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I went dancing with my sister and her husband last night. I don’t really like dancing but we do this once every six weeks or so and as it was my turn to drive home, I ‘had’ to go. We arrived late with just on three hours of dancing left which pleased me.

I suppose you’re going to ask if I met somebody. Well, yes and no. That is yes, I met somebody new and no, she is not my dream girl. But we spent a very pleasant evening together. So much so that I took her phone number; she definitely merits another date or two before she goes back home.

Whaat!! Another one going home?

Yes, she lives in one of the Northern provinces and is visiting her brother and his wife for four weeks. I was lucky enough to catch her on the third day of her visit.

Not quite a looker and one or two kilos more than what I would have preferred (almost cuddly) and a she dances worse than I do; read that as bad but she dresses to her body and definitely not somebody to be ashamed of. She turned out to be very good company and considerate too. When she discovered that I was on minerals only, she switched to it as well.

After the first dance I kept her for another and she never left my side again. At some stage, while dancing, I tugged her by her smallish love-handles for a few seconds to pull her closer to me and she smiled at me, so at the very least there are some promises of more to come.

It was a glorious wind still summer night and we spent some time sitting on the veranda. If I did not have to drive my sister home we would have pushed off to a quieter place.

Before the dance I did not want to go there and afterwards I did not want to go home. Good evenings always end too quickly.


The weekend is about over but enjoy it in any way.

You say you want to know "what makes us men Tick ?"
How do we really see the complex dynamic world of intimate relationships.
I doubt you can handle the truth. But seeing as the blogs have of late taken the form of a cheap Psychiatrist's Ikea couch, I feel I should follow suit and try some amateur shrinkage myself.
But before we proceed let me just assert;
This subject is something you should best leave alone, and for your own sake too I may add.

If you still feel the need to explore the workings of the Male Psyche, Perhaps you should first familiarize yourself with the following Illustration to soften the blow.

The stars aligned and it happened.

Under the red moon, they came from every corner of the globe. Asians; Americans; Africans and Europeans.

They  met in a small Spanish restaurant in a small Spanish town to prove that culture and ethnicity didn't matter a damn , friendship is more important.

 The young pretty Asian with the long eyelashes was even bubblier and funnier than ever.
Her adoring American was friendly, chatty  and convivial.

The diminutive Spanish firebrand was as impish and gregarious as ever.

The Englishman took everything in, and just threw  in his tuppence worth whenever he wished. No change there.

The South African was relieved to have arrived even if her pu**y wasn't so enamoured. She dealt with it all stoically and good humouredly as usual.

The other American joined in the conversation easily. Just don't expect him to walk far without  caffeine running through his veins.

The Irish one avoided the dreaded cameras as only she can do.

The missing Rhodesian joined the party via video chat. Nobody was left out.

Many hours were spent chatting and laughing under the red  CS moon.
That is what it's all about.

Women claim to like sex just as much as men. If that were the case, how come I hear it repeatedly...many times....to the point it is just about the norm....that men in relationships with women, say for 3 or 4 years or more, never get sex from their woman anymore? It is always the same, after I got married, I am not getting any.

Are women lying about enjoying sex as much as men?

or

Do women love sex just as much as men....but not with their husbands?

or

Is that an ignorant statement by women, because they don't realize how much men enjoy sex?

Lately, my observation about the blogs is....they are very boring! It seems that the same stuff is posted every day with a little different spin! But still the same old stuff!

Let try and use our imaginations and get creative! Tired of hearing about the "pity parties"!

Let's put some excitement into the blog to make them worth reading!

What do you think?

Maybe the new way of dating for some people.
Guess it makes them feel like superheros

I struggle with the notion of being in a "serious" relationship. I am a person who needs alone time and a fair amount of it. Albert Einstein recognized that creativity can not flourish in an environment of constant external stimulation. And I am nothing if not a creative type.

The last relationship I was in, we were both people who needed alone time as well as deep connection time. Problem was, he wanted alone time when I wanted connection time, and vice versa. It felt like a constant battle of wills. So, can one find a partner who is similar in their emotional needs as well as in the timing of those needs? I have no idea.

I am working in an environment now where I get as much social interaction as I could possibly need, but lately (maybe 6 weeks or so), because of the particular personalities of the people who have been staying here, I feel like I have socialitis... serious overload. I hide out in my sanctuary and that keeps me sane, but it's not like having a place to myself. Someone is always just around the corner, so to speak, and if they catch me, I get to hear another hour long story about their lives.

So, finally, it looks like I will get a few days to do whatever I please. I am rapidly feeling a sensation of bliss.


I feel bad for people who have expectations of me. I'm not able to meet those expectations and I'm afraid I'm pissing some folks off.


Any commiseration is greatly appreciated.

I've seen blogs and comments on romance - candlelit dinners, spontaneous gifts, trips away. They always sound expensive.

I looked at recent blogs to find romantic examples and oh dear we have all been a bit anti romance lately, haven't we? The only one I spotted was a holiday fling on the very very cheap. Whatever rocks your boat, of course, and a budget bonk is probably just as romantic as being wined, dined and treated as precious, but that's the thing, why should it all be about spending a lot to sound fun?

Romance CAN be a walk along the beach in moonlight.

It CAN be reaching through thorns to pick and present a perfect rose.

Romance can be learning your loved one's language privately to surprise him or her with a fluent message of love.

Romance on CS can be changing your search details so they only fit one person - and waiting for her to notice.

So here's a challenge to you - let's bring some romance back into this dating site. Something catch-your-breath romantic you've had happen to you, or heard about, or wish would happen - at little or no cost? Can we do it?

First off, I’m not talking about celibacy for religious reasons here but rather celibacy that strengthens fidelity, loyalty, respect and trust in a relationship… specifically that of a long distance relationship.

Fighting off temptations is a hard thing to do. s*xual energy is a very potent energy and attraction towards opposite sex ( or same sex for others ) are natural. There are different ways to channel s*xual energies to creative uses that could help fight temptation. Spending quality time with my kid, getting busy, work and blogging are the few things that help keep naughty thoughts off my mind

I had a long heartfelt conversation with my BF last night. Maybe he was drunk...he said he feels guilty of not being here to give me what I should have… I’m much younger than him and I’m at the prime of my s*xual life but not getting enough of it …and that if I decide to have sex with someone I’m attracted to he would understand. He prefer that I don’t but if I really want to enjoy myself then he will accept. He assured me that there’s no one else for him but me and he can’t imagine his life without me in it even with the distance between us now. I told him NO, I could never do such disrespectful thing and maybe just maybe if I could I would just for the heck of it. I’ve already chatted with some nice guys online and could meet anyone here local but it never crossed my thick skull to have some fun sex with any of them. I gave him my word that I would wait and keep myself for him as long as we are in this relationship. I would ask for a complete break before exploring the s*xual world with someone else. He said maybe I should try it to be sure that this is what I really want. Well, I’m not going to risk our relationship for some s*xual rendezvous that would surely make me feel shitty guilty afterwards. If that happens, he will never hear nor see me again. I'd rather wait and enjoy making love with him than have it with someone else and feel horrible about it afterwards.

Anyway, I’m looking forward to seeing him next weekend…if he could manage to book a flight and hotel as it will be Eid holiday here and a very busy time. Our weird conversation ended up with him asking for goodnight kisses and me reassuring him that I’m all his and that I won’t do any stupid things beyond blogging and of course some harmless chat and flirtations in the virtual land …easier said done that!

Well, I’m human, I’m a woman…I have needs, I have longings but here I am practicing celibacy for months …all in the name of love. Sure I can go on without sex for years….can you? Really , really?

As I type this, photographs of beautiful women are clustered around the blog frame. I could date chinese women, I am being offered 5 or 6 beauties right here on CS, and there are some lovelies at the bottom of the page as well.

Excuse me while I go cut my throat in the face of all this competition. Have my settings just changed, or is this new?

And CS website designers, um, couple of women bloggers here as well. Some male totty would be nice. Just saying.