When you are expected to pay for lunch or dinner on the first date offline. Online dating No.2



Below follows, online conversation as part of online dating part no. 2,

M: Be careful with eating if you don’t have way to spend all that food.

C: Never had a problem with my weight

M: Excellent
M: I have problem only if have dinner every night and not have sexually activity...
So if you came and want that I cook you, then you know what I want also evry night ??

C: Yes, pay for the dinner you cooked for me through sex

M: No like that
Just with good atmosphere and great meal normal is to finish good night with passion

Comments (45)

I have yet to meet a man who expects sex in exchange for a meal

Would they say no? Often not.

But that is different from expecting it.
Geronimolion
@ Mollybabe,

You would be suprised how many times I said NO to a woman to have just s*x, for a one nightstand. Been there, done that.
I don't say, i never enjoyed it, that would be a lie, but most times after, i had a kind of "thats it" feeling, more like, i could spend my time on a much better way. Sounds maybe disrespectfull, but thats just the way a felt. dunno
Some women also feel insulted when a man refuses her dunno
Geron, I know plenty of men who turn down both sex on a first date, and one-night-stands.

That is why I can never understand on here the 'all' attitude.

Not 'all' of either sex do everything, or think, homogeneously
Since I'm such a terrible + miserable + horrible book, I'd probably have to throw in sex as well in order to make it up! giggle
'Since I'm such a terrible + miserable + horrible book, I'd probably have to throw in sex as well in order to make it up!'


I can read between the lines giggle
Molly!! reunion


You know nothing!!!! tongue



laugh
I know you are a horrible book professor


laugh
snooty snooty snooty
BeaPatient
I don't have a problem sleeping with a man if I like him enough.
If he expects me to sleep with him because he paid for the meal he can shove it right up his a**.
He needs a prostitute, not a girlfriend.
Stargazer111
@ Geronimolion,

Way to go buddy! Unfortunately, some women also insult men when they say No or refuse sex (know of a few cases). Same also goes for some men towards women.
Stargazer111
@ mollybaby,

Where exactly have you found the "all" attitude on here?.

That's your interpretation.
Stargazer111
@ Beapatient,

I couldn't agree with you more both in shoving it up his a** and wanting a prostitute not a girlfriend.
Star, I am not talking about this blog

But there is an overriding 'all' attitude in here - both from men and women
Niceguy1958
Mimi, how about I just pay you not to cook? rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Johnny_Sparton
Sounds like a romantic night in the making....but to come out and insinuate you want something in the end...is a bit aggressive and quite the mood changer, before it even began.
Geronimolion
@ Stargazer,

Way to go buddy! Unfortunately, some women also insult men when they say No or refuse sex (know of a few cases). Same also goes for some men towards women.

Don’t tell me my Star, i realize that to well, some men think when they pay a drink or dinner, that s*x is granted, sometimes i am really ashamed to be a man. And when the woman refuse, they turn aggressive or even violent.doh

@MiMiArt,

Give it a chance, you know s*x sells….rolling on the floor laughing Btw, i love reading, so,do not hesitate to send me a copy grin

@BeaPatient,

If he expects me to sleep with him because he paid for the meal he can shove it right up his a**.
He needs a prostitute, not a girlfriend.

And he is stupid to, a prostitute would be less expensive i guess. rolling on the floor laughing

@ Mollybabe,

Your right, you where not talking about this blog, but you got a point when its in general on the blogs.thumbs up

I wonder...when will men and woman realize that we are not here to fight each other, but to accept and respect our differences, and just live together peacefull. I trust more and more to my intuition, if it doesnt feel good...i just turn another direction, and i know i hurt sometimes people with that attitude, but my intuitions say, better a short pain, then an endless argue and fights. I can not deny or change myself, and I do not want that from anyone else either. One can make compromises, but this just to a certain level, I am not going to change my personality for anyone. By the way my profile says everything,( i am who i am).dunno
Stargazer111
@ Molly,

Thanks for clarifying.

@ Niceguy,

Maybe you can use that money and take Mimi out for lunch/dinner in a nice restaurant?

@ Johny Sparton,

Hahaha yes, quite the opposite of "a romantic dinner". It was indeed a mood changer but, my initial reaction was shock and, disbelief. There was no date taking place in real life as a result of this conversation or any further online dating or further online conversations as part of it.

If the purpose and aim on the behalf of this person/man was to degrade my person or devalue me now, blocking out and cutting out contact didn't even give an opportunity for such an effort to be made in the future.
KNenagh
HI Stargazer, wave do not take such emails personally.

I did in the start but I figured out quick enough that there are a ton of chancers on here that try to get a leg over anything.

See it as someone saving you time - anything not correct, just hit the block button. wine
Stargazer111
@ Knenagh,

Thank you for the nice words and advice.

This was a conversation on whats app with a user of this site that I copied and pasted on here. Prior to this , more than 100 e-mails must have exchanged between us on this site.

During this process and while on this site, absolutely nothing implied that, I would be receiving the message that I received.

Also, I haven't never received any messages of these sort on this site which of course, I would have reported and not just block.

It happened to report on this site another user , swearing at me on whats app after not being able to respond to his message after 30 minutes for which I apologised and explained the reason why.

It also happened on another site used , the guy to be presenting themselves very serious and after they have my trust and go ahead to give them my digits after a few days ...oh my...it's like a complete change of character.

It feels like I'm being given shit as part of a test of how much shit I can take . The more shit I can take and take , they more shit they would give me.

Besides or as part of "the complete change of character" matter.

I was thinking of deleting this and the other blog making public these (private)online conversations as part of online dating but, today I feel that there is so much and so many subjects to take from these.

At least, they are coming up for me....

Such as,

Blocking comes and goes hand in hand with self respect.

Thanks for your contribution on this blog that, I'm keeping as it is. :-)
pat8lanips
It happens all the time, she buys me a cheeseburger and then takes her pants off expectantly.
laugh laugh laugh


Ooohhhhh BNaughty, you out to BNice to Stargazer coz she's just 'next door' wink
Ought not out mumbling
Mimi, I think in time Stargazer will like me and we can become good neighbourswink
I'll drink to that, BNaughty wine

cheering cheering cheering
Noooo, not our Stargazer.....scold


As for me, I'd want at least a Happy Meal

OR

Double Cheeseburger + French fries + Coke. Upsize please batting
Oh my! Have you got a sister Mimi?heart beating
Mimi, you will never get all of that from Pat

Lower your standards, woman professor
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

Molly reunion



BNaughty

I do!! I do!!! But she's happily married to an Aussie!! grin
NiceGuy, you gotta realise that you're gonna be with your MiMi for a long time to come so I wouldn't make any jokes regarding her cooking if I were you wink


Coz, you'd never know when she 'accidentally' drop that sea cucumber or the fish head into your chicken broth. grin comfort
Mimi! Poor Art laugh
Geron wave

Of course I know sex sells.....why do you think I put them sexy pics up on my profile? wink giggle
Molly

He already reminded me ( for the umpteenth time!! roll eyes ) that he WOULD NOT be eating any of them gross stuffs while he's here in April! laugh
April won't be long coming banana

Remind him this time to wear a sunblock! laugh
Hell yeah, Molly! MiMi won't want her Arty to be 'out of commission' by getting sunburnt. wink devil giggle
Mimi, protect the important bits from the sun anyway laugh
Ann ?!?! confused
Molly

rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Yes Ann applause

I just hope Stargazer is alright with us hijacking her blog!! bouquet
pat8lanips
A quarter pounder with cheese, and I'll do anything for her.
pat8lanips
If we get KFC drive through, would it appear miserly if I asked her for petrol money? It takes ages to get served, and I like to keep the air con running. I'm just so confused and dont know what to do right now.

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