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The First Lesson of Marriage 101: There Are No Soul Mates
A course at Northwestern University teaches students about what makes a healthy relationship.
Research shows that practically every dimension of life happiness is influenced by the quality of one’s marriage, while divorce is the second most stressful life event one can ever experience.
Yet nearly half of all married couples are likely to divorce, and many couples report feeling unhappy in their relationships. Instructors of Northwestern University’s Marriage 101 class want to change that. The goal of their course is to help students have more fulfilling love relationships during their lives. In Marriage 101 popular books such as Mating in Captivity and For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage are interspersed with meaty academic studies. Students attend one lecture a week and then meet in smaller breakout groups to discuss the weekly topics, which range from infidelity to addiction, childrearing to sexuality in long-term relationships.
At first glance this class may seem a tad too frivolous for a major research university. But the instructors say it’s not an easy A and its reputation as a meaningful, relevant, and enlightening course has grown steadily over the 14 years it’s been offered. In fact, teachers are forced to turn away eager prospective students every year. This spring, the enrollment will be capped at 100. The class is kept to a manageable size so that students can grapple at a deeply personal level with the material during their discussion sessions.
The Marriage 101 professors believe college is the perfect time for students to learn about relationships. “Developmentally, this is what the college years are all about: Students are thinking about who they are as people, how they love, who they love, and who they want as a partner,” says Alexandra Solomon, a professor and family therapist who will be teaching the course along with a team of four other faculty, all affiliated with Northwestern University’s Family Institute, and 11 teaching assistants. “We’re all really passionate about talking about what makes a healthy relationship.” The professors see the course—which requires journaling exercises, interviews with married couples, and several term papers—as a kind of inoculation against potential life trauma.
Historians tell us that marriage education in America began as a way to keep women’s sexuality in check. “Marriage education has been for hundreds of years aimed at women. It was considered their responsibility to keep the marriage going,” Stephanie Coontz, co-chairwoman of the Council on Contemporary Families and author of Marriage: A History, tells me. During the 1920s and 1930s, Coontz explains in her book, fears about s*xual liberation and the future of marriage led eugenics proponents like Paul Popenoe to become enthusiastic about marriage counseling. “If we were going to promote a sound population, we would not have to get the right kind of people married, but we would have to keep them married,” Popenoe wrote............
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A married man finds birth control pills in his wife's drawer...
However, he had a vasectomy a few years before they were married.
Is that a reason to be suspicious?
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Not sure if I should say who I like, it might ruin their day
to check out a scam ask them for a up to date photo with the date on it
As I'm not having any luck on CS finding the perfect woman , or it seems any woman for that matter I thought I would try other oprions .
A friend set me up with a blind date and it was all going well until her seeing eye dog bit my hand and pissed up my leg
Then I thought I would try speed dating
Put on my profile that I can c*m in 30 seconds .as speed dating is all about doing the job and moving on to the next ....
But no offers so far
Lastly I heard about Tinder and met up with a nice woman .after a few drinks I must have passed out because I woke up to the sound of 2 stones being banged together, being covered in a shower of sparks and a womans voice saying "burn you bastard"
Guess I didn't read the meaning of the word " Tinder "
Tinder :
dry, flammable material, such as wood or paper, used for lighting a fire.
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She- Hi how are you?
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She-What are you looking for on this site
Me-Friendship for start
She- Are you married, do you have kids
Me - separated ,will be divorced next month, I have one adult kid
She- I dont need a Married Man
Me-Honey, I wasnt offering anything
She-you should see a psychiatris
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By the way, she s a Blond