportunity to let go. Pride is an infection and you will never have peace from such proclamation above.

Numerous partners put themselves as God especially when they know they are aiding you. It doesn't make a difference what they hold in your existence, when the statement come repeatedly,i encourage to cut the rope, it is no more worth the trouble.

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It’s time to ask yourself some hard questions, time for you to be real and objective, time for you to answer why do you stay?

1. If you remove sex out of the equation, will you two still love being together or is sex the major or only reason you two are a couple?

2. If you look into the future, do you see your lover in it? Are you two long term or just passing time? You can never get back the years you waste in a relationship that is going nowhere.

3. No one is perfect, but can you stand confident before the world and claim that your lover loves you the way you deserve?

4. Can you answer without doubt the reason why out of the billions of people in this world you daily choose to love the lover you have?

5. Are you putting up with crap, allowing your lover to beat you up, cheat on you and insult you because you have a low self esteem? Are you staying because you are convinced you don’t deserve any better?

6. Since your lover came into your life, can you clearly see you have changed for the better? What value has your lover brought into your life?

7. So you want to get married, have you asked what is your motive and your lover’s motive? Why do you want to get married; for social status, out of pressure, to fit in? Or is it out of love and companionship? Marriage, like many good things, gets ruined when our motives are wrong.

8. Do you feel that you can’t share your tough, ugly and unpleasant side with your lover? Do you feel under pressure to show your lover only your good and polished side? Do you trust your lover? Are you free? If you remove the romance, are you two best friends?

9. Your man who stays with you without marrying you, don’t you think if he respected you he would make an effort to contact your parents? Don’t you think if he is serious about your future he would reach out to the parents that raised you? A king will seek to honor the queen’s roots of origin.

10. The lover you are dating, is he/she suitable for the marriage you desire to have? He/she will not change to be suitable when you enter marriage, how we are when dating is how we’ll be in marriage.

11. Are you certain God is proud of the choice you have made in a lover? When you stand on your wedding day and it is said “What God has joined together let no one put asunder”, can you confidently say God has joined you two? Is your love approved by God?

12. Will the you 20 years from now be proud of the relationship you are in today?

13. Is your current love life a good example to your children?

14. Does the lover you are with make you a priority or does he/she only pay attention to you when you beg, when he/she is h*rny or needs something?

15. If you were to advise someone in the exact same relationship you are in, would you advise them to stay in that relationship?

16. Do you stay because of circumstance or out of conviction? Are you convicted that your lover is the best you can ever have? Do you value your lover enough to do anything to stay together?

17. Why are you in that relationship yet you still flirt with others or look outside the relationship? Do you have personal issues in you that need to be addressed? What is missing and can you add what is missing in your relationship instead of peeping outside?

18. Are you convinced that the relationship you are in is wrong and must end but you still stay because you are scared of what people might say or scared of loneliness? This is your life, fear robs you true happiness. Your true love will not come if you are still holding on to the wrong one.

19. Are you seeing too many red flags and alarming signs warning you that your lover is not good for you but you give excuses and brush the warnings away? Act quickly before things get out of hand and you hurt deeper.

20. With all the many ways you expect your lover to be good to you and give to you, do you also give? Are you a giver?

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I think the smokers will disagree with this but it would still be interesting to hear what you all think.



Would it be worth packing up if it might save a relationship?

To all you beautiful ladies. I will appreciate it very much for a girl to come into my life.please.I'm feeling lonely .why I'm not getting rescue?am I too ugly or I'm too old ?

I am for a great number of people when I say this..I am the Type of man that will seek out Honesty Loyalty and Intelligence in any person....I have to say that out of all the Wemen in the World? I have to say that Florida Wemen are in The Top 3 When it comes to men and relationships...that's all I wanted to say..

What the hell is love, anyway? I spent the best part of a year feeling more and more affectionate towards a guy and he was more and more affectionate towards me and everything was lovely. This was it, I thought. Love! Yay! I would have quite happily gone the distance.

Then he says bye.

And I say oh, okay.

I should be devastated. I do miss him, I miss the chatting and when things happen I think hmm, must remember to tell him that tonight before I remember no more tonights. But surely I should be weeping buckets and tearing my hair out.

I do wonder if I am in denial, convinced he will realize we had too much going for us to let it go. That would be handy, because by the time it sinks in that he ain't coming back, I'll be used to his absence.

Or I am really shallow. Scary thought.

Ok so the word love covers a broad range of things, how you love your kids, mum family and your partner.

its been said before but when it comes to partners, be it GF or wife/wives..is it different kind of love for each partner ?

Ie. is love different for different partners ?, because you love that person in a different way ? some look back and think wow I really loved that guy/girl.

But the new guy/girl you love differently ? or is it the same or just a load of baloney ?

By Ehi Ekhator

If you die today, what dreams, what ideas, what gifts, what talents, what voice, what stories will die with you?

See, a lot of people go to work everyday miserable, and all they do is talk about how miserable they are but they don't do anything about it. You know that you are deliberately operating below your potentials, you stop expanding, you stop stretching, you stop challenging yourself. It is hard living, life is hard, so most people don't use their imaginations, most people don't dream anymore. Why? Because through the conditioning process of life after so many rejections.

You know what you can do, you know what you have done and you have also seen what has been done by others in your environment, by others in your circumstances, then you look at where you want to go. What most people do, they do that which they feel they know can work because they already done, so they allow their negative history to determine their possibilities for them. So when they run into a road block, even though they have something beyond their comfort zone, when they run into a road block,something happens to them. Most people allow life to control them and their circumstances.

Look into the future, what is it that you want, what is it that you like to create for you? You want to make a dream come through, you have to stay focus. Some people rather get even than get ahead, stay focus on where you want go go.

This is not going to be it for my life, i deserve more than this. That will start making you do some stuff. Not only it is possible to have your dream but it is necessary, it is necessary that you have it, that you work on it, that you develop yourself, that you go for what is yours in the universe.

the major key to your reaching your dream, your living up to your greatness, your making your contribution to your making things happen in your life IS YOU, but you have to take personal responsibility to make it happen. You make it happen that you don't give up, that you don't take any objection or disappointment or defeat personally, that you keep on keeping on, that you don't decide that i can't make it because you don't see the light at the end of the tunnel...

Live your life with passion, with some drive, you got to remind yourself that you got powers within you, talents within you that you haven't reached for yet. So whatever dream you got, that dream, that idea that has been given to you.

There is no guarantee that because someone is now down on their kneels will never come back? who can guarantee that you can't make it, that you can't have your dream, that you can't do what you want to do? No one can do it, no one can do that.

All we need to do is to look at your dream, have you given it exactly what it needed, have you invested our potentials in it? What is holding you back? Your fears or your cowardice?

Life is yours, the future is yours.. Is either you decide to take it or leave it..Trying to go through short cut won't get you anywhere. There are keys yet to be unlocked in you, that power to move mountains, to do anything you want, you have suppressed for so long, while not do it the normal way rather than the short cut?

Be the light that shineth on people and do not allow hoodlums change your destiny, create that path, walk the walk, work the work, clear that bush path and make a comfort from nothing.

I assure you it is hard, you have tried, do you know the kind of strength you possessed when you are being chased by a tiger? You can jump a fence higher than you, something you wouldn't do when you are relaxed.





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