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..., dear searchers. Even given the fact that women seem able to emote more than men, and I find they are more likely to lend importance to, and belief in, the concept underlying these few powerful words. Another blog topic. But many men, usually after a few beers, and often with regret, can, and do, do so. So what is behind it all? The range of talk/claims/beliefs/delusions is enormous. We have those who insist on the "at first sight" idea. Well, if I'm to believe my parent's generation, and those who perhaps spend a little too much time reading romance novellas, they, of course have a point. Not a few sixty and seventy year long marriages, here. But then, some would say, it's really "falling into LUST" instead, often.enough. More innocent times? Sure enough have been there. Some hurtful failures/betrayals, periods of loneliness, the all powerful family and cultural expectations---.perhaps in the context of a little drink, travel, other new experience (jobs?), and there you sometimes have it. For our parents, it was Dad's uniform, and Mom's abilities on the roller skate floor. And it's not merely used for other people. Who hasn't had similar feelings for a young pet, or even some objects/pastimes? In my experience, some such phenomena have, from time to time, existed for me, most often in situations just described. But I think it's important to be ready, and not a little surprised, by these usually overwhelming feelings. Hence the term "falling". Focus on the appearance, voice, walk, humour, lifestyle, intelligence, perhaps even successes, of others can come into play. And empathy/sympathy for unfortunates does often lead DOWN the path. The so called "feeling sorry for, or even pity--- fall". Makes one wonder just how healthful is the experience, for some. A few "marry" into a religious tradition, or cult, and homosexual love opens up many other topics. Yet, who can deny how strong is/are the feeling(s)? So much so, that thoughts come to biological aspects of falling for another. Fruitful unions certainly have evolutionary import. And what of all those conscious, and unconscious odors/pheromones? One of my guitar heroes, the often brilliant Frank Z., even wrote a song about love for his "little rubber blow up doll". Three holes and no lip. What?

They are getting more numerous than ever: the 'likes' any active CS member may receive from a new (apparently fake) profile. One constant is the meaningless profile text above all meant to please. Other constants are sending (probably hundreds of) likes to much older CS members, posting one single appealing photo (possibly stolen from any website) ...

As you may remember, there is a 'cooling period' for new members preventing them to send private messages immediately after registering .Sending 'likes' is however allowed. Yet those rookies who are abusing these privileges are rapidly and easily found out. There probably is a 'like'-counter activated for all new members, signalling potential abuse.
CS site moderators quickly intervene, banning the new fake profiles within days or even hours after they registered... which is why you often notice 'likes' by a deleted profile.

Over the past few months, I've grown accustomed not to return any like by a supposedly fake profile... and I very seldom fail to make the distinction.

Eventually the 'like counter' on your profile no longer tells anything about how popular you are on the CS site but rather how often you have been targeted by rookie fake profiles.

...find committed love, with a grounded, self sufficient and sober person, right cheer on CS. Probably also applies to other sites as well. Why an expert? Like with truthful, addicted smokers, who say they can quit any time, as they have done so quite often. My half dozen marriages to CS ladies, which would have lasted if they were as nearly perfect as I am, makes me eminently qualified. The secrets? Well there really are none. But here goes. Above all, be patient, and willing to put in the effort to vet the many scammers, and nutters. Among the latter, are those on their own great Mandela, traipsing impatiently from one abusive entanglement to YET another. But don't take my word for it. Just ask any pregnant 15 year old about the ages when mom, aunts, sisters and even grannies got pregnant, and where is the father now. These things, as with addictions, of ANY sorts, tend to be cultural, and familiar,---perhaps even genetic. But healing can take place, again with effort, first by conquering personal denial, and then therapeutic work, which can also involve the tincture of time. Learn how to vet scammers, and many folks here, including the site itself, have all the valid tips you'll ever need. And put all these into practice. So I won't bore you with these details. OK, so now you are down to the 5-10% of really eligible and quite real, potential lifetime squeezes. Read their Blogs and Forums, and other stuff they place here---more info to judge intelligence, sense of humour, temperament and even a little history, details of which come further down the line. (See, oh you CS lemmings, TBC.) Cultivate a history of chatting, and not merely a few brief notes, and if possible, hint at banter, --- even flirting some---in use of language, one sign of intelligence, and lots more that is good. Chat HERE, as advised by all sites, and wait a long while before jumping to more unprotected email. A test of patience, and lots more. Avoid initial questions about what potentials are searching for here, how long they've been here, their jobs, and other such stuff. Better to let all this emerge, perhaps except for the darkest ones, which it will, indirectly, during chats, as trust slowly grows. The really dark ones seem, over time, to improve WITHIN a good relationship, and emerge best then, with loving support.Try to reveal yourself over time, in stages, best when both parties share challenges, here in all that you write. Secrets, and we all have them, some quite shameful, are best described on the front end. As my flight instructor always said, better on the ground, than in the air, No? Be prepared to let go with grace, of those, even with whom you have invested lots of time, as surely the time will not be wasted, as you'll learn much about others, their locations, and above all, about yourself. And if, when they return, much later, see this as a gift, not something to cop childish attitudes about. So, now you are well within the tiny percentage of possibles. Time to go to private email, texts, Skype, etc. But since most of you reading this will now be almost asleep, TBC.

.... and her hair was blonde and her eyes were blue....




.....

I don't like it cold... Even though when I feel hurt I may act a little distant... But I always like it hot, warm... Cozy, soft, hard, sticky, full of emotion, intense, passionate, obscene, sacred, s*xual, innocent... I love it... In all its ways, shapes and forms...




Hot and Cold
"For this love flowing against the current.
For this love that nobody understands.
At times it knows no bounds
and runs amok in a terrible way.
It drags me around like a river,
going between hot and cold,
but it's yours and its mine,
clear as a moonlit night
with the moon full...
it's worth the difficulties.

And at times it takes me so far
that I find myself where I have never been.
Sometimes I lose myself
and then return in an instant, going between
hot and cold.
This love is yours and mine.

For this love that has no pretensions,
for this love
that scratches and spreads out,
for this love born out of time itself.
For this love
that sometimes I myself don't even understand.
And it plays, just like a child
with the face of a rascal,
a game of cat and mouse.
And at times it shows itself to me naked,
so delicate and pure,
that I can't imagine it being wrong in any way.

And at times it takes me so far
that I find myself where I have never been.
Sometimes I lose myself
and then return in an instant, going between
hot and cold.
This love is yours and mine.

And at times I confuse the heavens
with the earth;
at times I don't know if it's going away or coming back,
between hot and cold...
This love is yours and mine."

P.S. What about other things...
My soup, extremely hot...
My drinking water, extremely cold...
My room, cold...
My bed, warm...
My... Nah, I better stop... Jajajajajajajajajajajajja...
What about yours... Do you like it hot... Do you like it cold... Somewhere in between...

Regardless you never married, divorced or widowhood? If you are not ready, it is hard to start a new relationship. It is like a wound that will only heal by time. Even you may be left with scar, you will need to heal first. Find your support system during this singles journey whether your family, friends or others.

Does mental health issue married vs singles? 50% of singles population almost around the world now. Does Singles online community booster mental health? During COVID everyone stayed inside, mental health awareness before and after. Before COVID Single community was where I connected with local community assistance for place, job, support, after COVID, on and off posting and it is important to engage. I often like to talk about "knowledge is power" after COVID the increasing of homeless, even single parents household, Singles online community could be an educational program from exchange skill program or life skill. Could we make Singles online community as educational community? Learning another new language could help you make your brain think? As earlier I shared dementia prevention, Asian medical doctors also encouraged learning the language. Many singles research showed mental health impacted by loneliness. It is okay to be singles and be happy too. If you are singles still hope to find lifetime partner, as married couples tended to be happier and healthier. No matter how you become singles, you are part of this big Single community. Mental health is important either you need to keep up with mental health professionals or just find your own support system from a healthy body, heart and soul!

Hard to top this email I just got from a previously never heard of admirer.

"I am physically and mentally healthy. I have proof I can show you."

She is also pushing 60 but she still hopes to have children someday.

The Task is simple. A series of questions.
The bride & groom sit back to back and answer questions simultaneously
by holding either the male type object up, or the female object.
Do they agree, or not ?

Lets see;

I can't find the blog I commented on last week referencing the number of guns sold in America versus the population and from raw facts it would appear each American had a gun. From experience of friends, workers and going to gun shows, I'd estimate one person had 10 guns while 9 didn't, making the tally (from a glance) look like everyone had a gun.

Okay, that thought passed. I was listening to a news report of Jeffrey Ferguson, a Superior court Judge in Orange County California had murdered his wife.

Get this: 47 weapons and more than 26,000 rounds of ammunition were recovered during a search of his home, including the pistol used in the shooting. Authorities said the weapons were legally owned. A rifle registered in his name is not accounted for.

72 year old Ferguson was arrested last week. He was released a day later on $1 million bail and set to be arraigned on September first.

That 'shoots a hole' in the statement that each American owns a gun.



A rifle registered in his name is not accounted for, according to the district attorney's office.




Where do you think he stashed the rifle?