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Then I have bad news for you. He or she may never come. That person does not exist and is not likely to be born in the next millennium. He or she is only a figment of your imagination.

Even if you should be lucky enough to find that 100% partner, there is nothing to say that you will meet the requirements of your target. Chances are that you may be totally unacceptable to that person.

You cannot look for your other half with preconceptions. Humans are not like new cars that you can have custom built. They are more like used cars. When you buy a used car, you have to look at what is available and make do with what closest to your requirements. If you wanted a tinted windscreen and there is none available, look for other extras.

You may find a job with an above average sound system to compensate. It is more important that the car is large enough for your needs and that the mechanics are in a good condition.

Like with any used car, you may have to put up with a few scratches and dents here and there. Maybe even a rattle or two. Oh yes, do have a look in the trunk. You are bound to find some old baggage there. These are things that can be fixed with time.

However, don't attempt larger modifications. If you wanted a sun roof, think carefully before you decide to fit one yourself. You may end up with a water leak when it rains or when you have your car washed.

And most of all, don't make unnecessary cosmetic changes. Bigger wheels will put strain on the diff and change the gearbox ratio on top of it.

There is no need to lower your standards. You only need to settle for something different that is of the same quality.

And remember to service your car regularly.

Map's blog raised a subject I feel strongly on, and he's fine with me stealing the direction it took.

I want a wife. A little woman to do the cooking, housework, laundry, would be heaven. Her evenings would be her own, too, she could go out every night if she liked, no awkward questions when she got home - well, some questions, after all she could also be a wonderful source of research for me, and save me having to go out myself.

Does anyone know where to get one? Is there a deposit to be paid, or do you just have to put your name on a waiting list?

She is here on holiday from one of the Northern provinces and will be leaving for home on the fifteenth. I met her at a dance on the third day of her vacation. After spending a very pleasant evening together, we decided to see each other again.

To the present we dated five times and we have three more dates set before she returns. The last one is on Valentines Day. I have booked a table for us in a dark and cozy seafood joint with a small dance floor. I can only find one word to describe our dates so far and that is ‘joyful’. We will probably spend some more time together this weekend. She appeared on the scene at a time when I needed somebody to get somebody else out of my system.

She is not a woman that I would have dated regularly if she was from around here but now, after we dated a few times and knowing her better, I must admit that I would have hanged on to her if she did not live so far away. During our first two dates we have sort of agreed that we won’t pursue the relationship afterwards. Since then the subject was not raised again. I don’t have a problem with that. As I said earlier, she is not quite the woman that I would normally date.

But the fact remains that we had some great times during the last three weeks. I want to give her something to show my appreciation. She is not a materialistic person and she has always offered to pay half the bill. Naturally I refused every time. Last night she wanted to pay the whole bill and I had to be very firm to change her mind.

I have never been in a situation like this and I don’t know if it is appropriate to buy her a parting gift and if so, what a suitable gift will be.


See! It is almost weekend again.

I now take paying guests and I've had one here for a couple of weeks now and I might be turning into one of those slightly batty types who think every man who greets them politely is about to attack them, or something. He's charming, attractive, and very attentive. He's always been chatty but when my buddy was here it was impossible to avoid him because we were sitting out most of the time, and we both teased him a bit. Beginning to wish we hadn't.

He's really younger - mid 30s. So it's ridiculous to think he is chatting me up and I know that. But every time I go onto the terrace to have a cig he appears 2 seconds later and wants to talk and talk and talk and I eventually have to make an excuse and go back inside because he doesn't stop talking otherwise and it isn't just a guy talking to a wise old owl, it's - well, put it this way, if he was 20 years older, this would be a very different kind of blog. If I mentioned it at all.

I do know lots of men literally can't stop themselves flirting with any female between 10 and 100, it's a reflex and they don't know how to talk to women without flirting. Also some men would quite cheerfully take on a dotty old broad temporarily if there was a profit in it, or he really could quite literally be a bit lonely and would rather practice his English than his Spanish (neither is his home language). He could even think I am as funny and good company as he keeps telling me I am. However, the more he says it, the more I think hmm, really?

The upshot is that I am sitting inside rather than enjoying my own cool terrace in this crashing heat and yes the advice I have been given is set better ground rules with the next long-stay guest, or lock off part of the terrace for myself, and I will, next time. But I have 10 days still to get through and whether I'm an idiot or not, I feel uncomfortable and I don't know what to do about it.



And I shall probably delete this blog, by the way. It embarrasses me.

It would appear that less and less people still get married today, opting rather to live together ‘in sin’. That piece of paper that states that you are now husband and wife seems to count for very little lately.

A child with a surname different to the mother or father no longer carries a stigma as before. The legal aspects of such a ‘partnership’, which is all that marriage really is, can easily be arranged with a contract similar to a normal prenuptial contract.

Then have one hellava big party and you may kiss the non-bride!


Another step in human evolution; man and wife no longer form permanent bonds as they used to.

Mind you, it is very good for our genetic pool when men and women have children from various partners. I know somebody who has five children with four different fathers; and she was married to all at some stage or another.

So why get married? If you really want so much trouble – buy yourself a used Alfa Romeo!

Stay loose; don’t worry – be happy!

So many of us complain about our partners, BFs, GFs and other people in our life. We see their flaws, their mistakes and things that we don't like about them. We always see what's lacking in them but not what's lacking in ourselves.

I don't know how others see me...but I see myself as a good, kind, respectful and loving person. I'm independent and strong when I need to be.

I'm pig headed and can be a handful but I would stick with my man and people I care for better or worse, will be with them in every highs and lows, will protect and keep them safe and well come hell or high water.

I'm not the hottest and sexiest woman but I'll do my best to keep my man happy and make him feel like a real man and proud of me.

I'm not perfect but I'm someone he can get along with. I could embarrass him when I'm drunk but I'm someone who'll cook him nice meals and seduce him afterwards to make his day.

I don't think he's lucky in me. There could be things that he's looking for an ideal partner that he can't find in me, yet he's willing to meet me halfway. He puts up with my craziness and fruitloopness...accepts me as I am, with all my flaws and imperfections and that's enough for me

Have a lovely day!

This game is a perfect alternative to pocket billiards. Contrary to other ball games, you must play the course and not the balls. In order to score, you have to get the club in the hole and keep the balls out. For most effective play, the club should have a rigid shaft, optionally rubber-coated for extra protection. Whereas the most sought after achievement in normal golf is to get a hole in one, the aim here is to get one in the hole.

The game strategy is to take as many strokes as necessary until the course owner is satisfied that play is completed. Failing to do so, may result in being denied permission to play the course again. It is considered bad form to begin playing the hole immediately upon arrival at the course. It is advisable to take time to explore the entire course with special attention to well-formed bunkers. Experienced bunker players do well in this game.

The course owner is responsible for pruning any weeds around the hole to allow for improved viewing and approach to the hole. Slow play is encouraged, but players should be prepared to proceed at a quicker pace, at the course owner's request.

Players are cautioned not to mention other courses they have played before. Angry course owners have been known to damage players' equipment for this reason. Players are encouraged to bring proper rain gear for their own protection and should bear in mind that courses may sometimes be temporary closed due to periodic maintenance, in which case the handyman, Master Bates could be called on to solve the problem manually.

It is a delightful game if you can keep to the rules, though the green fees will escalate dramatically if you take a permanent lease on the golf course. Special care has to be taken when playing several courses at the same time; it can have a negative impact on your life expectancy.


Have a great day and try not to play all day.

Just been away on holiday with my daughter and at the airport she kept us in duty free for AGES finding something nice enough to take to her mother-in-law as part of her birthday present.



I haven’t seen my daughter since September. Since then I have had a birthday (she did send a whatsapp message) and there’s been Christmas too (a phone call). She brought me a gift for both - a purple felt hat she found at a charity shop, because she says I’m now old enough to need one.

She’s busy, she lives 400 miles away, I’m not a very good mother, what more could I expect?

The irony is that I am fantastically needy. I’m so high-maintenance my mother ordered me from earliest childhood to stop expecting the whole world to revolve around me.

I wish it did. Instead I have become the cat that walks alone.

I’m now the sort of person who, if you lived next door to me and didn’t like chocolate cake, and someone gave you one, you’d still throw it away rather than give it to me. You’d tell me about it, too. Oh, you’d say, I so nearly popped over the other day with a cake for you, because I know you love chocolate cake.

What should I have said? That’s what this blog is for. How should I react to people basically telling me I don’t need anything from them when I really, really do?

I need your comments

We have all heard of ‘fake’ people on dating sites. Who are they really?

Are they the ones who put up a profile with no pic, who have a bit of fun (either with people or against them) then take down their profile, or be banned, and within days have a new one up, different name but same MO?

Or are they the ones who have a proper profile & a real pic? One of the ‘regulars’.
One who tells you their life story, albeit in dribs and drabs.
They may share personal details, often garnering people’s sympathy. Especially from the opposite gender. Soft people always fall for the sob-story.

They could act quite prissy at times. Looking down on others who may speak openly about matters related to sex. They may openly condemn them and act as the more virtuous person. They may constantly let people believe they are a step above the norm.

Behind the scenes is a different matter. They are intent on getting their claws into a man, a man they deem worthy of them.
They may get chatting to some of the nicer, or more vulnerable people. These are the easiest to manipulate. And boy do they manipulate.

They try to get as much personal information from the person as possible – this will be used at a later stage.
They, contrary to their public image, want to engage in online-sex early in the relationship. They badger the other person to do it, possibly goading them by saying that their genitals aren’t up to standard if they don’t want to comply.

If the other person doesn’t play ball, things quickly turn ugly.
Threats of blackmail soon follow – threats of exposing private details on the public arena. The constant emails, messages and the stalking.

Nobody turns them down! They are the greatest gift mankind has ever received. They do the choosing. They do the rejecting.
The fires of hell are unleashed on anybody who thinks they can take that away from them.

Some may call them narcissists; some egoists; some entertainers or some even call them victims,

I call them dangerous.


So, next time we are thinking fake, maybe we should look beyond the multi-profile messers & scammers, and into the world of the delusional and downright dangerous.

Seemingly, 06 January is the busiest day for online dating.

Whether being sick of yet another Christmas alone, made a New Year's resolution to find love or not looking forward to another Valentine's Day alone, people have chosen to make today, 06 January, the date to find that new person in their lives.

11.30pm is the ultimate time to be online That is when most of the exchanges take place.
So if you are an early to bed, early to rise type, maybe have a short siesta in the evening so you will be wide awake to catch that late worm.


Happy hunting