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How honest should we be on our profiles?

Would it put people off, or would it simply attract the type we are really looking for, and who are looking for us?

Should physical disabilities/abnormalities be put out there?

What about mental issues, from mild depression to dipshit loco?

Some people have no problem with either mental or physical issues, some even are attracted to them.


Same with body size. Should we put our BMI (Body Mass Index) on our profile. Although not a perfect method of measurement, is it not better than 'average ' or 'curvy' which means different things to different people.

Again, lots of people like fat or skinny people, and it would save them time in guessing/searching.


If we are selfish; unfaithful; possessive; short-tempered; undependable; argumentative; lazy; only want casual sex, etc., is it not better to say it?


If you want a partner to support you financially, why not say it? Some people want others to be dependent on them. Match made in heaven.


How honest should we be? And how able would people be to accept that honesty?

Courting, to use Cat’s phraseology, is usually a game of cat and mouse; the predator and the prey.
Not in a bad sense, but one usually does the chasing, and even in today’s modern world, that is usually the man.

So, how do you play the game? Cat has already told us his style, and it works for him.

Some people like the full-on romantic approach – flowers and flowery talk and whisperings of love from the outset;
others prefer a slower, softee softee approach.


Some like an ‘exclusive’ online relationship without ever having met, others don’t believe that online chatting is a relationship.

Some hate a particular approach, while others revel in it.

Whether we are the chaser or the ‘chasee’ (or both, at different times), we all know what we like and what works for us.

Or do we?

Maybe we can learn from how other people approach it

This is my first blog - so please be gentle with me!

While perusing posts on the blogs, I have noticed how member's personalities become exposed over time. It seems to me, that this sort of interaction is a much better way of getting to know someone, rather than just by profile alone.
Members can hide their true personality in a profile, or even when communicating by email with other members on the site. However, blogging has a way of revealing that which might otherwise be hidden.
With that in mind, would it not be a good idea to make it compulsory, to post at least one blog every couple of weeks/months? That way, other members can read the blogs and find out a lot more about someone they may be interested in. It would certainly weed out the scammers!

Just a thought!

The following blog



titled "When you are expected to pay for lunch or dinner on the first date offline. Online dating part 2" was created on the 30/1/2018 and was left in a draft form in order to be picked up and continued later on the subject of "Expectations" , subject of this blog today.

The specific blog regarded the expectation of my person paying for lunch or dinner in unwanted and unwelcome ways that definitely did not include paying half or the whole bill for lunch or dinner at a restaurant.

The expectation regarded the first date offline.

Subject of this blog is therefore, expectations in regards to the first date offline.

For the reason that expectations is a vast subject , this blog excludes expectations during dating or relationships in real life.

It is restricted to online dating and as mentioned earlier , expectations in regards to the first date offline and in real life.

As such the specific blog is referred to and includes a specific group of people that can be found online and this dating site.

Under this category or group of people come only those who plan or intent of dating in real life and/or to meet in person and real life.

Therefore, the questions included in this blog are primarily directed and concerned with this specific category/group of people.

The following scenario part of which are the questions of this blog is being given for better understanding purposes of this blog,

Hypothetical scenario

You have made contact with a person of your liking and interest through the private message service and begun getting to know each other.

Your liking of each other for another grows as you chat more and more. It appears and feels that "you hit off" with one another and after a certain time of chatting with each other, you both decide and agree to meet in person and in real life, have your first date offline.

Questions

1. Do you have any expectations in regards to your first date offline and in real life?.

2. If yes, what are these?.

Thank you for reading and looking forward to hearing any answers.

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Is it really worth it?

I need your help.

I have a confession to make and I don't know what steps to take next.

I have a crush on a CS member. He has no idea. We chat here and there, mostly just banter on the blogs, and I try to keep things sounding platonic because he gives no indication of having any interest in me beyond friendship.

What do I do??

I need one of those hugs that turn into sex.

When was the last time you went out for a date and really enjoyed it?

I joined another dating site a week ago and meet a nice 47 years old man. We agreed to meet at Starbuck's last night. I left work a little early to meet the guy at 12 midnight. On my way there, I got cold feet and changed my mind...went to Mc Donald's instead! Had some Caesar Salad and Apple pie...hanged out there all by myself and went home.

After some lousy excuse that something urgent came up at work, the guy persisted that we could meet tomorrow night...Saturday and I'm off. He asked where I would prefer to meet: La Calle or Irish Pub? I'm not familiar with these places so I googled it. La Calle seems decent so I'm thinking of accepting his invite. I like to dance and would prefer to go to some nice place where I can have a drink and dance silly...I would really really enjoy that

Now, I'm thinking...if I go out tomorrow, what shall I wear? Black? Red? something sexy? Something conservative ? What would usually impress a man who seems to be educated, nice and down to earth? Shall I wear my hair down? Curly ? Shall I bring a friend or two? Or I simply send a friend to pretend to be me again?

What the heck...it's not easy to go out for a date So many things to consider

Just thinking about it makes me feel like dancing

It’s just a bit of fun, not looking to offend anyone, but have you ever spotted one or more of these female single types? I think there are a couple missing The guys on the other hand seem to boil down to two types, flirts or not flirts . . .

• The Onlooker – intrigued by what everyone else is up to, quick to give her opinion, coy about her own agenda. Most Onlookers put their status as ‘in a relationship’ or ‘not available’. In their bio they say things like Not looking Not looking although some opt for putting their age as 99 and insist they are looking for older men only. Onlookers can be drawn into public flirtation. They give advice, and it is often worth reading.

• The Spiritual Soul – searching for love, but not just on the coarse physical plane. She seeks a soulmate, and wanders along the beaches (they nearly all live on beaches) thinking beautiful thoughts which she turns into poetry. She has frequent affairs which end when the potential soulmate would rather turn on the telly or go out for a pint than read yet another poem, and she realizes sadly that he is too of the earth to be The One. He is hustled out the door, immortalized in a poignant and regretful poem, and then forgotten.

• The Incorrigible Flirt – she’s naughty and fun, with a teasing word for everyone, scattering lavish compliments and flirting outrageously. She’s not going to settle down in a hurry – and she very rarely meets up, either, although there is always at least one meet-up imminent.

• The Hardboiled Egg – hardly counts as a single because she never, ever meets anyone. She complains there are no real men left, certainly none in her locality, and deletes private messages instantly because all messages are ipso facto from scammers. She makes disparaging comments in the public forums but gives good advice

• The Upgrader describes herself as single, but coyly admits in her first or second private message that she is in fact in a relationship / marriage but it isn’t working out.

• The Pragmatist is perhaps the most honest of all. She wants a better life for herself, preferably marriage, and is offering good company and that she will look after her man. Most of them are in poorer countries and with limited English but to judge by the blogs, the men who accept that offer and import a Pragmatist are pleased enough. However, many who look like Pragmatists are of course scammers. It is a very fine line to define. Be warned, too, gents, that genuine Pragmatists often turn fairly promptly into Upgraders.

• The Nut – phew, how to define a nut? She starts off seeming sensible but scratch the surface and the lunacy bubbles up. Nuts range from quirky to full-blown fruitcake. The Fruitcake is scary - some are sensible in the mornings, wildly erratic in the evenings. Some become demanding, attack other women on the forums, publicly insult men who have backed away, take the mildest remark as either a deadly insult or a heartfelt declaration, and appear in every shape and form. They get weirder and weirder until the website managers delete their profiles.

A little bit of nut in everyone is a Good Thing. You can have too much of a Good Thing, though.


This is for fun - be nice

Would you tell a woman that you know has a boyfriend and you have heard her complain about him in the past..."If you are ever looking for a new man, I think you are a nice, responsible, pretty woman, and I am single."

The old me would never want to interfere in anyone's relationship in any way. However, the way things are going in this world, I am starting to think that might be the only way of beginning a relationship.



Most of the single women I know, are single for a reason....and I don't want anything to do with that.


It is something else, I have not drank to get drunk for nearly a year now. But, I do still hang out at bars. It is beautiful living life sober. A lot of the people I know who use drugs and drink frequently are just bombarded with issues in their lives. legal...financial...relationships...personal....physical.....you name it, it is there.

Anyway, just a little side note there.

Of course, if I don't want to meet a lady who drinks or is on drugs, don't hang out at a bar. Well, I am perhaps stuck trying to pick up ladies who are in relationships otherwise...it would seem.

A friend of mine recently told me....you need to make yourself vulnerable to women. He said that, us men see it as being vulnerable, where women see it as having emotions. I wonder if he didn't read Daniel's blog?