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This is solely based on my observations. I would welcome any opinion that could clarify and contribute more meaning to my following statements::wink:

Women in their 20s desire men around their age who are good looking, funny, clever and financially stable…the perfect guy.

Men in their 20s desire women who are older, confident, financially stable…a mother figure whom they could get a lot of experiences from.


Women in their 30s desire men who are clever, financially stable, not so funny will do, not too good looking will do…stability and security matter most.

Men in their 30s desire women who are of the same mental, emotional , physical and financial wavelength. She has to be confident , good looking and knows how to carry herself…someone he can be proud of and raise a family…picture perfect marriage


Women in their 40s will accept men who are less financially stable, less good looking, less funny, less clever but will gladly opt for better option in the offer.

Men in their 40s desire women who are a little bit younger but the “been there, done that” type. She has to be confident, clever, funny, witty , good looking , emotionally and mentally stable….and financially independent.


Women in their 50s plus plus…many will tend to desire men who are much younger, less financially stable but quiet good looking, can be fun, not clever and not educated will do as long as they are young, physically active and gorgeous…but if common sense prevails, many will choose to stay single and enjoy their carefree lifestyle and freedom

Men in their 50s+ plus plus…many tend to desire women young enough to be their daughters…hot and sexy will be fantastic, she doesn’t have to be brainy…doesn’t have to work…he will be more than willing to give everything she desires but those who have wisdom and "old enough" to know what’s good for them will opt to find companionship with someone he has a lot in common with.

Ok, ok, I know, I know....please don't take me seriously...the above are just my own observations and assumptions:

If a woman is married to an uncommunicative man, she has the choice of talking to herself, not very satisfactory, or else sharing with friends, or even strangers. That is considered acceptable to all. Right?

When a man is married to a nonsexual wife, he has the choice of doing it with himself, not very satisfactory, or else doing it with friends, or even strangers. That is considered acceptable to all. Right?

Wrong.
It's not acceptable to all, very few indeed.

The woman may not want to leave her marriage because she doesn't want to break up the family, especially if the kids are small, but at least she has an outlet for her frustrations.

The man may not leave his marriage because he doesn't want to break up the family, especially if the kids are small, but he is left with no outlet for his frustrations.

Sex is a form of communication, a basic human need, especially to men. Just as sharing a conversation is to women.

Does society place unfair restrictions on one human need over another?

This short but concise guide will help men have a little more understanding on women and how to deal with them.

Women have been around for a very long time, practically the same time as men; however this fact has been forgotten after hundreds of generations of male dominance.

In the past letters were written and women were verbally asked out, now it’s mainly via social media, women really don’t like being asked out via WhatsApp or a plain text, Try to actually speak with her, even if it’s through skype.

Always compliment a woman, even if she turns up for a date looking like she had been dragged through a hedge backwards, she has spent hours shaving her legs and armpits, doing her hair and changed clothes an average of 12 times before deciding on her outfit.

If you are out for dinner the woman will probably choose a salad while you get stuck into a steak, offer her fries etc. by gently pushing the plate towards her. If she insists on paying half the bill then let her.

If the date ends up with coitus, Always ensure the woman reaches a climax first, let her enjoy it, should she climax first you can be assured she will take care of you. (if you dont know how to ensure she climaxes first then shame on you)

Post coital interaction is vital, don’t get up and wipe your deflating appendage on the curtains and head off for a snack or to watch TV, stay and cuddle her, hold her in your arms so together you can enjoy the special moment.

If a woman says “fine” It’s not fine, she is annoyed, it's best to lose the argument or simply say sorry even if you have no idea why she is mad at you, Women have a very long memory and will get her revenge on way or another, sometimes a few years after your transgression.

In short, woman are our equals, be kind and complementary and let her know you will protect her with your life.

Yes I know this is a bit of a piggyback post because OldBlue is asking something similar - but not exactly the same.

Why would someone want you, what do YOU bring to the table? Your looks? Your brain? Your interests and hobbies?

Perfect world, use this blog as a shop window and advertise yourself. And - let's not be mean, pointing and laughing at someone else's answer. Or even be sycophantic and agree with someone else? I won't comment (I know, it will very nearly kill me)

If the anticipation is really better than the act then I guess there will always be another mountain to climb. So now that I have bowled my Maiden Over I want to hit her for a six as well.

I will have to take strike on Middle and Leg. This maiden bowls a very fast in-swinger Around The Wicket that is very hard to get away if you are a bit late on the shot. She surely knows how to place her field. Hitting a six here is going to be risky for she has me well covered at Point. If it is wide I can try a Late Cut but I’m bound to be caught by the Third Man if I don’t get hold of her properly.

She has a very Fine Leg that keeps me looking over my left shoulder and she keeps moving her Long Leg to distract my attention. With that Silly Short On she makes things no easier for me while her Silly Point only complicates matters. The Sweeper on the Boundary is just to remind me of what awaits if I should dare to Drive over the In Field.

My only hope to hit a six here is if she strays a bit onto my legs so I can get down onto my right knee to tickle the ball over that unguarded area just in Front of Square on the Leg Side. What will it be; a six or a nix?

She stands there, ball in her hand, with that ‘You just dare to hit me’ expression in her eyes.

Every few minutes yet another female streaks across the field winking an eye at her, upsetting my blood pressure and hormone balance. I’m sure she put them up to do it.

To top it all, whenever I try to Take Strike somebody walks across the Sight Screen; taking my concentration away. These are all her doings.

Cricket can be such an interesting game.


Enjoy your day.

Long distance relationships are problematic and demand a lot of sacrifice; to say the least. It brings about many logistic problems. Visiting each other is fun, but once the romances had been sorted out, the real problems start; for such a relationship would require for at least one party to relocate.

If the two parties live in the same country it is not too bad, but if they live in different countries it brings even more hurdles to overcome. Of which fiscal control is not nearly the least. One does not easily leave your life’s savings behind.

This can be further complicated by differences in culture, religion, tradition, careers and so many other things. Bear in mind that, because of the geography, the parties involved cannot know each other too well either.

Racial differences should not make it worse, but certainly do not make it easier either and serves very well to underline most the other issues. While one can change of religion, adapt to new culture, adopt new traditions and carve new careers, you cannot change your race. Not even with an operation. You will die being what you were born as.

And then I did not even talk about the tension, embarrassment and uneasiness that family, friends and strangers alike can bring about with their prejudice.

They say where there is a will there is a way. But is there a way to sort all these difficulties? It is easy to say one must reach a compromise, but compromise requires sacrifice. And one must be satisfied and contented with your sacrifice.

And then I ask myself; can it really work? Can love alone overcome all; or does it need a little help?

Tips to date a Spanish woman.

I do recognize I'm not the typical Spanish woman, but I have a good idea what Spanish women like and expect from a man.
Spanish women are exotic and have a style of their own.So here are some dos and don'ts if you are planning on dating a Spanish woman.

1. Learn to be patient. Because she will always be late.

2. Be a gentleman. Most Spanish women still love it if you bring them flowers or chocolate. Be romantic.

3. Do not be scared of enjoyment. Partying, late nights and good drinks are all well appreciated by Spanish women, so don’t worry about letting yourself go.

4. Don't try to win an arguement. She is "always right".Spanish women don't like to lose an argument.

5. Do pay the meal. Thats expected, and you won't be disappointed if you do.

6. Don't talk about your Exs. Totally off limits unless you want trouble.

7. Do it with passion or don't do it at all. Be affectionate, straightforward, out going. Make sure she knows you are interested.

8. Do pick her up and drop her off.

9. Avoid unnecessary criticism.

Let's call him A (for Adventure ) he's around 50, a good technician, will never have a problem finding a job, right now he's up for technical manager at his company with one other candidate and feeling increasingly stressed. He and his wife used to do a lot of hiking, and he wants to quit the job and go hiking for a month in the mountains to re-set his head. The route he's looking at has scattered villages but there would also be some nights they'd have to camp out.

His wife, a full-time housewife, takes a little persuading. She leaves all the route-planning and arrangements up to him but finds out all the kit they will need, buys it, packs it, and sorts their iron rations. They’ll be limited to a 40kg load – it is understood he will carry the 30kg backpack, she the 10kg one. He will pitch the tent on the nights they sleep out, sort the campsite (including lighting the fire), she will cook nutritious meals, make chunky sandwiches for each following day, and warm his sleeping bag at night. She's genuinely looking forward to it.
Or
His wife is completely up for it, and gets her employers to agree she can take the month off. They study the route together, shop together, and will carry equal 20kg packs. They’ll share all the chores and take it in turns to lead the climb, and since good sleep is essential, they will pitch their tents alongside each other on the nights they sleep out
Or
She tells him he’s insane and simply reacting to stress at the office. If he ducks out now he will never recover the ground he’s about to lose, all the time he has invested in his career so far will be put back years. She suggests instead that he go for a weekend hike with a friend from his climbing group.
Or
She says oh, okay, when will you go? Enjoy yourself!

Which wife would he want – and, maybe a different answer, which wife does he need?

(For those who think I use CS only for book research, yes and no - this isn't a book in the making but yup, genuinely interested in what people think)

This act of treason had always been the biggest imaginable taboo in my family and I have the dubious honor to be the first in the family to have attained such status.

Since then an uncle, my sister and a cousin got divorced but that did not count. My parents continued to recognize my first wife as my rightful wife and saw to it that she was invited to any event where the family would gather. They put me under such pressure that we tried to give it another go but once again it was a no go.

After being happily divorced for eighteen years, during a short spell of temporary insanity, I took the plunge again; just to set the stage to commit the unforgivable crime a second time. For five years my parents stopped to invite my first wife to our family gatherings. My mother passed away while I was married to my second wife but the moment I got divorced again my first wife was called back to take her ‘rightful’ place in the family.

My father’s doing; with maybe a bit of conniving by my sister as well. And I know this will continue until either my father or my first wife goes off to the happy hunting grounds. Does it have to be until death do us part?

This is an awkward situation for I can never take a girlfriend with me to a family gathering because my first wife will be there as sure as there is a sun in the sky. I made that mistake once. My first wife has a way to make people uneasy without attracting the attention of the other people around. She may be a perfect lady on the surface but there is a bìtch lurking beneath.

Now, I don’t mind my first wife. We have discovered many years ago that we are much better friends than lovers. We call one another from time to time and when I happen to be in the suburb where she lives, I normally drop in to say hello. After all, she is the mother of my children but I don’t want her around all the time. For suck’s fake, I have a piece of paper with the court’s stamp on it that says that we are no longer married and our children are grown up and married.


Cheer up! It is almost weekend again!

We all, whether on our profile, or just in our heads, have a list of the characteristics and qualities we would like in a potential partner.
The list can be mind-boggling in some cases , both for the prospective partner, and even more importantly for ourselves.

To differentiate between them, maybe we should break them down into categories, from the Gamechanger down to the Would be nice, but basically Inessential

1. Gamechanger

2. Preferable but not a gamechanger

3. Desirable, but not that important

4. Would be nice, but basically Inessential

When we think about it properly, we may have no gamechangers, but lots of No. 2s instead.

No two people will have exactly the same order of necessity. Indeed, some people’s priorities are polar opposites to others.
But it is good for ourselves to know them either way.


If we sort them out, it may be easier to separate the wheat from the chaff, and concentrate on what is really important to us.