were women mistaken/men ignorant/society misinformed?

Listening to many TedX seminars on YouTube, I am starting to hear a common theme going on with women and their lack of o*gasm during sex. All of these seminars I listened to so far were given by women with a professional background in sex therapy. One of them make a claim that 90% of men achieved o*gasm during sex where women were less than half of that.

Another female sex professional claims that a small percentage of women achieve o*gasm with penal penetration. When she told one of her patients that, the patient was shocked....saying something like "oh, so there is nothing wrong with me."

Another female professional talks about how society has stereotyped sex and it is solely to do with penetration....for countless time. Today, things are changing when it comes to women's sexuality and there is a lot yet that has yet to be understood about it. But, sex done correctly with a woman, she can o*gasm as frequently as a man. It is said that she is primarily stimulated by the cl*t.

In addition, women lose their feeling of being h*rny when in a long term relationship. They claim that is completely normal. One professional compared it to going to the gym. Most people don't have this innate desire to go to the gym, but once they are there and doing their workout, their body feels great and the workout is very rewarding. She says, the same can be said with a woman's sex drive in a long term relationship. A long term relationship, she says, is about 6 months to a year....or longer.

With all that being said....these women claim that many women have come to them for their professional help with sex. Many women did not even know their own bodies and how it operated.

Now, to my question about....were women mistaken/men ignorant/society misinformed?

Did/do women hold men responsible...or....do women loath men when they can clearly see he achieved o*gasm and she did not. Perhaps...loathing to the point of feeling she is being mistreated? Perhaps loathing to the point to seeking an extra marital partner or a divorce?

The grass is only greener until the woman starts getting bored and discovered that new guy is not doing it for me either....what up with that? she might think??

Perhaps...that is why women like men who have a lot of experience with many women. Perhaps these men know about the significance of the cl*t...and how to stimulate it correctly? Or....that is why women like other women?

Again, I am just a dumb a** here.....I don't know anything. That is why I am asking.