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I was 25 when I opened up myself for a romantic relationship. My friends said that it wasn't even real because it was online. We met and carry our relationship online without meeting up in person. To me it was real, i meant every word and everything I did for our relationship. However, we still separated after 4 years.

Moving on, I got lonely, and even when its dangerous and there's too much prejudice attached to a filipina dating in Saudi Arabia, I did it for my loneliness. And because I can bend some rules at my own risk.

After numerous dates though, mostly meeting the guys once, some twice and 2 a few months and 1 labeled relationship, I realized the men (non saudis, expats like me) won't look for anything more than casual. It broke my heart more than the breakup with my boyfriend for 4 years.

So yeah, i don't know if its better for me to take myself back online, or continue dating men without a hope for future. Or stop all the effort and just wait for God's perfect time.

This is the second time I've had a 'like' from someone who is still online but instead of the option of 'like him back' CS says N/A -

It's not that I would, he is in his 30s and obviously pressing 'like' at random - he isn't even in Europe - but it puzzled me. Anyone know what that's about?

So I be talking with this lady who has been trying the internet dating thing. Yes, sure she gets the usual duds who live in their parents basement and need their parent's permission to borrow the car.

She also got the muscular guy who texted he wanted to go out with her, and she told him about a club near by her she wished to go to that night only to have Mr. Muscles tell her he couldn't date her that night because it was a gym night.

Then there was the Egyptian working in Washington, DC (doing God knows what) who promised her $100 if she would come by his home and cook a meal for him with promises of romantic candlelight dining. She explained to him a date is about the man taking the woman out, not visiting the man at home. His texted reply was she wasn't that attractive anyway. <A provable lie> Two weeks later out of the blue the Egyptian texted again to tell her he would give her a second chance to if she would come to his house. She ignored the text only to get another a few days later calling her a c*nt and a worthless bi*ch.

A coworker told her about a single US Park Police man she knew and gave a Facebook page. My friend messaged the man and got many useless texts in return. Hi. How are you? What are you doing this weekend? Etc. A useless text every day. Finally after 2 weeks of that my lady friend asked him, are you going to ask me out or what? This was answered with, what are you doing this weekend. She told him she was gong to a club in West Virginia with girl coworkers, but she gave him the address/date and suggested he meet her there. So masculine and handsome he looks in his online Facebook photos. He agreed. At the date and time however he was no show. An hour after she left the club with her coworkers he texted he was still in Baltimore with friends, but maybe another time. Three days later on a 45 (F) degree day he suggested she come hike in West Virginia with him as a first date. When she turned down hiking in the cold as a first date, for the next week he texted, Hi, how are you? What are you doing today? <Working and alive of course.>

By then, online, she had found an ex-marine and ex-army Ranger with 3 tours in Iraq and Afghanistan, who was now civilian and working contract for one of the alphabet agencies. He also scuba dived, had climbed mountains in the Himalayas, and looked (her words) like Adonis. She asked me to vet him, I did, he was real. He asks her out for dinner.. He arrives and tells her he is broke. She is psyched for the date and doesn't care and pays for the dinner. And also the cover charge and other charges at the club next door where they drink and dance. She has him take her home and invites him in. They make out on her couch and she invites him to spend the night. He instead tells her he has to get up in the morning and leaves. The next day he texts her thanks for the meal, asks her what she is doing and tells her he is going camping with some of his male coworkers. My conclusion, Gay or a virgin.

Finally 4 or 5 dud/scammer duds later she connects with a Navy 1st LT who seems really interested and while doing a trip to Pittsburgh suggests they meet for coffee on his return. Cute photos, and again easily vetted by me for her. Totally real. Decent looking too, and single. So they meet at a coffee bar for 3 hours. Hugs on meeting. I saw the selfie, she is hot, hot, hot. Hugs on parting. She expected a kiss on the cheek, but just a long hug. That's okay. A first meeting. I told her he would probably text her in a few hours and ask for a second date. In a few hours he did text. Told her it was lovely and asked what was she doing tomorrow. She said nothing much, expecting and hoping for a time sharing suggestion. Instead he wrote back, i am hanging around my house because Monday will be a work day and I want to rest. I told her don't despair, let him rest, the libido will rise and he will ask you out.

Why is it, that when you state you are not looking for someone else in your life, that people (in my case, men) either don't read it, don't think you're serious, or think you've become hopeless?

Does it ever occur to anyone that some of us really LIKE being on our own? That our preference is to continue to live on our own, doing what we like to do, when we like to do it, and don't have to consider anyone else?

I made a joke in my profile about Prince Charming and seeking a frog. But I ensured I put in my profile that I was not looking, that I was here to blog. I wrote how one guy had made assumptions without knowing a darn thing about me.

Then another one emailed me and said it was funny (which it was supposed to be) but it appeared I was hopeless at finding anyone. Huh? I don't want to find anyone! Nothing to do with hopeless, just not friggen interested. When I emailed back to say I wan't hopeless, just not looking, he came back with something else about being hopeless. Whatever. Go away.

What is it? That I simply like to blog and because the other site was unmoderated and had become a drama mess, I was simply looking for somewhere else to blog. I'm not interested in any long distance relationship, or online courting, or anything else. I exchanged emails with one guy, and when he read in a blog that I'd gone to North Bend on my own, he called me stupid. Yeah, that's a real come on. Eff off. If I waited for someone else to go with me to places, I'd never go anywhere.

I'm not some shrinking violet that needs someone of the male persuasion to protect me, and in fact, have found in my life, the times I've been in danger and needed protection are from men, not from animals. So give me nature any day.

No, I don't hate men. In fact, I thoroughly enjoy their different viewpoint and discussions on numerous subjects. I actually love men, I just don't want one in my life. I've lived on my own for almost 30 years, and I would have loved to have been in the traditional role of staying home and keeping the home fires burning while hubby went off to work. It didn't work out that way, and now that I've attained all my assets on my own, am I going to let someone move in with me to take half of them? Not bloody likely. I don't want half of theirs, either.

Sure, there are times having a male around would be great, but very few want what I want. I just want a companion that we could do stuff with on occasion, but any man I've ever met wants to be 'completed'. What's with that? I'm not incomplete, so if someone feels they are, then they need a lot more than I can give.

Hopeless? No, not in the least. Many of my pursuits are solitary, and I not only am comfortable with my own company, I really like it. And that's where people get a false idea that if you're alone, you're lonely. Not in the least. The loneliest I've ever been was when I was married.

At this stage of my life, I know what I do and don't want. I don't want someone else in my life. That's not hopeless. That's happiness!

Some people prefer not to upload a pic in his/her profile. Reasons, reasons and more reasons.

The only thing I can promise you is kissing you, teasing you so you smile, care about you when you are sad , give you a massage, talk your ear off, make love whit you, I will do that every day , for the rest of our lives,
I'm not a fantasy man, just an ordinary man
Not as first thing to write

She has set her notifications that prevent communication from those in faraway lands. I send her a LIKE in hopes that she will reconsider her position and allow a message to be received from another continent. I can understand her reluctance - this person she desires should be within 50 miles or less for practical reasons - and where too would I find the money to pay for a flight (when flights resume more as they should) to get her to me or vice versa? I'm idealistic, I know, but shouldn't we believe love will find out the way? As per the following poem:

Love Will Find Out The Way

Over the mountains
And over the waves,
Under the fountains
And under the graves;
Under floods that are deepest,
Which Neptune obey,
Over rocks that are steepest,
Love will find out the way.

When there is no place
For the glow-worm to lie,
When there is no space
For receipt of a fly;
When the midge dares not venture
Lest herself fast she lay,
If Love come, he will enter
And will find out the way.

You may esteem him
A child for his might;
Or you may deem him
A coward for his flight;
But if she whom Love doth honour
Be conceal'd from the day-
Set a thousand guards upon her,
Love will find out the way.

Some think to lose him
By having him confined;
And some do suppose him,
Poor heart! to be blind;
But if ne'er so close ye wall him,
Do the best that ye may,
Blind Love, if so ye call him,
He will find out his way.

You may train the eagle
To stoop to your fist;
Or you may inveigle
The Phoenix of the east;
The lioness, you may move her
To give over her prey;
But you'll ne'er stop a lover-
He will find out the way.

If the earth it should part him,
He would gallop it o'er;
If the seas should o'erthwart him,
He would swim to the shore;
Should his Love become a swallow,
Through the air to stray,
Love will lend wings to follow,
And will find out the way.

There is no striving
To cross his intent;
There is no contriving
His plots to prevent;
But if once the message greet him
That his True Love doth stay,
If Death should come and meet him,
Love will find out the way!

Anonymous Olde English

It has been my experience that while talking to a woman, a man should just keep his mouth shut until she is completely finished talking....no matter if it is for 10 seconds or for 10 minutes. I don't care if you are surprised to hear and you want to share with her that you also named your dog Sparkling Piss....keep your mouth shut and just listen and let her finish. If not, I have found the conversations usually end shortly afterwards.

Just my 2 pennies.

This should be a fun exercise. It is only intended to make each gender better understand each other.


Okay...to better understand each other, name something(s) that men do bad to women...and now vice versa...name something bad that women do to men.


Maybe we can better understand each other's arguments about each other.