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When we get involved with someone we graft them onto ourselves. Ripping that graft away is not only painful, it leaves scars. I hate pain!and I don’t want scars.

Choice one: instantly apply a new relationship, like a transplant, and hope it takes

Choice two: go cold turkey, and build solid scar tissue so it is almost impossible for anyone new to break through and hurt you again.

Choice three: is like breaking a nail down to the quick, you press it hastily back into place until the nail grows, or the quick stops being so sensitive! Either the original bloke, or a friendly alternative - eventually the wound heals cleanly and you can peel away the scab and be left without a mark.

I'm currently in healing mode. I tried to hastily find someone new, but yikes there aren’t many suitable transplants out there, and I am hellish picky. Choice two: I hate pain and I don’t want scars. Currently lucky enough to have the third option, which is always my preferred way, but I’m starting to worry that it is definitely taking longer for the scab to form! After all, he's looking for someone too. Tick tock.

So - look at your scars and tell me. Which is the best?

Especially in my age group, guy photos need to tell a story. Most of the time, the story is 'my camera is out of focus' or 'I never used moisturizer or sunscreen in my life.' Some feel an expression of dumb resignation will work. And why, why, rotate a photo sideways? Some show the guy proudly displaying his tattoos. Since women are divided into those who do like tattoos, and those who don't, that's a great time-saver.

Don't be thinking I only go for looks, now, I don't. I like to see a face clearly, but I found the ones that really catch my eye are the story-telling photos. The guy with the horse gets a second look. The one against a crammed bookshelf. The one stripped to the waist painting the keel of an old boat. You know, hobbies, interests, a start to conversation? I even appreciate the guys on their pushbikes, at the gym, or playing the ukelele, because I know immediately that's not gonna work out for us. For sure some other woman will suck in her breath sharply and click on the YES button.

I'm for sure going to add a story photo to my set. To make up for the fact I don't have a cleavage shot. You never know. It could work.

Work it, guys. Work it.

I know... I am a disaster... But an ultra cute, one... Jajajajajajajaja...

Have you been in a solemn ceremony or circumstance and you just have this terrible urge to laugh?...

I have... And I swear, I start thinking of the most horrible and sad things, but most of the time, it just doesn´t work... Jajajajajajajajja...

My Mom was the kind of person that would be sitting with me and would say: "What if an orangutan just came here and sat on your lap?"... "What would you do?"...

Maybe I just inherited all that crazyness... Jajajajajajajaja...

If you and I were attending any kind of ceremony... Yes, those that are very boring and seem to last forever, chances are I would be the one making a terribly funny comment in a whisper or the one that just has the hardest time trying not to laugh...

Have this happened to you?... I sooo want to read what you have to say!...

Listening to many TedX seminars on YouTube, I am starting to hear a common theme going on with women and their lack of o*gasm during sex. All of these seminars I listened to so far were given by women with a professional background in sex therapy. One of them make a claim that 90% of men achieved o*gasm during sex where women were less than half of that.

Another female sex professional claims that a small percentage of women achieve o*gasm with penal penetration. When she told one of her patients that, the patient was shocked....saying something like "oh, so there is nothing wrong with me."

Another female professional talks about how society has stereotyped sex and it is solely to do with penetration....for countless time. Today, things are changing when it comes to women's sexuality and there is a lot yet that has yet to be understood about it. But, sex done correctly with a woman, she can o*gasm as frequently as a man. It is said that she is primarily stimulated by the cl*t.

In addition, women lose their feeling of being h*rny when in a long term relationship. They claim that is completely normal. One professional compared it to going to the gym. Most people don't have this innate desire to go to the gym, but once they are there and doing their workout, their body feels great and the workout is very rewarding. She says, the same can be said with a woman's sex drive in a long term relationship. A long term relationship, she says, is about 6 months to a year....or longer.

With all that being said....these women claim that many women have come to them for their professional help with sex. Many women did not even know their own bodies and how it operated.

Now, to my question about....were women mistaken/men ignorant/society misinformed?

Did/do women hold men responsible...or....do women loath men when they can clearly see he achieved o*gasm and she did not. Perhaps...loathing to the point of feeling she is being mistreated? Perhaps loathing to the point to seeking an extra marital partner or a divorce?

The grass is only greener until the woman starts getting bored and discovered that new guy is not doing it for me either....what up with that? she might think??

Perhaps...that is why women like men who have a lot of experience with many women. Perhaps these men know about the significance of the cl*t...and how to stimulate it correctly? Or....that is why women like other women?

Again, I am just a dumb a** here.....I don't know anything. That is why I am asking.

Ever since I was 16, I have been looking for someone to date. I have been on a few dates, but nothing ever came out of it.

After I turned 18, I met K for the first time. It was new and exciting, and I did feel an attraction to her, so when she asked me to visit her, I said yes. We spent a few hours watching movies in her bed. She was the first person I ever kissed. Yes, I kissed K waaaaaay back in the day, when we first met. The following day she wrote me and said what happened was a mistake, and that it would not happen again.

I have always been a respectful person, so I didn't throw a tantrum or anything. I let it go and went about my life.

A year later, I met someone on a website, and we got to talking. She lived a few miles south of me, so we decided to meet up for a weekend. I visited her to begin with, and I admit that things went by pretty fast. She was the second person I kissed - and more than kissed.

I broke it off when she told me that she was dating someone the entire time. I felt really used by this, so I decided to stop looking for dates or love for a few years.

The first date I went on was back when I was 23. It was with a woman who had a difficult time walking properly, which didn't bother me at all. We went to dinner, and we spent a few hours talking over our meal. I had a great time, and I hoped to get a second date. A few days later she wrote me and said she wasn't ready for a relationship, so I wouldn't get a second date. Three days later, she was in a relationship with someone, so she straight up lied to me. I called her out on it, and someone else said that she had told him the same story.

Was I disappointed? Of course. I don't appreciate being lied to, so I blocked all communication and went on with my life.

A few years later, I turned 30. I met someone online. We got to talking, and she asked me if I wanted to visit her for a weekend. I said yes, so I packed a bag, bought a bus ticket, and off I went. This time, I made sure to ask if she was single or dating someone else. Yes, she was single, and no, she was not dating someone else. That made me feel a lot better, so I jumped head first into what turned into a three week romance. She had recently split from her ex, so she needed something else to think about.

Three weekends with intimate moments, but it never developed into full intercourse. Something told me that she wasn't completely over her ex yet, so I took it slow.

My suspicions were confirmed, when she, out of the blue, told me that she was getting back with her ex again, and that she didn't want to see me again. That one hurt, because I had hoped that this would be the one. That it would be the person I was going to start a relationship with.

A year later, I was off to Scotland, where I met a lot of women, but nothing developed into anything other than a friendship. I did kiss someone at the company Christmas party, but we were both drunk, and we both agreed that nothing would develop.

Fast forward to 2018, when I met R. If I had taken a different approach to certain things that she did when we first met in person, who knows what would have happened there. Her and I could be dating. It's hard to say.

We're now in 2023, and I am having a hard time meeting someone new. So I'm giving up - at least for now.

Maybe dating just isn't for me?

Simple fact... ALL dating sites have scammers with fraudulent profiles.
Some sites have more than others and I believe it's related to management, because they don't have the staff to monitor activity. That means, all of them rely on the members to report scammers or fakes...

In a world of 'self service' they do nothing until someone tells them something is wrong.

Not so much on Connecting Singles, because they often delete bogus profiles within a few days, where other sites only only respond to reports when an administrator gets around to it and that's not too often. Sadly, one of my favorite places had a scammer using a stolen photo of a pornstar that I blogged about her anniversary being there. I must have reported that one 15 times including the site where the photo was stolen from!

I see a new profile appear yesterday that has a warning to women. It's a man in the photo and the profile is warning women of a profile using that photo. Unfortunately, the person trying to be helpful has the wrong gender. They should have created a profile of a man so it comes up on the correct search for women.

Anyway, it's a rainy morning and I have a few minutes to do a Public Service Announcement (PSA) and entertain you with some scammers I have found.

I wrote to him:
Hi, wanting to meet your daughter or granddaughter???
Don't you think that is ridiculous. But if you wish so, each to their own. My beautiful granddaughter is too old for you.

He answered:
Not sure you should be here sending rude messages to others, an old woman like you should know better, maybe it's you shortage of education
(I am 75) and have no intention wanting to meet a 64yr who wants an 18-35
WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Starting a relationship is always fun and exciting, but making a relationship last is hard work. Once you’ve gotten settled in your relationship, you have to maintain an honest flow of communication and to continue to cherish your time with your loved one. Making a relationship last isn’t always fun, but the benefits of maintaining a long-term and committed relationship far outweigh the difficulties that you may face......

Listening to Jordan Peterson, with our modern dating world....where long term relationships are becoming a thing of the past, Peterson theorizes that only a small portion of men will get all of the women. To find out more about this, first think about it...and then...I encourage you to listen to him.

Here is an example of his theory in practice.

I was just listening to Lauren Chen. She had a blog about "West Elm Caleb"....a guy who has dated many many women and who have ghosted them. Chen goes on to show women who have been ghosted by him being upset. However, she points out in her opinion, this is a result of feminism. Lauren Chen claims that this is exactly what women have asked for. Towards the end of her blog...she states that feminism is not....men should do exactly what women say. She says that before feminism, men had a deeper respect for women....now....it is a bit different.

What should men do now?

What should women do now?


Peterson says that female desired men are becoming more callous. He goes on for saying...I don't blame them. (remember people form their self image and moral compass by feedback received). He alluded that, why should these men settle for just one woman, when they can have all of them. (This was my interpretation of his message).

For women, perhaps be more careful with who you pick for a partner, or as Chen suggested....state up front that you are looking for an exclusive relationship...and not sleep with him so soon.





Before we start picking on men....I suspect that same is true towards women as well....the beautiful women can have most of the men. However, I think men will settle for less than beautiful when it comes to a mate. But are women more superficial than men in this new dating world?

something to think about I suppose

I’m still surprised at how many people join Connecting Singles believing that the love of their lives is going to drop into their laps over-night. That only happens in fairy land.

They don’t seem to realize that to find a partner here, you need to market yourself in a proper way just as you would in the real world? Those who cannot find love in the real world, won’t find it here either. They will only open themselves to scammers.

Some try too hard, some are too desperate, some are too full of themselves, some are too placid and some others are just too full of shìt. You have to find a balance in your assault. You cannot hunt a whale with a bow and arrow and you cannot shoot sardines with a harpoon.

Telling everybody how desperate and lonely they are will only solicit a little sympathy… and not even much of it which makes me wonder what they really want; sympathy or a partner?

And by shooting into the bunch, hoping for a random hit by indicating that just anybody will do, is rather lame and will achieve even less. All of us want to be special; chosen, not just another somebody picked in random fashion.

While it is true that CS creates many more opportunities to meet people, you will not get it on a platter. CS only creates the platform from where to operate but when the opportunity presents itself, you have to make the best of it.

Yet, getting the attention of the opposite gender is not that difficult. There is no need to be extravagant in anything; actually most people don’t like that. To use that worn-out cliche; just be yourself. The average woman wants an average man and vice versa.

If you are neat, not standing out too much in the crowd (being dead normal) and dressed to the occasion, somebody of the opposite gender is bound to show some interest in you no matter where you are; be that a disco, a charity function or a church bazaar. The world is full of single people looking for somebody to share their lives with; all we need to do is to look around to see them.

And I repeat, cruel as it may sound, if you cannot get somebody in real life, it is unlikely that you’re going to succeed here.


A wonderful day to all of ya!