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Don't take my word for it, but ten years ago, a member in Belgium met a woman from Vietnam. She moved to his country, they married, she learned the language, studied nursing and they all owe it to CS for making the connection!



The woman has a sister who is also on CS and looking... (hint, hint to some guys out there)

This must be Andi week and no one told me about it. Usually, I get emails or text messages like Black Friday sales, but Andi shows up unannounced. Yesterday, a new profile appeared with photos of Andi. I won't give out her handle, but she's 31 from Mississippi, if you are curious. I've lost count now if it's the 3rd or 4th Andi appearing on CS this month, but she's been popular with scammers. For many years, Andi photos have appeared on dating sites.

There is another dating site I visit and 2 bogus Andi profiles appeared last night. One from Spain and one from Brazil. Both profiles share the same photos. It's a free site, but you cannot send or read messages without paying... So much for being free. That doesn't matter as many new members buy a month of premium membership and blast out messages to standard members. Small audience and short lived as contact information (email or phone) is prohibited on the first 2 contacts.

So what's it about Andi that makes her so popular? She's adult model Andi Land who has been around more than a decade. Google her name and you will see she's very attractive, slender with black hair in a distinctive style that's parted on one side and 'wraps' around to the other side. Most of her photos are just normal poses so you won't get to see the 'over the top' cleavage and oozing with slut. That's probably why her photos are used so often as the girl next door approach is so believable.

LESSON TO MY FELLOW WOMEN HERE!!!

When a guy asked to chat outside here be aware of him. (FAKE)

The next thing is to ask for your photos (PERVERT)

BUT if you ask for a video call he will make up an excuses just to avoid it ?? and you will never hear from him again
(SCAMMER)

Comment if you have experienced such

Whats wrong with you guys. What are you looking for?
After being married most of my life and now single, I find men are ugly, inside and out. OK I am not expecting men to look better than they did than in younger years, but just letting yourselves go does not help either. Who likes an enormous pot belly in front of you?
Forgetting the looks, now to your character, did I just have a great husband and forgot that all the other guys are just not nice, or am I just meeting up with the wrong ones? How do I difference between someone who wants to try them all the available ones out and those that really want a relationship?
Also to finances, some, mostly divorced, find themseves with a very low pension and now expect the woman to keep them, while keeping their meager income to themselves.
Have I tried all sorts that are available, or there those that are really ready, just to be happy in a comfortable relationship, where each puts in the best they can. I think men are afraid of commitment.
One day it will be too late for you, and you will be sitting there slobbering.
My biggest problem, there are not a lot of suitable men near me, so I am very limited .

We are not programmed or genetically designed to be single units

So we search in the hope that somewhere there is a unit that is as broken and badly programed as we are ourselves

it's been a while, any takers ?

I think my preferences have changed , anyone here from Asia?

Two years ago waiting in a check out line, I've met a man. He was paying for a food blender.
I said: "Your wife is gonna love it. I have the same and it is a very good blender. I love it"
He looked at me, smiled and said, that a few years ago he finally realized that saying "Happy wife happy life" works and since then him and his wife are the happiest couple in a whole World.
. That was a first time for me to hear that saying. And it kind of took me a wee aback. There is a grain of wisdom and for some reason I trust that man.
Sorry for grammar mistakes. English is not my first language.
Have a wonderful time of day everyone.

I was told, that if I go to a pay dating portal, the men (in my case) are really serious, so not like here, where only a small percent are looking for a partner
I was also told on the pay-portal there are no scammer. I registered with one.
NOW LISTEN TO THIS !
I hope I can give the name of the portal (to shame). It is 121Seniordating and works from GB.
As I started by put in my data, just finished and per mail was already getting chat requests from men near me. Within 5 minutes I had over 10 (in my area that is a lot). So I thought I will try it and see what it has to offer.
This is how this portal (OK, I am not going to swear)* works. They send a short note for every guy near the new victim (me in this case).
So I became a member with a short months payment. Answered each of these guys -
AND DID NOT GET ONE ANSWER back from them. Now I know why. The whole portal is a trick, the chat notes from each guy was not sent by them, but from the (smart) owner of this portal. Then they use MY answer as if I wrote to each of these guys and hope they would put in a payment to contact me. I know that now because on this portal no one is online for more then a few minutes as there is nothing to read.
I goes further. I looked to see who has paid, a few had (new ones like me) so decided to ask there experience and can confirm they were tricked too.
Anyway I was writing to a few new ones and asked for an email as writing here was awkward as you had to wait for an email for each answer.
The owner, workers of this portal READ whatever you write AND change whatever they want to so that you do not get the correct mail. The same happened with trying to get their mobile number.
There was a survey asking how many dates you have had, 85% ticked NON! How can you meet if any information you gave was changed! I never went that far.
By the way I saw several scammers on these pages too, bet they were disappointed .

A very high percentage of dating site members are seeking a soulmate.
It appears to be the number one request.
You know... that 'one-in-a-million' chance of finding someone.

Forget dating for a few seconds and do some math instead.
Let's play the lottery. Pick 6 that runs twice a week.
Bet 100 cards at a dollar each time.
Ignoring the months that have 5 weeks for now, it's 8 times per month
That's $800 a month or $9,600 a year.
9,600 tries to get a winning number.
I read somewhere that people go into a frenzy when the jackpot exceeds $100 million and they start betting more. The smart thing to do is increase your selections to increase your odds or get into an office pool where groups of people put money together and agree to share the winnings.
What we don't hear is obsessive gambling bringing up winners.

Considering 90% or more of the dating site are scammers, you've got 10% to work with.

Messaging 100 and you might find 10 worth starting a conversation with. Of the 10, you may only find 1 of them worth trying to actually meet.
One in a hundred is pretty low odds just to meet someone who came here to meet their soulmate too!

We've heard it in song (Tina Turner), and we've had cause to ask the same question (of ourselves, and of others) even if only in our thoughts. We've also heard that "love is not enough", and may have experienced it, too. So why can't many women admit that love doesn't have to be the reason for pursuing/being in a relationship.

I've been on here since February and have chatted with quite a few men, most of who seemed to think that I was interested in 'marriage', either because of the mere fact that I'm on here or because of the word "companion" that heads my profile. But, does dating always have to be about finding 'love' and getting 'married'? That would be IDEAL, but I don't ascribe to it being the ideal for everyone. It certainly isn't the ideal for me (although it definitely was when I was much much younger).

Life experiences and age has brought reason/wisdom, mostly about who you are personally (i.e. the psychological, moral, spiritual and physical being), and what you want, regardless of what family and society may expect of you. And even if you're a romantic (like me), you may still understand the difference between what's 'ideal' and what's 'real' about your hopes/plans for your future. So, sometimes, neither love nor marriage, may be what you want from a relationship at the moment.

And I'm not hinting at 'sex' and 'money' as alternatives, even though they often are. I'm really thinking about mutual admiration and respect, companionship, shared interests, etc (which may/may not include great sex and shared finances) and may/may not even lead to love as a pleasant 'side effect'.

I've often thought that many men understood that reality very early in life, whereas many women (myself included), were mainly encouraged to focus on the ideal. And, perhaps that's why we have struggled to understand or have relationships that aren't focused upon achieving 'love and marriage'.

The thing is, I now have a greater appreciation for that kind of relationship, and feel a bit put off when others don't. Am I wrong for expecting them to, or are they being archaic in their expectations of me?