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I sometimes think I'm a bit too fussy. All I ask is a man with the brain, body, and sense of humour, to rival this trio.






And yet if I found him, he'd get - well - me. Slight mismatch.

Yeah, I can see a Misery scenario developing here, and the book, not the film - you know, where she actually amputated his legs to keep him around

In the first comment (unless DC beats me to it) I shall put a pic of what we probably all would settle for.

If, big if, the chemistry was right.

I was newly struck by the artificial nature of being online after reading the responses on a recent blog named ‘Dinner For Six’.

What particularly struck me was the way some of us – I include myself here – apologized to our other friends for not having them on our invitation lists. Others refrained from giving names at all in fear of offending friends. Is the bond of friendship online so frail that we are too scared to invite some friends and not the others?

If you were to win such a prize in real life and you had 12 friends, would you rather stay home and forfeit the prize so not to offend our friends? I think not. Would you, in real life, ask the sponsor or organizer to expand the guest list to 12? No, you won’t.

You will invite 5 friends without even having to apologize to anybody, knowing they will understand. And you will come back bragging to them about how you enjoyed the evening. After all, the prize allowed for only 5 guests and if they are true friends there will be no ill feelings.

If one of your friends got 5 rugby, soccer, opera, cinema or whatever tickets and does not ask you along, will you be offended? If you are offended then you are not such a good friend at all. You cannot monopolize your friend. Like you, he/she is entitled to other friends as well.

So why do we want to treat online friends better than in real life? Friends who use names we’re not sure about, pictures that may be fake, doing a jobs that may not be true and claiming to be where they may not be. What is so special about online friends that we want to wrap them in cotton wool?

I wonder if you could guess how much time I spend finding the right words in a comment and how many euphemisms I use; only not to alienate myself from friends… but in real life, I call a spade a spade.

True friends take much more to be offended.


Stick around. Friday is still a long way off.

For the fee of a comment to do so, if you request so, I will match you with someone on CS, who I feel is most appropriate for you. This could open up a new possibility for you.

(Dislaimer - that does not mean the person you are matched with will agree with that match, or even that you will, but you'll never know if you don't try.)

This is not about cricket, but you will need to understand one or two cricket terms here. For the benefit of those not into cricket: a maiden over is when you can bowl 6 balls in succession without conceding a single run.

When I still played cricket I was a specialist batsman coming in at #3. Nothing spectacular; just a sturdy club player that you would rather have in your own team than with the opponents.

However, I was a ghastly bowler, mainly because I refused to bowl in the nets, but I was often used to break partnerships. I would spray them all over the show. I was treated with utter disrespect and hit all over the park; if they could only get to the ball. But they paid for it in wickets.

Once I got a hat trick (3 wickets off 3 consecutive balls) off the first three balls and still went for 20 runs, including two wides.

And I have never bowled a maiden over.

But now that I no longer play cricket I’m going to bowl a maiden over; and I have decided which maiden it will be too.

So girl, if you are out there; take strike and keep your stumps covered. I’m coming for you. It’s is not going to help to stand there blocking every ball. I’m going to bowl my maiden over and with the last ball of the over I’m going to send your bails flying.

A maiden wicket is so much sweeter than just bowling a maiden over.

The moral of the story? You don’t have to be a good bowler to bowl a maiden over – you must just pitch your balls at the right place.

Like food, all relationships have a sell-by date.

Relationships started way back when the average life-expectancy would have been only 25-40 years of age.
So a lifetime commitment to a relationship wasn't quite so long, 10-15 years if you were very lucky.

Fast forward to the 21st century where people are living happily into their 90s, is it really reasonable to expect a lifetime commitment of 60+ years?

As with all things, there are exceptions in food too. Honey will last indefinitely but even that can crystallise and look a bit shabby. It takes a bit of hot stuff to bring it back again.
Some relationships also stand the test of time, but when they crystallise, somebody needs to be there,and willing, to apply that fix to make it gleam again.

Other foods you do keep forever, much past their sell-by date. But they grow dusty in the back of the cupboard as you don't want to get rid of them, but are not actively using them either. It is better to just clear out the cupboard and start afresh.

With all foods, it is better to enjoy them when they are fresh, and not try to hold on to them as they grow musty and dusty.

The sweetest food is often the one with the shortest lifespan. Think cupcakes

So, for 2018, maybe we should stop thinking longterm, and getting disappointed when they go sour, and just enjoy the sweetness of a relationship for however long it lasts.

One beautiful fresh cupcake will always be tastier than the dusty cans in the back of the cupboard.

Carpe diem.

Maybe some of us on here have anything to share about our journey in finding the "one".

Considering all the fake profiles, scammers they are called, what truly is our chances of finding him/her on this site? Or anywhere for that matter.

I have met and found whom I thought was the one 9 years ago here. Although our distance was more than 7,000 miles apart we didn't get discouraged because what we felt from the first skype was so strong and wonderful that we didn't think of any hurdles we had to face.
Anyways I went to his place about three times and he came to my place about two times. To cut the story short, for me, it was the most interesting, adventurous and wonderful part of my life.

I read somewhere that the difficulty of meeting a real partner here isn't as easy as meeting them in family gatherings, church or the conventional and normal introduction before the web. What's with all of those mentally crazy, drug addicts, or simply players that are not who they claim they are. Married pretending to be single, and more discouraging characters which by the time you find out, has already caused you a lot of emotional roller coaster.

Well for me, I am no longer looking. I'm way past that. But meeting good friends both male or female, to me is a plus.

What about you? Please feel free to share your stories if you want. Maybe we can all learn from it.

Note: I know about six couples who have met here, still married and happy. A couple from NZ and India, From Northern Thailand and England (my best friends, he passed away , blessed his soul). From Philippines and NZ, From NY and England, From France and CH, and also our very own Mimi from Malaysia now happily living in Nebraska. The first three couples I met them 8 years ago still very happily married.

You don’t attract what you want. You attract who you are

The moment you’re happy on your own is when the right relationship enters your life (Myke Macapinlac)

Many people complain about not being able to find a partner, or finding the wrong one, or not being able to hold on to the right one.

Some blame everything on past partners, rather than focusing on improving themselves to a level that makes them good partner material.

Is the answer within ourselves? Do we attract what we deserve?

Having been a member of CS for approximately 2 months, I’ve made certain observations.

1. From reading the comments of others, I’ve concluded that some people have been members for many years. Although the site may offer a sense of camaraderie and support, amongst other things, it would appear that often it may not lead to finding a long-term partner.

2. It’s apparent that there is a very high number of scammers on the site, which is probably due to it being a free site. Sifting through many unwanted messages is very time consuming.

3. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s very difficult to find members in my local area, Initially I thought this was due to the fact that I live in a fairly remote area, but from others’ comments, I get the sense that it’s more pervasive. In order to establish a real relationship, I believe that people actually need to meet in person, so this is clearly somewhat problematic.

4. Perhaps one of the things that has taken me aback most is the fact that a few profile pictures are actually of people wearing masks. In psychological terms, wearing a mask is akin to a person hiding his or her true self and is the complete antithesis of being authentic. Why anyone would choose to put up a profile picture on a dating site with at least two thirds of their face obscured by a mask defies belief. I cannot make any sense of it. Why put up a picture at all? But, obviously it does say a lot about anyone who would choose to do that. Having received one or two messages from people wearing masks, which I ignored, I chose to reply to one and challenge this. Whether doing this made any real difference, I’ll never know.

All this has left me wondering what people are actually looking for on a dating site like CS. I’m guessing that it’s probably very different things for different people. If people are not actually looking for a partner, I’d really be interested to know what draws them to a site, which is designed for single people who do want to find a partner.

Dating, as in every other area of life, involves making choices. Coming from a place of self awareness means being really conscious of the choices we make. In relation to online dating, I believe that in addition to many other factors, the issue of whether the other person has taken the jab or not is likely to become increasingly important in the future.

Can you fall in love again

Would you want to fall in love again?

Does love only have to benefit you?

Is love a game to you?

Is love a means to an end for you?

Do you think love is real?

What?....Love?....what the hell is that?

lol

But seriously do you think you can love again?

I think I can....but...I do know love can make one weaker...as well as make one stronger....depending on your "better half."

From memory, I can’t recall ever being in contact with someone on CS that didn’t lie about his or her age.

Although I now state my correct age, for quite a while my profile stated I was 60, although at the time I was only 58. My reasons for this were I felt I would be more appealing to the age group of women I was trying to attract.

So, my question is....
Does stating a certain age have an effect on the age group of people that you contact, or contact you?