What would it take for you to fall in love again?
Can you fall in love againWould you want to fall in love again?
Does love only have to benefit you?
Is love a game to you?
Is love a means to an end for you?
Do you think love is real?
What?....Love?....what the hell is that?
lol
But seriously do you think you can love again?
I think I can....but...I do know love can make one weaker...as well as make one stronger....depending on your "better half."
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Do people have time for love?
The internet/smart phones might be taking away precious time spent on love in the past.
I am not here to pick apart anyone's comments....they are what they are.
With a heart as big as yours, I bet you any money you will find a man with an equal sized heart.
How come after I comment on some of your blogs, everything goes quiet?
Sheesh! That’s not nice.
You might be part of the lucky.
....there are some who would be very quick to tell you they should have not gotten involved
....by the way, you and Merc sound like you have similar circumstances.
....then Robert, there are some who are unable to even have the ability to express themselves....as to how miserable "love" can be
....then....there are those who miss out on opportunity because of "love."
....but then....there are those....who found love beautiful
....but
Robert
....the divorce rate is reported to be around 50%
...so
...that means
....flip a coin...
love is either going to kick you in the sack Robert....or rub your sack.
There’s so many pretty ladies with nice personalities everywhere!
I just need some pick-up lines advice from the three legendary pro pick-up artists, yourself, the Driver and Bert.
Now women have their own money and don't need rescue from a man in that department.
.....So Robert....
What good can you be to a woman like that?
Perhaps Robert....
You need to stimulate them emotionally?
perhaps
the world will no longer operate in straight lines in the near future.
and there is a reason for that
Men are logical
Women...well...not so much...
if women are taking over...
well...
you do the math. :)
So....that might be a good thing too..
All I got to offer ladies is this kickstand, that I gotta buy condiments for it at the “big and long store.”
If women aren’t interested in any of those things about men..
where’s the fun in relationships?
You know, you’d make a really bad marriage counselor.
I wonder..
In today's age,
You might be right Robert.
Perhaps that 50% is on the increase instead of decline.
A man who is smart (not only book smart), who is protective, who is kind, loving, compromise, thoughtful. A man who enjoys going out, even for an evening walk, walking hand in hand. A man who can express his feelings and can work through problems.
A man who likes to cuddle, in the evenings, watching TV, allowing me to tough him from time to time during a TV episode, a good kisser.
I can appreciate a man that will kiss me goodnight and who will be happy that i'm there the next morning as the sun rises.
Those good mannerisms will make any woman fall in love.
Now where can I find such a man?:
Now I know, I can never love a man like that. Honestly I can't. At least he must be able to please me in bed. That is expectation.
Then if so, comes the question, why should I even try ?
Now I say upfront don't expect me to fall in love with you. If we can respect each others private space and coexist sharing whatever we want to share with each other, (mainly the bed) keeping what ever we want to keep for ourselves and having no issues about them is what love is for me. I want to be me and I don't any feelings of someone to stop that.
And of course I don't want to change anyone. They are allowed to be who they are. Even if he picks nose in public and say the stupidest jokes, I will accept him for what he is.
Honestly if I can't change, why should I try with others.?
Part kidding, partly serious.
Johnny, logged in but so many things came up. Hopefully later I will get back.
So, Yes. I can love. With conditions of course.
Have to go.
I think that I'm scared to fall in love again.
I want something that lasts - forever. I cannot stand endings any more. Of course I can survive. We all can survive. But at what cost?
Each time I trusted someone and that trust wasn't justified, a small part of my heart was crushed into pieces. Isn't it normal to be scared of another hit?
I know that love can mend your heart in the blink of an eye. It's that powerful. But, how can you trust?
Yes, in many cases I think you speak for many singles. Trust is something difficult to hand out again with somebody who has made us very vulnerable.
Vulnerable...
Isn't that something. When we were young and dumb...so innocent. We didn't fully realize what it meant to be vulnerable with love. But after being around the block...the heart's door has become very heavy.
hmmmm
but that beauty of love is still out there....
how do we make the door easier to open?
It is nice to see you around again.
I bet you a couple of bucks that I can pick out your serious statements and your not so serious portion(s) of your post.
By the way, I don't know if I could deal with being with a woman who picked her nose in public too.
....but, I think your statement following LaF's lead me into the ending statement I made to her.....and that is about having knowledge when fostering a healthy relationship. In your case, you know yourself well enough to know what you are looking for in a potential life partner. Without that...I would suspect there would be a lot of trial and error....and depending on one's sensitivity, perhaps a lot of heartache.
Thanks for sharing some critical information.
....I can relate to your concern and question....
about trust
I believe in the response to EK, I touched on what I feel about trust.
But, I think anyway....to trust again...one needs to understand even more.
Nobody wants to make the same mistake twice only to go through the heartache again (as love offers us)
Therefore, I think to understand...where we went wrong the first time around...or in some cases for some people...the second time around...or third...and so on...
We need to understand where WE went wrong. I think we are very quick to point our fingers at others around us but we fail to recognize where we went wrong. I think a lot of where we go wrong is by not believing the warning signs we see. ....but that is just part of it.... It is said that we, ourselves, are the biggest liars to ourselves.
So...with that said....there has to be a knowledge of what a healthy relationship is. Because, if you genuinely do not know who you can trust or who you cannot trust....you will be only lucky if you find somebody who is trustworthy.
....hmmm....
the power of love
the spell/trance it can put on you
the absence of brain capacity
Now, introducing knowledge and rational brain power to something like that. tough
But, maybe a way to do it.
But half seriously, anybody at any age is capable of falling in love.
If and when they should meet the right person, and if that force of love should strike them, if that great glow of joy should engulf their hearts, soul, mind, body, and everything, everywhere, their world suddenly feels like a love wonderland.
At that time, it won’t matter what anyone else says, negative or positive or polls or studies or whatever. It won’t even matter what they themselves may have thought or said in the past. They’ll be in love and nothing else will matter except the person they love and the great feeling they’re feeling.
They’ll jump in and enjoy the experience. And why not? We all only live once.
And when love truly grabs you strongly, there’s no way to resist the greatest force of our lives.
That is great to hear about you being able to fall back in love.
But....I question your comment about love only making you stronger....I am assuming that is in reference when you find a loving partner in life. That would be true if you pick right. You are a smart lady, so I do think you have the ability to discern somebody from a toxic nature....to somebody with a genuine heart.
I have thought about that too....protecting yourself by guarding your emotions. I wonder if love works that way.
That is kinda why I wrote this blog.
Yes....to everything you say.
However, one might be in more love than the other.
One might have a secret agenda.
One might not even know what love is.
But true love....with both people....like you describe...it is true bliss.
tough to find these days, in my opinion
What? You agree? No “Yeah, but what if?”
Are you joking with me?
Is this reality or a dream?
Okay, cool.
I’m eagerly awaiting the book “Advice from America’s top 3 pick up artists” authored by Johnny, the Driver and Bert.
Cool, huh?
Would you get involved with someone who has tattoos with the names of past and recent lovers? 20 to 50 tattoos or more?