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Karma
What is it with the most interesting people not living here or at least near me?
Karma is kinda rough sometimes, isn't?
Karma is kinda rough sometimes, isn't?
What An Adorable Man..
ONE
He had a meeting with his friends from the sport club, an online meeting ofcourse. He told me that one of his friends noticed something and asked him.
His friend : Hey, what happened to your razor? Is it broken?
Him : Nope. There is this woman. Her name is Kal from Indonesia. I have grown my whiskers for her.
My silent response -->
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TWO
Once I asked him if there's any Muslim in his area. He said he wasn’t sure if there is.
Me : Let say I come to your city and I accompany you to a sport event where there are many friends of yours. What do you think will your friends say or do when seeing me, a Muslim woman wearing hijab, holding your hand?
Him : They will be nice to you because you are with me.
My silent response -->
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THREE
Sometimes when we video called, he let the door behind him open so I could see his son’s bedroom door. Once I saw his son entering his room.
Me : Is that your son?
Him : Yes, the youngest. Do you want to be introduced to him?
Me : Naah. I am not ready. Next time, ok
Him : Sure, whenever you're ready
My silent response -->
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FOUR
I told him about what a big tall western man did to me when we’re on the Train from Paris to The Netherlands.
Him : If I was with you that moment, do you want me to act accordingly?
Me : Naah, I can handle it. If he started being abusive, then it’s your turn.
Him : I have never been beaten but I am not afraid to
Me : Nooo… I don’t want that to happen
My silent response -->
And every day there is always something, even just a little thing, that makes my heart touched.
Isn’t he so very adorable or what?
Have a good weekend, everyone!
He had a meeting with his friends from the sport club, an online meeting ofcourse. He told me that one of his friends noticed something and asked him.
His friend : Hey, what happened to your razor? Is it broken?
Him : Nope. There is this woman. Her name is Kal from Indonesia. I have grown my whiskers for her.
My silent response -->
~~
TWO
Once I asked him if there's any Muslim in his area. He said he wasn’t sure if there is.
Me : Let say I come to your city and I accompany you to a sport event where there are many friends of yours. What do you think will your friends say or do when seeing me, a Muslim woman wearing hijab, holding your hand?
Him : They will be nice to you because you are with me.
My silent response -->
~~
THREE
Sometimes when we video called, he let the door behind him open so I could see his son’s bedroom door. Once I saw his son entering his room.
Me : Is that your son?
Him : Yes, the youngest. Do you want to be introduced to him?
Me : Naah. I am not ready. Next time, ok
Him : Sure, whenever you're ready
My silent response -->
~~
FOUR
I told him about what a big tall western man did to me when we’re on the Train from Paris to The Netherlands.
Him : If I was with you that moment, do you want me to act accordingly?
Me : Naah, I can handle it. If he started being abusive, then it’s your turn.
Him : I have never been beaten but I am not afraid to
Me : Nooo… I don’t want that to happen
My silent response -->
And every day there is always something, even just a little thing, that makes my heart touched.
Isn’t he so very adorable or what?
Have a good weekend, everyone!
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A reason to be suspicious?
A married man finds birth control pills in his wife's drawer...
However, he had a vasectomy a few years before they were married.
Is that a reason to be suspicious?
However, he had a vasectomy a few years before they were married.
Is that a reason to be suspicious?
Why online dating is such a hard game?
Let's look back in time.
What was before online dating. Newspaper personal ads, friends/family arranged blind dates, social events, bars, libraries, literally everywhere where people were.
It was very slow. It was usually down to luck. It was very limited in choices. (Usually in a limited geographic location).
Why was it good? It was natural. People met because they were at the same place. They started to talk because probably had some similar interest.
When people chose or accepted the partner they went for the "good enough" option. It was enough if it was slightly better than others. The brain is happy to do a task like this.
These days the Internet gives the false impression of unlimited choice.
Do a search. Not enough results? No problem. Widen your options and voila now you can scroll 30 pages.
And makes you believe it is down to how you choose.
Barry Schwartz wrote a book called "The Paradox of Choice". He says too much choice will be detrimental.
There are couple of problems inside:
1. Because there are so many options you believe there must be a perfect one. This means the weight of your decision is much bigger.
2. When you choose one and it's not flawless you believe other choice would have been better. Which means you will never be satisfied with the choice.
3. Choosing from a big selection is exhausting. Our brain is not made for this.
4. Big number of players mean big competition. It's very easy to feel you are the only one left alone.
5. Anonymity changes the behaviours for lot of people. They would never say things or act the similar way face-to-face as they do online.
You can find many more points if you think.
Solution: I don't know. I believe it's still a very slow game. You have to accept it you either go for just a good enough or wait much much longer. Same as it was before. The difference is you have to cancel all the noise.
Also I don't believe the marriage is about how you choose at the beginning. It's about how much work the partners put in. The marriage is a workshop. (Yes, I know the classic: Men work, women shop...)
But no one can see in years ahead. what works at the beginning might not work in 5 years time. People also change.
The biggest issue is not how you choose but people didn't learn to work on problems. It's better to look out for new partner if there is a problem.... See, how many potential options out there? Just look around on dating sites.....
What was before online dating. Newspaper personal ads, friends/family arranged blind dates, social events, bars, libraries, literally everywhere where people were.
It was very slow. It was usually down to luck. It was very limited in choices. (Usually in a limited geographic location).
Why was it good? It was natural. People met because they were at the same place. They started to talk because probably had some similar interest.
When people chose or accepted the partner they went for the "good enough" option. It was enough if it was slightly better than others. The brain is happy to do a task like this.
These days the Internet gives the false impression of unlimited choice.
Do a search. Not enough results? No problem. Widen your options and voila now you can scroll 30 pages.
And makes you believe it is down to how you choose.
Barry Schwartz wrote a book called "The Paradox of Choice". He says too much choice will be detrimental.
There are couple of problems inside:
1. Because there are so many options you believe there must be a perfect one. This means the weight of your decision is much bigger.
2. When you choose one and it's not flawless you believe other choice would have been better. Which means you will never be satisfied with the choice.
3. Choosing from a big selection is exhausting. Our brain is not made for this.
4. Big number of players mean big competition. It's very easy to feel you are the only one left alone.
5. Anonymity changes the behaviours for lot of people. They would never say things or act the similar way face-to-face as they do online.
You can find many more points if you think.
Solution: I don't know. I believe it's still a very slow game. You have to accept it you either go for just a good enough or wait much much longer. Same as it was before. The difference is you have to cancel all the noise.
Also I don't believe the marriage is about how you choose at the beginning. It's about how much work the partners put in. The marriage is a workshop. (Yes, I know the classic: Men work, women shop...)
But no one can see in years ahead. what works at the beginning might not work in 5 years time. People also change.
The biggest issue is not how you choose but people didn't learn to work on problems. It's better to look out for new partner if there is a problem.... See, how many potential options out there? Just look around on dating sites.....
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Truths about profiles on CS
How much truth is written in a profile?
Here are a few untruths I have found.
One guy, seems to unage with time. When I first spoke to him on cam, his age on CS was 76.
Looking at him, he looked like 80 and I asked him, yes, he was 80 but “felt” younger!
At the moment, a few years later – he is now 74 (!)
Another one, I think he got his age right, but not his marital status. The profile is not a new one and marital status is given as divorced. Just before we were supposed to meet, I get a whatsapp from him saying his wife has just arrived at their house so he wished to postpone are first meeting. I blocked him, only forgot to block “telegram” too. A few weeks later he begs to continue our getting to know each other and that they are in the process of divorcing (she is 82!).
Finally, we arrange a meeting for a few days later, get a whatapp saying sorry, met another woman on CS and will not be meeting me.
Poor her – lucky me!
Thinking about all strange profiles on CS - the, mostly younger guys, showing the most hideous profile photos.
To me it shows their "intelligence" nothing more. A good "start" on CS- or not?
Here are a few untruths I have found.
One guy, seems to unage with time. When I first spoke to him on cam, his age on CS was 76.
Looking at him, he looked like 80 and I asked him, yes, he was 80 but “felt” younger!
At the moment, a few years later – he is now 74 (!)
Another one, I think he got his age right, but not his marital status. The profile is not a new one and marital status is given as divorced. Just before we were supposed to meet, I get a whatsapp from him saying his wife has just arrived at their house so he wished to postpone are first meeting. I blocked him, only forgot to block “telegram” too. A few weeks later he begs to continue our getting to know each other and that they are in the process of divorcing (she is 82!).
Finally, we arrange a meeting for a few days later, get a whatapp saying sorry, met another woman on CS and will not be meeting me.
Poor her – lucky me!
Thinking about all strange profiles on CS - the, mostly younger guys, showing the most hideous profile photos.
To me it shows their "intelligence" nothing more. A good "start" on CS- or not?
When will you get married?
"When will you get married??"
"Who is your current boyfriend??"
"Go get marry soon so you are still young to see your kiddos getting married!"
What???
Those are common questions that my friends asked me while we're gathering. Most of them are married and have children. And in this stage, most of them have 2 children. While, here I am still single.
May be they asked those questions just as an "ice breaking" but if every meet they ask the same question, well it's irritating me. Who doesn't want to get marry? I also want to get marry but my life is different from them.
Firstly, I don't have any candidate to marry with, no close guy, no boyfriend, etc. Second, I m a daughter who help my family. Currently, my family is in bad financial circumstances. I can't even focus on me, I just do my best to help them.
Bunch of problems, will people care? Will my friends help? I don't think so. I m pretty sure they have their own problems. But why they keep asking me such annoying questions over n over??
Because of that, I chose to stop meeting my friends. I only meet one of my closest who really understanding me. She never ask me such questions because she really know my condition.
Enjoy your life and don't bother mine. I am ok with my own life!
"Who is your current boyfriend??"
"Go get marry soon so you are still young to see your kiddos getting married!"
What???
Those are common questions that my friends asked me while we're gathering. Most of them are married and have children. And in this stage, most of them have 2 children. While, here I am still single.
May be they asked those questions just as an "ice breaking" but if every meet they ask the same question, well it's irritating me. Who doesn't want to get marry? I also want to get marry but my life is different from them.
Firstly, I don't have any candidate to marry with, no close guy, no boyfriend, etc. Second, I m a daughter who help my family. Currently, my family is in bad financial circumstances. I can't even focus on me, I just do my best to help them.
Bunch of problems, will people care? Will my friends help? I don't think so. I m pretty sure they have their own problems. But why they keep asking me such annoying questions over n over??
Because of that, I chose to stop meeting my friends. I only meet one of my closest who really understanding me. She never ask me such questions because she really know my condition.
Enjoy your life and don't bother mine. I am ok with my own life!
"Love and Appreciation" (By falicias Own Experiences)
If you Have Love In your Relationship!
Hold On In It Tide!
Because You Easily Could Loose it!
(See "Things that keep Two People Together" Blog)
"Love" Is Like a plant!
Yo Need To Care For It!
Or It Will Died Slowly!
By falicia!
What Is Your Oppinion!
Hold On In It Tide!
Because You Easily Could Loose it!
(See "Things that keep Two People Together" Blog)
"Love" Is Like a plant!
Yo Need To Care For It!
Or It Will Died Slowly!
By falicia!
What Is Your Oppinion!
To Love Or Not To Love
So many times I heard people saying that they will never love again as it only brings pain but are they not doing themselves short for nothing? There is no guarantee the next affair will be the same.
Surely there must be some good memories sprouting from a sunken love affair. I mean why have the affair in the first place if it brought no happiness? If it brought no happiness then you have only yourself to blame for placing an expectation on something that was not to be. A lover is supposed to make you happy.
Love is too beautiful to be wasted but it needs not to be blind. You have to love with your eyes open. When you see the signs, don’t believe that it will go away for it will only grow worse. Break it off sooner than later and make it a clean break. Rather take a small hurt now than a much bigger hurt later.
Most aborted love affairs end in (or because of) some unpleasantness. That is life. When I think of the relationships I have been involved in, I only remember the good times. The bad times erase themselves with time. Don’t dwell on the shipwrecks of the past. Take the knock, put it behind you and get on with your life. There is no need to deprive yourself of all the joys of a future love. There is another love yet to come.
Don’t miss your dreamboat when it arrives. And if you discover that it is not the dreamboat that you thought it was, there is nothing to prevent you from jumping ship at the next harbor.
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved.
Have a wonderful day.!
Surely there must be some good memories sprouting from a sunken love affair. I mean why have the affair in the first place if it brought no happiness? If it brought no happiness then you have only yourself to blame for placing an expectation on something that was not to be. A lover is supposed to make you happy.
Love is too beautiful to be wasted but it needs not to be blind. You have to love with your eyes open. When you see the signs, don’t believe that it will go away for it will only grow worse. Break it off sooner than later and make it a clean break. Rather take a small hurt now than a much bigger hurt later.
Most aborted love affairs end in (or because of) some unpleasantness. That is life. When I think of the relationships I have been involved in, I only remember the good times. The bad times erase themselves with time. Don’t dwell on the shipwrecks of the past. Take the knock, put it behind you and get on with your life. There is no need to deprive yourself of all the joys of a future love. There is another love yet to come.
Don’t miss your dreamboat when it arrives. And if you discover that it is not the dreamboat that you thought it was, there is nothing to prevent you from jumping ship at the next harbor.
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved.
Have a wonderful day.!
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I am a treasure girl...
I'm seeing some 'lights are on, but no one is home' dating site Dé·jà vu. I believe this place is running on autopilot right now. It looks familiar to the scenario of other (now defunct) sites where absent management became apparent.
Hopefully, I'm wrong.
My indicator is the amount of fraudulent profiles stacking up for the last 3 months. In two days I counted more than 20 new profiles with different photos of the same woman and her opening line is "I am a treasure girl" That is about half of the new membership so far this week.
While most of the bogus profiles send out messages and never return. Reporting them used to get their profiles deleted. The bad part (for the company) is it affected the numbers of new membership. Now, it appears more have joined the site, because the bogus ones are still here. Something that looks good if the place is up for sale. Lots of new profiles (real or fake) means more clicks and revenue from the advertisers.
I'm only basing my opinion on profiles of the women. That's all I check. My guess it could be the same for men's profiles. So as a whole, when someone says "This place is crawling with scammers" that statement has become true.
Hopefully, I'm wrong.
My indicator is the amount of fraudulent profiles stacking up for the last 3 months. In two days I counted more than 20 new profiles with different photos of the same woman and her opening line is "I am a treasure girl" That is about half of the new membership so far this week.
While most of the bogus profiles send out messages and never return. Reporting them used to get their profiles deleted. The bad part (for the company) is it affected the numbers of new membership. Now, it appears more have joined the site, because the bogus ones are still here. Something that looks good if the place is up for sale. Lots of new profiles (real or fake) means more clicks and revenue from the advertisers.
I'm only basing my opinion on profiles of the women. That's all I check. My guess it could be the same for men's profiles. So as a whole, when someone says "This place is crawling with scammers" that statement has become true.
Is it Worth it to Love Someone Who Doesn't Love You Back?
Emm, unrequited love, the bittersweet symphony of the heart. Let's dive into this tender topic and find some clarity amidst the emotional rollercoaster, shall we?
1). Assess your heart's budget. Loving someone who doesn't reciprocate can feel like investing all your emotions in a one-way street. Take a moment to evaluate how much love you have to give and whether it's worth spending it on someone who can't offer the same in return. Remember, emotional investments should bring joy and fulfillment, not leave you bankrupt.
2). Remember, you're a precious limited edition. Consider your own self-worth and value. Loving yourself should always be a priority. If someone doesn't appreciate the amazing person you are, it might be time to redirect that love towards someone who will treasure it as fiercely as you do.
3) Don't be a dog chasing its own tail. Pursuing someone who doesn't love you back can feel like running in circles without ever reaching the finish line. It's important to assess if this pursuit is preventing you from finding the happiness you deserve. Sometimes, letting go is the best way to create space for someone who will love you wholeheartedly.
4). Keep your heart open to new adventures. While it may seem daunting, being open to new connections and opportunities can lead you to unexpected paths of love and happiness. You never know what amazing person might be just around the corner, ready to appreciate and reciprocate the love you have to offer.
5). Prioritize your own happiness. Ultimately, you deserve to be with someone who loves and cherishes you in return. Focus on activities and relationships that bring you joy and fulfillment. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones who uplift and support you. Happiness starts from within, and when you radiate that happiness, you attract the right kind of love into your life.
Love should be a two-way street, with both parties investing their hearts and souls. While unrequited love can be painful, it's important to weigh the emotional cost and prioritize your own happiness. Keep your heart open, value yourself, and trust that the right person will come along to reciprocate your love and make it all worthwhile.
Cheers
1). Assess your heart's budget. Loving someone who doesn't reciprocate can feel like investing all your emotions in a one-way street. Take a moment to evaluate how much love you have to give and whether it's worth spending it on someone who can't offer the same in return. Remember, emotional investments should bring joy and fulfillment, not leave you bankrupt.
2). Remember, you're a precious limited edition. Consider your own self-worth and value. Loving yourself should always be a priority. If someone doesn't appreciate the amazing person you are, it might be time to redirect that love towards someone who will treasure it as fiercely as you do.
3) Don't be a dog chasing its own tail. Pursuing someone who doesn't love you back can feel like running in circles without ever reaching the finish line. It's important to assess if this pursuit is preventing you from finding the happiness you deserve. Sometimes, letting go is the best way to create space for someone who will love you wholeheartedly.
4). Keep your heart open to new adventures. While it may seem daunting, being open to new connections and opportunities can lead you to unexpected paths of love and happiness. You never know what amazing person might be just around the corner, ready to appreciate and reciprocate the love you have to offer.
5). Prioritize your own happiness. Ultimately, you deserve to be with someone who loves and cherishes you in return. Focus on activities and relationships that bring you joy and fulfillment. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones who uplift and support you. Happiness starts from within, and when you radiate that happiness, you attract the right kind of love into your life.
Love should be a two-way street, with both parties investing their hearts and souls. While unrequited love can be painful, it's important to weigh the emotional cost and prioritize your own happiness. Keep your heart open, value yourself, and trust that the right person will come along to reciprocate your love and make it all worthwhile.
Cheers
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