I want it all, and I want it now. But how?
Just been away on holiday with my daughter and at the airport she kept us in duty free for AGES finding something nice enough to take to her mother-in-law as part of her birthday present.
I haven’t seen my daughter since September. Since then I have had a birthday (she did send a whatsapp message) and there’s been Christmas too (a phone call). She brought me a gift for both - a purple felt hat she found at a charity shop, because she says I’m now old enough to need one.
She’s busy, she lives 400 miles away, I’m not a very good mother, what more could I expect?
The irony is that I am fantastically needy. I’m so high-maintenance my mother ordered me from earliest childhood to stop expecting the whole world to revolve around me.
I wish it did.
Instead I have become the cat that walks alone. I’m now the sort of person who, if you lived next door to me and didn’t like chocolate cake, and someone gave you one, you’d still throw it away rather than give it to me. You’d tell me about it, too. Oh, you’d say, I so nearly popped over the other day with a cake for you, because I know you love chocolate cake.
What should I have said? That’s what this blog is for. How should I react to people basically telling me I don’t need anything from them when I really, really do?
I need your comments
Comments (94)
We will make good neighbours coz I'm unbelievably needy too!
Oh! Here's a cake for you
I think I will wait for a more empathetic person to post, and then I will agree with them
Hmmmmmm two needy people together, this could be very scary indeed
Oh dear this is CS that could be a longish wait
Have your needs now been met, poppet? I AM glad
Probably not but I'm hearing you. ..
Please.
with being "the cat that walks alone"
Quite cool in fact !!!!!
How many are there of us in here?? And by the way you come across as utterly secure and totally sure of yourself. Always. You impress the hell out of me!
But I'll take cool. Thanks!
We project our self-sufficiency then feel neglected when no one thinks to offer us their unwanted cake
I'd kill for a few crumbs at times, if only they knew ...
Oh sure I have actually been at purple hat stage since I was early 50s. And of course I am delighted to now actually have one.
I may get round to a selfie with it. Anyone want a purple hat selfie?
Oh, and have a slice of this cake from Mimi, it's delicious! Cake and coffee all round while we thrash this out -
Not going to try again. Huh. I have needs too, you know.
Sorry, busy at work here!
I'm not sure what's happening with your pic there Biff ..
It looks like you've been cemented in the base of a shower up to your waist
Like that, you mean?
It is a bit weird.
(men are soooooo easy)
I like the idea of your sea-looking defiance
And your defiance in general by the sounds of it
Defiant has never been a problem. Sometimes when I look back seems my whole life has been 'no you can't do that, are you crazy?' and I guess the answer is yes I am a little cracked.
The road less travelled.
Teach me -
Are ya sorted yet, Biff?
This is as hard as trying to catch a slot on Pat's elusive blog.
But yeah, I'm fine. Absolutely tickety boo, all sorted. Moment of weakness, easily resolved.
Away with you, blog, fly free!
Well, it is lunchtime, but I have worked through
Um
Now this is where I need someone to tell me what to say next.
(sweats) (goes to confess himself)