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I'm so shallow
What the hell is love, anyway? I spent the best part of a year feeling more and more affectionate towards a guy and he was more and more affectionate towards me and everything was lovely. This was it, I thought. Love! Yay! I would have quite happily gone the distance.
Then he says bye.
And I say oh, okay.
I should be devastated. I do miss him, I miss the chatting and when things happen I think hmm, must remember to tell him that tonight before I remember no more tonights. But surely I should be weeping buckets and tearing my hair out.
I do wonder if I am in denial, convinced he will realize we had too much going for us to let it go. That would be handy, because by the time it sinks in that he ain't coming back, I'll be used to his absence.
Or I am really shallow. Scary thought.
Then he says bye.
And I say oh, okay.
I should be devastated. I do miss him, I miss the chatting and when things happen I think hmm, must remember to tell him that tonight before I remember no more tonights. But surely I should be weeping buckets and tearing my hair out.
I do wonder if I am in denial, convinced he will realize we had too much going for us to let it go. That would be handy, because by the time it sinks in that he ain't coming back, I'll be used to his absence.
Or I am really shallow. Scary thought.
fabulously flawed....
Once a monk was assigned to build a brick wall. Being a monk, he had all the patience he needed for the job. He made sure every single brick was perfect, no matter how long it took.
Eventually, he completed his brick wall and stood back to admire it. It was only then that he noticed he’d missed two bricks. All the other bricks were nicely in line, but these two were inclined at an angle. They spoilt the whole wall. They ruined it. By then, the cement mortar was too hard for the bricks to be taken out, so he asked the abbot if he could knock the wall down and start over again or, even better, perhaps blow it up. The abbot said the wall had to stay.
When he showed the visitors around the monastery, he always tried to avoid taking them past his brick wall. He’d made a mess of it and he was very embarrassed. He hated anyone seeing it.
One day he was walking with a visitor and he saw the wall. “That’s a nice wall,” he casually remarked. “Sir,” he replied in surprise, “have you left your glasses in your car? Are you visually impaired? Can’t you see those two bad bricks which spoil the whole wall?” . The visitor replied, “Yes. I can see those two bad bricks. But I can see all the good bricks as well.”
For the first time the monk could see other bricks in that wall apart from the two bad bricks. Above, below, to the left and to the right of the bad bricks were good bricks, perfect bricks. Moreover, the perfect bricks were many more than the two bad bricks.
When our eyes would focus exclusively on minor mistakes, we become blind to everything else. That was why he couldn’t bear looking at that wall, or having others see it. That was why he wanted to destroy it. Now that he could see the good bricks, the wall didn’t look so bad after all. It was, as the visitor had said, “a nice brick wall.”
In truth, there are more good bricks, perfect bricks, but at times we just can’t see them. Instead, our eyes focus exclusively on the mistakes. The mistakes are all we see, they’re all we think are there— and so we want to destroy them. And sometimes, sadly, we do destroy a “very nice wall.”
How many of us end relationships because all we can see in others are “two bad bricks”?
How many of us become depressed , because all we can see in ourselves are “two bad bricks.”?
How many of us are afraid of opening ourselves to others, because we are afraid that the others will notice our “two bad bricks.”?
How many of us see only the bad bricks in others, when there are more good bricks than bad in them?
We’ve all got our two or more bad bricks, but the perfect bricks, the good bricks in each one of us always outnumber the bad bricks. Once we learn to focus on good bricks, things start to look not so bad. Not only we can live at peace with ourselves, inclusive of our faults, but we can also enjoy living with others in harmony .
Nobody is perfect. We are all fabulously flawed.
I know I am imperfect. But I only read that word as I’mperfect.
Wish everyone a fabulous Day!!!! 
Eventually, he completed his brick wall and stood back to admire it. It was only then that he noticed he’d missed two bricks. All the other bricks were nicely in line, but these two were inclined at an angle. They spoilt the whole wall. They ruined it. By then, the cement mortar was too hard for the bricks to be taken out, so he asked the abbot if he could knock the wall down and start over again or, even better, perhaps blow it up. The abbot said the wall had to stay.
When he showed the visitors around the monastery, he always tried to avoid taking them past his brick wall. He’d made a mess of it and he was very embarrassed. He hated anyone seeing it.
One day he was walking with a visitor and he saw the wall. “That’s a nice wall,” he casually remarked. “Sir,” he replied in surprise, “have you left your glasses in your car? Are you visually impaired? Can’t you see those two bad bricks which spoil the whole wall?” . The visitor replied, “Yes. I can see those two bad bricks. But I can see all the good bricks as well.”
For the first time the monk could see other bricks in that wall apart from the two bad bricks. Above, below, to the left and to the right of the bad bricks were good bricks, perfect bricks. Moreover, the perfect bricks were many more than the two bad bricks.
When our eyes would focus exclusively on minor mistakes, we become blind to everything else. That was why he couldn’t bear looking at that wall, or having others see it. That was why he wanted to destroy it. Now that he could see the good bricks, the wall didn’t look so bad after all. It was, as the visitor had said, “a nice brick wall.”
In truth, there are more good bricks, perfect bricks, but at times we just can’t see them. Instead, our eyes focus exclusively on the mistakes. The mistakes are all we see, they’re all we think are there— and so we want to destroy them. And sometimes, sadly, we do destroy a “very nice wall.”
How many of us end relationships because all we can see in others are “two bad bricks”?
How many of us become depressed , because all we can see in ourselves are “two bad bricks.”?
How many of us are afraid of opening ourselves to others, because we are afraid that the others will notice our “two bad bricks.”?
How many of us see only the bad bricks in others, when there are more good bricks than bad in them?
We’ve all got our two or more bad bricks, but the perfect bricks, the good bricks in each one of us always outnumber the bad bricks. Once we learn to focus on good bricks, things start to look not so bad. Not only we can live at peace with ourselves, inclusive of our faults, but we can also enjoy living with others in harmony .
Nobody is perfect. We are all fabulously flawed.
I know I am imperfect. But I only read that word as I’mperfect.
Wish everyone a fabulous Day!!!!
OLDER MEN AND YOUNGER WOMEN.
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY A 61 YEAR OLD MAN WOULD DATE A 33 YEAR OLD WOMAN. THE 33 YEAR OLD WOMAN DO NOT WANT TO BE SEEN IN PUBLIC WITH THE MAN. HE HAVE TO STAY HOME WHILE SHE GO OUT IN THE STREETS 
BF .... Best friend Forever
it was so nice when we have someone to talk to....
all burdens ... angry... tired... are gone.
I know, not all people like me and not all people I like.
I have female best friend ... now she is busy and so do I. seldom to talk to her again but she still my best friend forever.
I miss you DC... lately is so hard to find you free...
lucky me, I have many friends here. while I understand DC with her busy days, I can spend time and talking with other best friend to make me calm down and feel relax after faced tough days...
how abt you? do you have friends here from CS become someone you call Best Friend... someone who have mutual trust and understanding?
have a nice Tuesday....
all burdens ... angry... tired... are gone.
I know, not all people like me and not all people I like.
I have female best friend ... now she is busy and so do I. seldom to talk to her again but she still my best friend forever.
I miss you DC... lately is so hard to find you free...
lucky me, I have many friends here. while I understand DC with her busy days, I can spend time and talking with other best friend to make me calm down and feel relax after faced tough days...
how abt you? do you have friends here from CS become someone you call Best Friend... someone who have mutual trust and understanding?
have a nice Tuesday....
It Depends On How Much It Weighs!
So, you’re planning to throw your things together. You are in love with one another, you share the same values, you have a lot of other things in common, and all important issues like finances, accommodation, baggage, etc are also sorted out.
Every thing seems to be honky dory. But is it enough?
The questions to ask yourself are: If the two of you were not in love, could you have been best friends? And: Would you have been able to remain best friends for the rest of your life? If the answer to any of these two questions is ‘no’ then don’t do it. It may seem trivial questions, but there is something that keeps best friends together; something that is almost always overlooked by lovers.
It is all good and well to have a lot of small things in common, but what about the things you don’t have in common? Is there going to be any issues around that? Those are the things that will cause the problems. You may love sailing while your partner gets seasick if you just talk about the sea, and your partner may love dancing while you hate it, knowing that you are a disaster on legs.
Right, you may both decide to sacrifice your favorite activity to solve the problem.
Wait!
That is where the problems begin! Such sacrifices are never made by friends. They simply don’t become best friends because they do not have enough in common. Such compromises may work in the short term but after a while one or both parties will yearn back and will feel deprived and that is where the rot will start.
Similar interests may not be enough. The overlap in interests must be in the right areas. A thousand less important common interests can be offset by one single important thing not in common. It all depends on how much it weighs.
Happy women's day to all of you ladies. And guys, you enjoy it too!
Every thing seems to be honky dory. But is it enough?
The questions to ask yourself are: If the two of you were not in love, could you have been best friends? And: Would you have been able to remain best friends for the rest of your life? If the answer to any of these two questions is ‘no’ then don’t do it. It may seem trivial questions, but there is something that keeps best friends together; something that is almost always overlooked by lovers.
It is all good and well to have a lot of small things in common, but what about the things you don’t have in common? Is there going to be any issues around that? Those are the things that will cause the problems. You may love sailing while your partner gets seasick if you just talk about the sea, and your partner may love dancing while you hate it, knowing that you are a disaster on legs.
Right, you may both decide to sacrifice your favorite activity to solve the problem.
Wait!
That is where the problems begin! Such sacrifices are never made by friends. They simply don’t become best friends because they do not have enough in common. Such compromises may work in the short term but after a while one or both parties will yearn back and will feel deprived and that is where the rot will start. Similar interests may not be enough. The overlap in interests must be in the right areas. A thousand less important common interests can be offset by one single important thing not in common. It all depends on how much it weighs.
Happy women's day to all of you ladies. And guys, you enjoy it too!
single or not?
can a person be single and still living and sleeping in the same room with his /her ex?
wolfie
i would like to thank connecting singles for me meeting the girl of my dreams hense i am no longer available the love of my life iswolfie
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Chinese Zodiac Compatibility -
Happy New Year Of The Monkey, Y'all!
What with all the blogs on the Chinese New Year, I became curious if the Chinese Zodiac could be used to predict compatibility between people.
This is CONNECTING Singles, you know.
I figured if this could be done, the information would surely be on the 'net...
and of course it is!
Simply search -
Chinese Zodiac Compatibility
Enter your birthdate and that of a prospective partner.
VOILA!
You'll find out if you and your intended are...
Star-ordained... 
or
Star-crossed...
You are, of course, free to decide whether or not there is any validity to this.
If the Zodiac predicts wonderful things for you...
Chinese are really smart people. This system has been developed and refined over millennia; it embodies the wisdom of the ages.
If the Zodiac predicts things NOT so wonderful...
This is stupid superstitious nonsense.
Have fun and...Happy New Year Y'all!
............
What with all the blogs on the Chinese New Year, I became curious if the Chinese Zodiac could be used to predict compatibility between people.
This is CONNECTING Singles, you know.
I figured if this could be done, the information would surely be on the 'net...
and of course it is!
Simply search -
Chinese Zodiac Compatibility
Enter your birthdate and that of a prospective partner.
VOILA!
You'll find out if you and your intended are...
Star-ordained...
or
Star-crossed...
You are, of course, free to decide whether or not there is any validity to this.
If the Zodiac predicts wonderful things for you...
Chinese are really smart people. This system has been developed and refined over millennia; it embodies the wisdom of the ages.
If the Zodiac predicts things NOT so wonderful...
This is stupid superstitious nonsense.
Have fun and...Happy New Year Y'all!
............
boom
out
GIVING ALL, ENDING UP WITH NOTHING
How many of you, gave everything to your partner, just to end up with NOTHING?
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