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What a disaster my Valentine date turned out to be. I met him last Saturday at the Laundromat. I have seen him many times before but this was the first time we spoke. He seemed kind enough and we had a good conversation while we waited for our laundry to be done. My son was using my car and he was supposed to fetch me but he did not show up and the kind man offered me a ride home. He was not a complete stranger and I felt obliged to invite him for tea. During that time a friend phoned and asked if I want to go with them to the beach the next day. He said it’s okay to bring a friend along. I asked my new beau if he wished to accompany me. He agreed and left shortly afterwards. He arrived promptly on time the next day and we travelled in his car to my friend's place where we all piled in my friend's car and off to the beach we went. The day went fine but I caught his eyes on my boobs too often. My friend's girlfriend also got more than her share of gawking. The two of them only had eyes for each other and did not notice it. Otherwise the day went in a pleasant way and we had sundowners at my friend's place before we went home. He walked me to my door like a gentleman end squeezed in a kiss on my lips, which I allowed if only to thank him for the day.

I did not hear from him until Wednesday morning when he asked me to be his date that night. I don’t like him that much, he did not have a table booked and I did not think that Valentine is a suitable event for a first date; therefore I declined. Cattie told me to rethink it and I called my beau to set up the date. He must have phoned around because by late afternoon he managed to secure a table for two because of a late cancellation. Ten out of ten for that. Sadly the greatness ended there.

He did not have petrol in his car. No problem, we can use mine. I planned to pay half the bill and made sure I took enough with me. He undressed every woman in the place with his eyes, flirted with the waitress and all he could talk about was his ex-girlfriends. He said that he did not like the guy whom we went to the beach with though his girlfriend was ok. I told him that he should have spoken earlier; we could have swapped partners. Cattie would have obliged but this a**hole did not know that. When the bill arrived he discretely told me that he was R50 short. I ordered very conservatively and my share of the bill was much less than his share but I gave him half the money and left a tip on the table. The poor girl gave us good service in spite of the unwanted advances he made towards her. He had the guts to tell me that it was not needed as her service was ‘not up to standard’.

When I delivered him at his home, matie wanted to come home with me to ‘chill a bit more on such a romantic evening'. Is the man crazy to believe that he was going to get a Valentine’s nookie after a disappointing evening? Not that he would have gotten something otherwise. It was not on the agenda.

Well this is awkward! Finding my ex on the same dating site!
Has this ever happened to you! How would you react! Would you block her from seeing you or would you flaunt yourself in front of her by posting your name every place you could. Or perhaps this would not be awkward at all!

Kissing, kissing and more kissing! Kissing is such a great part of human contact, greeting coming and going! Sometime the best part of dating is kissing, which leads to intimacy and s*xual arousal or just makes us feel good! But what if we had no lips! Kissing would be out of the question, a handshake would have to suffice or perhaps we would be intimate enough that we could clean each others teeth. Not very attractive or at least from my perspective. No lipstick on the shirt, no chapped lips in the winter. Chewing would not be very attractive, chewing with your mouth open is a very annoying practice but without lips who would notice! Whispering sweet nothings into one's ear would be nearly impossible. I guess the worst thing about having no lips is having no lips
Hey! "Don't give me any lip!"

As a single person, you don't get touched. You don't even realize how important it is until someone touches you (in whatever capacity that encompasses) and you find yourself hypersensitive to their touch.

How does that make you feel? Do you welcome it? Or wish they'd bugger off so because it makes you too cognizant of what you're missing?

I know this is a weird blog, but I'm single and I wonder things.

So I have old fashioned morals and principles...I cant help it..it is who I am and yet I find myself adrift in this new weird world of dating or what I think of as dating.
A little background in order to understand, I'm nearly 50 years old. I have had 2 long term relationships both 10 years the rest of the time single..so now I find myself wishing and wanting to share time with a man again so on a friends suggestion trying a 'dating site'. I'm at a loss to understand the mind games and untruths..when did it all become all about sex?? ok I hear you say...old fashioned...yes I am but I would like to take the time to get to know a person by personality before I jump into bed with them..oh and I'm not a Jennifer Aniston or Michelle Phiefer look alike...I'm a real woman with curves...do men really just want a play thing to be discarded when the sweet shop opens again ?? If I sound angry I dont mean to be...just want to understand so I can get off the rolller-coaster

You're about to do something and you get that little voice in the back of your head whispering 'don't do it.' but you go ahead anyway. Have you ever done that?
Well I did recently and ignored that little voice! Hah! It earned me got a good kicking this morning and I still haven't recovered consciousness fully yet. Now the little voice is going, 'Idiot, told you, maybe you'll listen next time. Haha!'

Why are young women contacting old men and why are older women looking for someone much younger, lets be realistic aren't we just setting ourselves up to be scammed. I been on the internet dating sites for some time and every one of them are the same with undesirable people trying to take advantage of others. I never new there so many dishonest people out there, I would like to think age does not matter choosing someone to share out lives with but it does and the internet seems full of those types taking advantage of this. Be careful what u wish for

So you offered tea and she was like well, I’m not sure. So you said you’d start it and see how she felt but when you had, she decided not. A waste of time and effort on your part, but tea is all about choice, and consent.

Or she said yes to tea, but then she changed her mind. What you going to do, force it on her?

Or she said yes to a cup of tea, then passed out. NO TEA.

Maybe you were just talking about having tea and she passed out instead. DEFINITELY no tea.

Okay, now re-read it with 'sex' instead of 'tea'.

This is borrowed from a blog on The Loop and I thought it was a really effective definition of consent. Agree? Not?