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when youre 19 and have a desire to grow as a complete and mature person in all aspects,,,,....Work, university(As called in Mexico), family friends, Yourself, but love...i had never fall in love before this


I want to share this situation becouse i know that on this page there are mature, intellient and thinking people with different and highly respected points of view....POINTS OF VIEW I'D be open to read....Not JUST about this story , there will be more.....



Call me jey ....19 years old, brunnete . I am a crazy person, i like too see what others can't,Do the things that others do not dare, have fun...take care of my family and friends, i love music and dancing...this guy he is serious, calmed, responsable, heart touching, tender, a nice person.

6 months ago i started working on a store, a kind like 7/11 store, i had the night shift with my co-worker ,i knew he liked me ,since he had already asked me on a date, the date i had to decline becouse honestly i didn't even like him....Too not make this story too long i will resume that we had the store all to ourselfs in the night , we started talking more, we ate together, we cryed and laughed together, we spend very good moments and not only in the store, we went out....i fell in love, i fell in his arms and we became a couple....

he is 19 like me, he has a big famil, 9 brothers ,5 men and 4 women.He told me that i'n christmas eve he had to return to Veracruz with his family and would come back in january, i agreed....

I found a better job, so i left the store, first we had a lot of time for each other and then when he changed his job too, we started having friction for the time we dindn't have no more .....He started changing, he didn't do the same things he did before,....so i changed too....The little problems we had became a big mess and we broke up.....now he says he is leavin back to his home and he wont come back....i tryed to solve everything but he acted indifferent, i know it is not another person. he says he loves me but he's just not gonna come back and he didn't even said goodbye......

let me mention he is a responsible farm, worker boy
sorry i cut a lot of details but i wanted to make this as less boring as possible......

has anybody else gone thrue this situation?

why did he simply forget everything? we already had plans, we where going to get married, he even talked to my parents and his parents.....


i am open to your comments and questions ....
** I am little heart broken now**


-Jey-

so people tell me is there some big secret to getting another person on here to actually agree to meet and see where things go is there something im missing that i dont understand everyone talks physical appearance but doesnt there have to be more to keep that person interested in you pleas help me out here thanks hmm seems like we all in the same boat going in circles but never finding the dock lol

So Far..Since Ive Been Working For This Trucking Company .... .As Only One Truck Driver That I Am.....I Have been Keeping A Record Of Just How Much Fuel...(Gas)....(Petrol) That I Have Used ...And So Far(In A Year And A Half) I Have Used
19,756 Gallons Of Diesel Fuel...(And Im Just One Truckdriver)
That Got Me Into Thinking How Much Fuel Is being Used Up Everyday...World Wide
I Dont Know if There Is A Number High Enough For Us To Know Exactly
But Here You Go Folks
The Best Way To Answer This Question Of How Much Fuel Is Used In One Day Worldwide... Is

"Every Second...150,000 Gallons Of Water Spills Over Niagra Falls"

Now...To Get The Answer

"Multiply 150,000 Gallons Per Second.......................By 6 Months"

And Whatever This Adds Up To............................................Thats The Answer

(Is There Even A Figure For This?)

Many dating sites use mathematical algorithms to match people. And charge a lot of money for this service.

However, according to an article I recently read in the Washington Post, they are no better than random choice.

Why? Because they match basically on personality.
But studies have shown that people of similar personalities in long term relationships only make up 0.5% of the total, so basing a match on similar personalities is doomed to failure.

Relationship success basically depends on three things:
1. Individual characteristics - like whether you’re smart or what kinds of hang-ups you have around relationships
2. Quality of interaction - how you hit it off in-person;
3. Surrounding circumstances — stuff like your race or health or financial status.
(Finkel et al)


I was watching a series recently called Married at First Sight, where couples are matched scientifically by a panel.

4 couples were matched. They met for the first time at the altar. One couple had an obvious instant attraction to each other. All couples liked each other. They were well matched.

Fast forward 6 months. The only couple still together was the one who were instantly attracted to each other. The rest liked each other as friends only.

Maths and science can do so much, but nothing can account for that 'je ne sais quoi' or chemistry between people

This always completely boggles my mind. Call me impulsive, call me foolish....but alas, I am a gemini and I do tend to act how I feel at any given moment, with how I feel. My emotions are often expressed freely....not sure if that is such a flaw, I guess it all depends on how ya look at it. Anyway....not to distract from the initial topic...

What are men and women afraid of? This seems to be the biggest issue in dating on my end. Why must a couple start off as friends first? What is this etiquette in dating to "wait" for this or it's "too soon" for that...funny thing is, divorce rate is higher these days than it ever has been and many years ago, romance and chivalry ruled relationships and things weren't always over-analyzed like they are today. People fell in love without worrying about which steps to take when in the relationship...they used their hearts rather than racking the brains....and then, in staying together, they actually resisted the impulse to jump ship when things got rocky.

What are you afraid of....commitment? Getting hurt? fear of the thoughts of another of you? What's the big deal.....if the connection is there, it's there...why over-analyze....if it's not broke, don't fix it. Men (not all) want to have sex within the first few days but then say it's too soon for feelings.....well...but it's not too soon to give you everything physically? And this is why I don't get involved physically unless I'm in a relationship ....some will say anything just to get the physical gratification but when it comes to any kind of feeling or commitment, they start shaking in their shoes. What's wrong with people? Or is is me? If it is, then so be it....This is me lol....


...just off the top of my head so please excuse any grammatical errors

Have you ever been dating and getting pretty serious with someone when......they disappear off the face of the earth without a trace for no reason whatsoever? You guys have been planning a future, mostly enthused and initiated by him and then, they Ghost you, no rhyme or reason, no rows or fall outs or signs of any kind? You may get a text or whatsapp 'Sorry but I dont want a relationship anymore, need space' sorta thing.....This is apparently a relatively new phenomenon in breaking up..............the disappearing act. They go on to block you on whatsapp/facebook/social media and dont respond to any texts or contact.

who actually reads a profile and NOT just ogle pics! Please do not contact me if you LACK MANNERS, examples are: standing me up on a date without cancelling, contacting me wanting to meet then never trying to meet, having long phone conversations or going out on a date where in both cases it seems it's going well and then drop out of sight, without sending me an email saying we are not a match (why would be nice but, sigh, not expected). I do NOT mind if one wanted to start out as friends first so if you do not feel romantically inclined towards me that shouldn't preclude us getting to know each other. I do have good manners thus I answer EVERY email (but then again I am not deluged with them as say, a 20 year old nubile blonde!) Also NO smokers please, I put it there but still some men do not bother to read the facts and are just looking at the pics...

I wanted to write much more about me in my profile but since there is a character limit (and NO, I am not as long winded as this, I actually AM a good listener) I have to post it here so hope it can stay, if you live a long way away and want to just chat, email, etc. please, PLEASE do NOT waste both our times writing, I am not looking for a "fantasy" relationship but a REAL one with someone I can actually go out and DO things with. And especially do NOT write me if you are in another country and waiting to get back to the U.S. (if you ARE in another country sign up in couchsurfing and maybe I'll visit you ;)!

What am I doing with my life

I'm at a crossroads, not rich but financially independent, thinking of traveling worldwide, with nothing tying me down, but I would like to be in a loving relationship so open to ALL possibilities...

What I like to eat

Although I would LIKE to eat a healthier more vegetarian diet with no sugar (so don't mind guys that are), but hey, I'm Chinese and we eat everything with 4 legs except the kitchen table and sigh, unfortunately sweets don't taste like vegetables which would make it MUCH easier to give it up.


Ideal First Date

We can always take that clicheish walk on the beach and if you so desire followed by happy hour (i.e. cheap) drinks and appetizers nearby or if you want a longer or more profound discussion with me, we can go to a restaurant that I have coupons for-my way of going Dutch-LOL- as I don't like coffee dates (I'm a chintzy not a cheap date!)

Or we can skip food and go on a completely gratis date, just the walk, art gallery openings (with free food-my two favorite four letter words beginning with an F that's non vulgar!) an outdoor concert, ethnic festival, or a museum's free day, although I shall NOT turn my nose up at men who like to dine in a five star restaurant and going to the theater afterwards!

Hobbies, etc. we can discuss when we meet, which I hope we do, am NOT looking for a penpal, so guys far away who contact me, I will go out and meet you!

last yr folks I met a so called lady in Dublin we met we went for a meal and a chat and a drink and had a nice evening we previously had exchanged phone numbers.
every now and then we txt to keep in contact the conversation was always friendly and always a joke on a txt message so no ill feeling or bad will towards each other as I was in south of Ireland and she was in Dublin.
then out of the blue I received a threatening phonecall from some guy in Dublin that said he was going out with her I replied I dint know she was going out with someone so I deleted her number and didn't make contact with her again now I see shes back on cs her name is false an alias name should I name and shame as I wouldn't want another person to get another threatening phonecall please give me your opinons thank you