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Many people here openly say they are looking for love.

Where do they think to find it ?

People are so obsessed with finding love. (I feel) But it's not a job/business opportunity, lost puppy or a Diamond in a mine to be found or to look for.

You can not find love signing up in a dating site with an ideal partner solidly etched in your head. Matches are only made in heaven. May be you will find a perfect match if and when you reach there. On earth you have to become the match.

Be open minded. Be kind. Be loving. You have to start loving in order to be loved. Love is in loving. You won't find it anywhere else unless you first find it in your own heart.

So... until you find love within yourself, all you need is not love. A shag, a partner to share your life or loneliness with. (May be.)

Delete the ideal image in your mind and learn to accept people for who they are while not changing who you are. That's the basic seed of love.

Or just say, looking for a shag. That is honesty to a certain degree with most profiles. I think.

If you Have Love In your Relationship!
Hold On In It Tide!
Because You Easily Could Loose it!
(See "Things that keep Two People Together" Blog)
"Love" Is Like a plant!
Yo Need To Care For It!
Or It Will Died Slowly!
By falicia!

What Is Your Oppinion!

So many times I heard people saying that they will never love again as it only brings pain but are they not doing themselves short for nothing? There is no guarantee the next affair will be the same.

Surely there must be some good memories sprouting from a sunken love affair. I mean why have the affair in the first place if it brought no happiness? If it brought no happiness then you have only yourself to blame for placing an expectation on something that was not to be. A lover is supposed to make you happy.

Love is too beautiful to be wasted but it needs not to be blind. You have to love with your eyes open. When you see the signs, don’t believe that it will go away for it will only grow worse. Break it off sooner than later and make it a clean break. Rather take a small hurt now than a much bigger hurt later.

Most aborted love affairs end in (or because of) some unpleasantness. That is life. When I think of the relationships I have been involved in, I only remember the good times. The bad times erase themselves with time. Don’t dwell on the shipwrecks of the past. Take the knock, put it behind you and get on with your life. There is no need to deprive yourself of all the joys of a future love. There is another love yet to come.

Don’t miss your dreamboat when it arrives. And if you discover that it is not the dreamboat that you thought it was, there is nothing to prevent you from jumping ship at the next harbor.

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved.


Have a wonderful day.!

Well, I have. I picked her up… No! She picked me up in a pub one night. We were playing pool. We were the usual six and four wives. I was newly divorced from my second wife and our gay friend never brings his other half when we get together at a public place.

It was a Thursday in the middle of the month and the pub was empty when we walked in, except for this woman. The place had a U-shaped bar counter and she sat on the other side of it. An attractive woman and she kept on looking at me. Then she stood up, went to the toilet and while I was playing she came out at sat down on my bar stool where my jacket was hanging.

When I finished my turn I walked towards her to fetch my drink and my jacket but she stood up and sat down on the next bar stool. She was a good looking woman. Honey blond hair with a tinge of red in it, the most beautiful large blue eyes, a petite nose with a few small freckles across it, and a full mouth with very kissable lips. She was well proportioned and maybe an inch taller than I; introduced herself as Vlam which translates to Flame in English. That was when I made three mistakes in quick succession; I chatted her up, I bought her a drink and I agreed to take her home when we were done playing.

We finally left and when we were both in the car she told me it was too late for her to go home. I took her home with me. She stayed for three days, living in my track suits and feeding me with the biggest load of bullshit stories on earth. Among others she told me she was a truck driver. Yep, a truck driver! Methinks her husband was probably the truck driver.

On the Sunday morning she asked me to take her to the station. She had to go back to work; said she’d call me when she’s back again. She came back a few days later and again stayed a few. This routine was repeated four times and then the last time her visit coincided with a braai (BBQ) at my place. We were the usual crowd again. Bea was married at the time and she was also there with her husband.

At some stage Vlam cornered me and said that I pay too much attention to my friends’ wives and I told her that she’s not my steady girlfriend and if she wants to stake claims like that, she’d have to be available much more regularly. She looked at me with venom in her eyes and let fly with the fist, hitting me on the left eye. She immediately turned her back on me, bent down and covered her head with her arms.

I stood there flabbergasted. Shit, this is not happening. Did she really hit me? A woman! I felt something running down my face; when I touched it I realized it was blood. I was still too surprised to move and when she discovered that I’m not going to retaliate, she came up and hit me square on the other eye. More blood! This bìtch knew where to hit! She was getting ready to punch me again but by then my friends smothered and restrained her while I stood there bleeding like a pig.

The police came and took her away but released her the next day when I did not want to press charges. I was not going to stand in a full court telling everybody how a woman beat me up. She simply fell off the map and frankly, if I never have to see that woman again it will still be a millennium too soon.


I hope your Monday is not blue.

I received a PM from a 26 year old, obese Asian girl with a very cute face. She claimed to be a professor living in Cape Town. She has two photos in her profile. The other one is or a slender woman with blond hair. Both were taken at recognizable landmarks in Cape Town. Normally I would have deleted it but I decided to have fun with her/him.

Her | Feb 3, 6:00 AM
Hi.your penise have power to erict...or.need bl** job.say truth

Myself | Feb 3, 6:15 AM
You are way too inexperienced for me, baby. I'll break your back.

Her | Feb 4, 5:25 AM
Hello u r annoy with me hmm

Myself | Feb 4, 5:36 AM
No, Sweetie, You're just too young for me. If my grandson was three years older I would have introduced him to you.

Her | Feb 4, 8:02 AM
Soory if yiu can break my back in such old age imagine he will not break my ribs in young age???

Myself | Feb 4, 8:11 AM
You are a naughty girl for the job that you are doing. I pity your students.

Her | Feb 4, 8:32 AM
I keep my stundents on butt and some on boobs??

Myself | Feb 4, 8:33 AM
Where do I enrol?

Her | Feb 4, 10:13 AM
Where u vish babe

Her | Feb 4, 10:22 AM
Babe why u dont like big girls. Big girls seem very sexy like me
(She read this in my profile)

Myself | Feb 4, 10:39 AM
They tire too quickly. Cannot keep the pace.

Her | 24 hrs ago
How quickly? I will manage for you as you wish

Myself | 24 hrs ago
I told you that I'll break your back. Now, jokes aside, I've been around for a long, long time and don't believe a single word in your profile. You're just too streetwise to be who you say you are. It was kind of fun talking to you, whoever you are.

Her | 20 hrs ago
U are a lover of whom? Realy i liked u thats why msg u. Otherwise too many people msg me but i am not intrested in any one. Sory for hurting u. Actually i am very crazy and funny

I did not reply yet. Her last message has me worried; am I playing the fool with a real person? Suddenly she sounds lonely and not like a scammer. But she started it off in the wrong way and her profile is not kosher.


May you have a whale of a day.

Is it really that difficult? How many long-term relationships have formed due to this site? I have been here a few years now and I know of maybe 2 relationships that have formed. My friend who introduced me to this site found his wife on this site. And, Daniel. I didn't know him, he was sorta of leaving as I was getting on. But, I remember him posting a blog about becoming involved in a relationship. How many other do you know of?

How can one improve their chances?



My number one and two improvements seem to be a better profile and pictures of just me...and no females.


Maybe I should write a profile with a bunch of demands? For example, don't tell me I need a different profile. Or, shut your face about my pictures. Okay, a little dramatic here at the end.

Just a little bored here tonight....isn't that something, as soon as I get done working for like 12 hours...the moment after I eat, I am bored. Sounds like I need a woman. :)

Hopefully men are following instructions and reading this before contacting me...

I used to get upset that all men cared about was the photo on dating sites (or for that matter CL replies) your looks are a result of one minute of creation and how you look is a result of the "good" genetics your parents had, whereas your personality is a result of your sense of humor, intelligence and innate (or not of kindness) and in MY case hours (LOL) of carefully crafting my profile, writing and re-writing!

The photos are to show my puckish sense of humor, I am NOT trying to fool anyone but I know if you are just oogling the photo or bothered to read my profile which (if a person had any brains) could figure out it was taken DECADES ago! I always tell my age so if you think that in my sixties I would look like this, (in my forties though looked like that though!) you're not on the swift side.

I want to find someone who had a puckish sense of humor like me. but also adventurous and curious and DARING, which means willing to see what I look like NOW in person vs. the past, the big hint was should have been wrote you'll have to meet me to see if I have aged like fine wine or do I look like Jabba the Hut. I used to say that this was taken before Reagan was elected but when one guy said his photo might make me throw up but at least it was taken after McCain left the Hanoi Hilton, so even if that was waay (sic) after that, I will keep that in.

I am NOT too stupid to take a good photo as one man said, my caption tells why it looks blurry (though one man thought it showed I had good cheekbones, go figure that!) for god's sake it's a dating site, don't take photos so seriously!!!

Nearly all the members who are active in blogs and forums have strong personalities. Some stronger than others... obviously. When a strong personality does or says something opposite to what CS wants to reflect on their site, a comment or blog gets deleted. Often as a warning and a 'time-out' should they consider the offense become more serious.

I cannot remember the number of years I've been here and how many members were banned, but it's more than a handful. Banning I believe was mostly (but not always) for political reasons. Some return with a new profile and in a short time get banned again. I think it's not for the way they behave as a 'new' member, but rather for the sins and havoc created in their previous profile.

Compared to other sites, moderation at CS is very light. I'm sure there are more important things for them to attend to aside from our little space on the internet. But when they do visit you may see several things happen in one swipe.

A few years ago their position was stated and requests from CS staff were stated as to what blogs they want to see less of. That's long gone and it's business as usual.

Last year a handful of blogs disappeared and some of the members who authored them disappeared too. While some of the blogs of the 'dearly departed' remain, most of them are unlocked. Only this week I see some long lasting blogs have been locked.

My opinion/question is shouldn't a blog of a banned member be locked or deleted too?


Oh, the difference one member can make...

Racial bias is a form of implicit bias, which refer to the attitudes or stereotypes that affect an individual's understanding, actions, and decisions in an unconscious manner.(Google)
(Racial) Color-blindness is the racial ideology that posits the best way to end discrimination is by treating individuals as equally as possible, without regard to race, culture, or ethnicity (Williams, 2011).

Not so long ago, I took a CS quiz entitled “Does colour matter when dating?”, the response to which I was given as ‘living in a dream’ (or something to that effect). I re-took the quiz a few minutes ago, and was given “Being on medication” as the response. Eh? What? Really?

OK, so the person obviously wasn’t skilled or ‘scientifically-able’ when this was prepared, but still…why so racially insensitive?

The definition for racial bias suggests that the behaviour is “unconscious”, with which I disagree, and whilst I’m un-sure that there’s a 100% efficacy to racial colour-blindness, I do know that it must be a ‘conscious’ effort as we navigate through this world of diversity (which we are ALL a part of).

So….does colour matter when dating? Yes… And No;-)

I am nice girl. I know someone will want me. I am tired of people putting me down saying no one will want me. I treat people right. I am also a country music singer. I will not let people dictate my life.