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I am not into one night stands.
It is amazing how many women write in their profile “I'm not looking for one night stands or friends with benefits, so please pass me by.”
Whats even more amazing is that these women often post loads of pics in different poses some even in bikinis and they wonder why they attract seedy comments from men.
Mind you, you should see some of these honey’s, boy, they are not attractive, makes me realize why paper bags were invented. In fact some are so unattractive I’ll bet they put a pork chop around their neck so the dog will play with them!
All that said, I wonder what type of response a woman would get if her profile stated.... “I do on the first date”!
Whats even more amazing is that these women often post loads of pics in different poses some even in bikinis and they wonder why they attract seedy comments from men.
Mind you, you should see some of these honey’s, boy, they are not attractive, makes me realize why paper bags were invented. In fact some are so unattractive I’ll bet they put a pork chop around their neck so the dog will play with them!
All that said, I wonder what type of response a woman would get if her profile stated.... “I do on the first date”!
contact info
how soon after messaging someone online is appropriate to exchange phone numbers or any other contact information?
i know its up to the individuals but just asking to get some perspective here.
i know its up to the individuals but just asking to get some perspective here.
Relationship Killers
Most problems in a relationship can be tackled as a couple but some problems are troublesome and sometimes impossible to fix. The main ingredients for a happy relationship are mutual respect and communication. Without that no relationship can endure.
Mutual Contempt
If left unchecked, contempt will erode the very foundation of your relationship. Contempt is so bad, it has been identified it as the single best forerunner of divorce. If one or both partners are unwilling to soften and stop fighting, the problem will get worse until there is no coming back.
Never Wrong
You will not always agree with each other. Agree to disagree. As a couple, you need to realize that no one wins when one of you always has to be right. This is made worse by the inability to forgive and by a refusal to discuss the issue further.
Chronic Infidelity
Being in a relationship with a serial cheater is frustrating. The relationship can only be repaired if the unfaithful partner is honest about what happened and fully prepared to leave the affair behind.
Secrecy
Time apart is essential but there should be no mystery about it. There is a difference between privacy and secrecy. A relationship needs sharing and openness.
Incompatible Sex Drives
For most people, a mutually fulfilling sex life is incredibly important. Establish your sexua1 compatibility early on. This is a true killer.
Incompatible Attachment Styles
If you like being close and intimate, but your partner is avoidant and dismissive, there will be problems. It undermines your self-esteem to be with someone who shows you no affection or compliments, engages in mechanical sex and has no desire for closeness with you.
Narcissism
If your partner is truly narcissistic, maintaining your relationship is going to be an uphill battle. Nothing you do will be good enough and most of the time you will be criticized for making life miserable.
Cannot Open Up
You need to lay bare your problems and frustrations. It’s problematic if one of you prefers to keep your emotions bottled up. You will end up distancing yourself from your partner, giving up prematurely.
So, there you are, but none of this applies to you. It is your partner who has the problems.
May you have a wonderful day.
Mutual Contempt
If left unchecked, contempt will erode the very foundation of your relationship. Contempt is so bad, it has been identified it as the single best forerunner of divorce. If one or both partners are unwilling to soften and stop fighting, the problem will get worse until there is no coming back.
Never Wrong
You will not always agree with each other. Agree to disagree. As a couple, you need to realize that no one wins when one of you always has to be right. This is made worse by the inability to forgive and by a refusal to discuss the issue further.
Chronic Infidelity
Being in a relationship with a serial cheater is frustrating. The relationship can only be repaired if the unfaithful partner is honest about what happened and fully prepared to leave the affair behind.
Secrecy
Time apart is essential but there should be no mystery about it. There is a difference between privacy and secrecy. A relationship needs sharing and openness.
Incompatible Sex Drives
For most people, a mutually fulfilling sex life is incredibly important. Establish your sexua1 compatibility early on. This is a true killer.
Incompatible Attachment Styles
If you like being close and intimate, but your partner is avoidant and dismissive, there will be problems. It undermines your self-esteem to be with someone who shows you no affection or compliments, engages in mechanical sex and has no desire for closeness with you.
Narcissism
If your partner is truly narcissistic, maintaining your relationship is going to be an uphill battle. Nothing you do will be good enough and most of the time you will be criticized for making life miserable.
Cannot Open Up
You need to lay bare your problems and frustrations. It’s problematic if one of you prefers to keep your emotions bottled up. You will end up distancing yourself from your partner, giving up prematurely.
So, there you are, but none of this applies to you. It is your partner who has the problems.
May you have a wonderful day.
An Amusing Conversation
I received a PM from a 26 year old, obese Asian girl with a very cute face. She claimed to be a professor living in Cape Town. She has two photos in her profile. The other one is or a slender woman with blond hair. Both were taken at recognizable landmarks in Cape Town. Normally I would have deleted it but I decided to have fun with her/him.
Her | Feb 3, 6:00 AM
Hi.your penise have power to erict...or.need bl** job.say truth
Myself | Feb 3, 6:15 AM
You are way too inexperienced for me, baby. I'll break your back.
Her | Feb 4, 5:25 AM
Hello u r annoy with me hmm
Myself | Feb 4, 5:36 AM
No, Sweetie, You're just too young for me. If my grandson was three years older I would have introduced him to you.
Her | Feb 4, 8:02 AM
Soory if yiu can break my back in such old age imagine he will not break my ribs in young age???
Myself | Feb 4, 8:11 AM
You are a naughty girl for the job that you are doing. I pity your students.
Her | Feb 4, 8:32 AM
I keep my stundents on butt and some on boobs??
Myself | Feb 4, 8:33 AM
Where do I enrol?
Her | Feb 4, 10:13 AM
Where u vish babe
Her | Feb 4, 10:22 AM
Babe why u dont like big girls. Big girls seem very sexy like me
(She read this in my profile)
Myself | Feb 4, 10:39 AM
They tire too quickly. Cannot keep the pace.
Her | 24 hrs ago
How quickly? I will manage for you as you wish
Myself | 24 hrs ago
I told you that I'll break your back. Now, jokes aside, I've been around for a long, long time and don't believe a single word in your profile. You're just too streetwise to be who you say you are. It was kind of fun talking to you, whoever you are.
Her | 20 hrs ago
U are a lover of whom? Realy i liked u thats why msg u. Otherwise too many people msg me but i am not intrested in any one. Sory for hurting u. Actually i am very crazy and funny
I did not reply yet. Her last message has me worried; am I playing the fool with a real person? Suddenly she sounds lonely and not like a scammer. But she started it off in the wrong way and her profile is not kosher.
May you have a whale of a day.
Her | Feb 3, 6:00 AM
Hi.your penise have power to erict...or.need bl** job.say truth
Myself | Feb 3, 6:15 AM
You are way too inexperienced for me, baby. I'll break your back.
Her | Feb 4, 5:25 AM
Hello u r annoy with me hmm
Myself | Feb 4, 5:36 AM
No, Sweetie, You're just too young for me. If my grandson was three years older I would have introduced him to you.
Her | Feb 4, 8:02 AM
Soory if yiu can break my back in such old age imagine he will not break my ribs in young age???
Myself | Feb 4, 8:11 AM
You are a naughty girl for the job that you are doing. I pity your students.
Her | Feb 4, 8:32 AM
I keep my stundents on butt and some on boobs??
Myself | Feb 4, 8:33 AM
Where do I enrol?
Her | Feb 4, 10:13 AM
Where u vish babe
Her | Feb 4, 10:22 AM
Babe why u dont like big girls. Big girls seem very sexy like me
(She read this in my profile)
Myself | Feb 4, 10:39 AM
They tire too quickly. Cannot keep the pace.
Her | 24 hrs ago
How quickly? I will manage for you as you wish
Myself | 24 hrs ago
I told you that I'll break your back. Now, jokes aside, I've been around for a long, long time and don't believe a single word in your profile. You're just too streetwise to be who you say you are. It was kind of fun talking to you, whoever you are.
Her | 20 hrs ago
U are a lover of whom? Realy i liked u thats why msg u. Otherwise too many people msg me but i am not intrested in any one. Sory for hurting u. Actually i am very crazy and funny
I did not reply yet. Her last message has me worried; am I playing the fool with a real person? Suddenly she sounds lonely and not like a scammer. But she started it off in the wrong way and her profile is not kosher.
May you have a whale of a day.
Women!!
I should have taken my late grandfathers advice when he said that women were made to love; not to understand. Now, with hindsight, it makes perfect sense. After all, there is no logic in love either. 
The source of my current confusion is my ex girlfriend. She broke up with me two weeks ago. This did not come as a complete surprise as we saw very little of each other, though we did enjoy each other when we were together. The surprise was more in the timing – she did it one day before her birthday.
Anyway, she phoned me the same evening to hear if I was OK; as if I was going to hang myself in the garage.
Then the next morning she called me to remind me that I promised her a night out on her birthday. Well, we went eating out, had a few drinks at a nearby pub and went home. She stayed for the night.
The confusing part is that while she regularly reminds me that we’re no longer an item, she now spends more time with me than ever before; and she no longer goes to those boring parties. When her friends call, she declines their invitations. She spends her weekends with me, doing the things I want to do. And I now have a key to her place.
Before she broke up she used to sleep over one night a week (normally on a Sunday or a Monday) and we went out Wednesday evenings. Since she broke up (22 November) until now, she only slept at her home three times. And every time she asked me to spend the night at her place. I accepted once.
She has a way to break surprises while I’m still half asleep. This morning she asked me if she can spend her holiday (16 Dec – 6 Jan) here with me. “But you are here in anyway”, I said.
“No”, she replied, “not like that. I mean coming here with a suitcase, as if I’m a thousand miles from home, not going home to change.” She’ll chip in with the food, she added. All this only a few hours since she last reminded me that we’re not an item anymore.
Well, try as I want, I cannot understand her train of thoughts. Maybe if I try not to understand, I eventually will.
You have a wonderful day.
The source of my current confusion is my ex girlfriend. She broke up with me two weeks ago. This did not come as a complete surprise as we saw very little of each other, though we did enjoy each other when we were together. The surprise was more in the timing – she did it one day before her birthday.
Anyway, she phoned me the same evening to hear if I was OK; as if I was going to hang myself in the garage.
Then the next morning she called me to remind me that I promised her a night out on her birthday. Well, we went eating out, had a few drinks at a nearby pub and went home. She stayed for the night.
The confusing part is that while she regularly reminds me that we’re no longer an item, she now spends more time with me than ever before; and she no longer goes to those boring parties. When her friends call, she declines their invitations. She spends her weekends with me, doing the things I want to do. And I now have a key to her place.
Before she broke up she used to sleep over one night a week (normally on a Sunday or a Monday) and we went out Wednesday evenings. Since she broke up (22 November) until now, she only slept at her home three times. And every time she asked me to spend the night at her place. I accepted once.
She has a way to break surprises while I’m still half asleep. This morning she asked me if she can spend her holiday (16 Dec – 6 Jan) here with me. “But you are here in anyway”, I said.
“No”, she replied, “not like that. I mean coming here with a suitcase, as if I’m a thousand miles from home, not going home to change.” She’ll chip in with the food, she added. All this only a few hours since she last reminded me that we’re not an item anymore.
Well, try as I want, I cannot understand her train of thoughts. Maybe if I try not to understand, I eventually will.
You have a wonderful day.
mature female bloggers only, sorry.
Skip into the video if you think I lost my marbles
Barn-sweeping guy turns into dancing guy -
So tell me, you guys who looked despite the heading, are you that flexible? can you still shake that booty? dance for several minutes without falling over? Women watch a man strutting his stuff, they like to know he has moves - and the older he is, the more unusual it is.
I'm not looking up his phone number or anything, but speaking as a mature female blogger, I can count on the fingers of one eyelid the number of older men who can or will dance at all. I'd date him. Even if he does smell slightly of goat. I would!
And yeah, you youngsters who are sni**ering in disbelief - shoo. Out.
Barn-sweeping guy turns into dancing guy -
So tell me, you guys who looked despite the heading, are you that flexible? can you still shake that booty? dance for several minutes without falling over? Women watch a man strutting his stuff, they like to know he has moves - and the older he is, the more unusual it is.
I'm not looking up his phone number or anything, but speaking as a mature female blogger, I can count on the fingers of one eyelid the number of older men who can or will dance at all. I'd date him. Even if he does smell slightly of goat. I would!
And yeah, you youngsters who are sni**ering in disbelief - shoo. Out.
What An Adorable Man..
ONE
He had a meeting with his friends from the sport club, an online meeting ofcourse. He told me that one of his friends noticed something and asked him.
His friend : Hey, what happened to your razor? Is it broken?
Him : Nope. There is this woman. Her name is Kal from Indonesia. I have grown my whiskers for her.
My silent response -->
~~
TWO
Once I asked him if there's any Muslim in his area. He said he wasn’t sure if there is.
Me : Let say I come to your city and I accompany you to a sport event where there are many friends of yours. What do you think will your friends say or do when seeing me, a Muslim woman wearing hijab, holding your hand?
Him : They will be nice to you because you are with me.
My silent response -->
~~
THREE
Sometimes when we video called, he let the door behind him open so I could see his son’s bedroom door. Once I saw his son entering his room.
Me : Is that your son?
Him : Yes, the youngest. Do you want to be introduced to him?
Me : Naah. I am not ready. Next time, ok
Him : Sure, whenever you're ready
My silent response -->
~~
FOUR
I told him about what a big tall western man did to me when we’re on the Train from Paris to The Netherlands.
Him : If I was with you that moment, do you want me to act accordingly?
Me : Naah, I can handle it. If he started being abusive, then it’s your turn.
Him : I have never been beaten but I am not afraid to
Me : Nooo… I don’t want that to happen
My silent response -->
And every day there is always something, even just a little thing, that makes my heart touched.
Isn’t he so very adorable or what?
Have a good weekend, everyone!
He had a meeting with his friends from the sport club, an online meeting ofcourse. He told me that one of his friends noticed something and asked him.
His friend : Hey, what happened to your razor? Is it broken?
Him : Nope. There is this woman. Her name is Kal from Indonesia. I have grown my whiskers for her.
My silent response -->
~~
TWO
Once I asked him if there's any Muslim in his area. He said he wasn’t sure if there is.
Me : Let say I come to your city and I accompany you to a sport event where there are many friends of yours. What do you think will your friends say or do when seeing me, a Muslim woman wearing hijab, holding your hand?
Him : They will be nice to you because you are with me.
My silent response -->
~~
THREE
Sometimes when we video called, he let the door behind him open so I could see his son’s bedroom door. Once I saw his son entering his room.
Me : Is that your son?
Him : Yes, the youngest. Do you want to be introduced to him?
Me : Naah. I am not ready. Next time, ok
Him : Sure, whenever you're ready
My silent response -->
~~
FOUR
I told him about what a big tall western man did to me when we’re on the Train from Paris to The Netherlands.
Him : If I was with you that moment, do you want me to act accordingly?
Me : Naah, I can handle it. If he started being abusive, then it’s your turn.
Him : I have never been beaten but I am not afraid to
Me : Nooo… I don’t want that to happen
My silent response -->
And every day there is always something, even just a little thing, that makes my heart touched.
Isn’t he so very adorable or what?
Have a good weekend, everyone!
guilty
Do you feel guilty for being in and out of relationships when you have a very close and dear friend who cannot get in one?
woman w/ boyfriend
What do you think?
Would you respect a woman who has a boyfriend....even if he is away in another city and she is inviting you back to her house to help her "clean" her house?
She was a great woman...short...and cute...with a great personality...who wanted to provide me with a nipple to drink from.
But, she had a boyfriend.
Do you respect she has a boyfriend and tell her to go home by herself?
For you women, do you respect he has a girlfriend and tell him to go home by himself?
even though....
she/he makes your juices flow?
Would you respect a woman who has a boyfriend....even if he is away in another city and she is inviting you back to her house to help her "clean" her house?
She was a great woman...short...and cute...with a great personality...who wanted to provide me with a nipple to drink from.
But, she had a boyfriend.
Do you respect she has a boyfriend and tell her to go home by herself?
For you women, do you respect he has a girlfriend and tell him to go home by himself?
even though....
she/he makes your juices flow?
Kilted Yoga - Enjoy :-)
No words needed....
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