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After talking for almost 4 month he left that he wouldnt trust me....................... i was honest all throw....... its the day i missed to read blogs but for him i was still chasing that is totally not true from my side. Anyone with experience how do u cope when he block all contact u feel would love to clear the misunderstandings...... I miss him like crazy. RW miss u

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I can't believe how a man can kill the mother of there child ....haven't you ever hear of a divorce? if you don't want her I'll take her off your hands

Even before entering into a relationship, one person is always attracted to the other more than the other is attracted to him/her. This may be purely a matter of chemistry. Both persons may enter into and develop the relationship, being fully aware of this. The one who is more strongly attracted may end up putting more effort into the relationship in the hope that this may cause the other person to become more attracted to him/her. However, things may not necessarily work out that way, at least in the short term; there is a better chance of this taking place in the long term. Ultimately, one may have to make a decision with regard to committing or not committing oneself to the relationship.

If things work out well and both parties are happy and remain happy in the relationship, that is great.

However, if things do not work out that way,then what?

Most likely, there are several persons here at CS who may have experienced such a situation, and some who may be experiencing such a situation at present.

Perhaps the one whose love was not reciprocated in the relationship, leading to a case of unrequited love, may console himself/herself with the saying:

“It is better to have loved and have lost, than to never to have loved at all”.

What do you think?

Open discussion, on the topic, welcome!!!

Today's thoughts 5/6/15, by John:
The Ironic's of today...

Why does searching for romance have to be so complicated?

Somewhere in the middle is either too much, or it is not enough
or lives too far away!

I guess love is not as simple as it used to be "back in the day"!

What the hell is an aging "Single" to do anymore?
Time is not on our side...

It's so hard to "just settle" (which I will not do).
That is more convenience, than "real" love...

Are we doomed to live out the rest of our life alone,
because we can't find the Mr/Ms "Right-On" person?

Just asking ~JOHN~
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Long lazy baths are top thinking time and this morning was particularly productive as I reached three important decisions. I’m not conventional, I have never been conventional, and I am stopping trying to be conventional. That wasn’t a decision, that’s a fact.

Firstly – I’m getting married. This was first mooted in 2006, and pencilled in for 2026, when my ex and I agreed that if I am still single, we will remarry in October of that year. I say we agreed – I told him, he agreed. I have now decided this will happen, even if he has died or, worse, scurried off and married someone else: hopefully there will be a choice of grooms at that time. If not, surely by 2026 there will be suitable androids on the market. In the unlikely event I am already married, the lucky man and I will renew our vows. Sorted.

Secondly – I like being engaged. I am engaged, I am engaged in a relationship. Engagement is, of its very nature, a transitory state, but does mean I can refer to my lovely man as my fiancé rather than the alarming connotations of ‘other half’ or, even more threatening, ‘partner’. Sorted.

Thirdly, and most importantly – I have written a book which is supposedly steampunk, but which I am now told is more Space Western. I don’t really like Westerns, so I was fretting about that. The water was nearly cold by the time I decided the book’s genre is future retro. SO sorted.

There is a movement called retrofuturism. I may adopt that as a tag to redirect readers. But future retro it is.

AND I am beautifully clean. A good bath, really.

I was going to post this blog in RL, then decided to run it here first. See if it gets any comments.

Once a monk was assigned to build a brick wall. Being a monk, he had all the patience he needed for the job. He made sure every single brick was perfect, no matter how long it took.

Eventually, he completed his brick wall and stood back to admire it. It was only then that he noticed he’d missed two bricks. All the other bricks were nicely in line, but these two were inclined at an angle. They spoilt the whole wall. They ruined it. By then, the cement mortar was too hard for the bricks to be taken out, so he asked the abbot if he could knock the wall down and start over again or, even better, perhaps blow it up. The abbot said the wall had to stay.

When he showed the visitors around the monastery, he always tried to avoid taking them past his brick wall. He’d made a mess of it and he was very embarrassed. He hated anyone seeing it.

One day he was walking with a visitor and he saw the wall. “That’s a nice wall,” he casually remarked. “Sir,” he replied in surprise, “have you left your glasses in your car? Are you visually impaired? Can’t you see those two bad bricks which spoil the whole wall?” . The visitor replied, “Yes. I can see those two bad bricks. But I can see all the good bricks as well.”

For the first time the monk could see other bricks in that wall apart from the two bad bricks. Above, below, to the left and to the right of the bad bricks were good bricks, perfect bricks. Moreover, the perfect bricks were many more than the two bad bricks.

When our eyes would focus exclusively on minor mistakes, we become blind to everything else. That was why he couldn’t bear looking at that wall, or having others see it. That was why he wanted to destroy it. Now that he could see the good bricks, the wall didn’t look so bad after all. It was, as the visitor had said, “a nice brick wall.”

In truth, there are more good bricks, perfect bricks, but at times we just can’t see them. Instead, our eyes focus exclusively on the mistakes. The mistakes are all we see, they’re all we think are there— and so we want to destroy them. And sometimes, sadly, we do destroy a “very nice wall.”

How many of us end relationships because all we can see in others are “two bad bricks”?

How many of us become depressed , because all we can see in ourselves are “two bad bricks.”?

How many of us are afraid of opening ourselves to others, because we are afraid that the others will notice our “two bad bricks.”?

How many of us see only the bad bricks in others, when there are more good bricks than bad in them?

We’ve all got our two or more bad bricks, but the perfect bricks, the good bricks in each one of us always outnumber the bad bricks. Once we learn to focus on good bricks, things start to look not so bad. Not only we can live at peace with ourselves, inclusive of our faults, but we can also enjoy living with others in harmony .

Nobody is perfect. We are all fabulously flawed.

I know I am imperfect. But I only read that word as I’mperfect.

Wish everyone a fabulous Day!!!!

IT IS NOT LOVE, IT IS SOMETHING ELSE

If you love someone because you think that he or she is really gorgeous...
Then it's not love..
It is - Infatuation...

If you love someone because you think that you should not leave him because others think that you should not...
Then it is not love..
It is - Compromise...

If you love someone because you think that you cannot live without his touch....
Then it is not love..
It is - Lust...

If you love someone because you have been kissed by him...
Then it is not love..
It ?s - Inferiority Complex...

If you love someone because you cannot leave him thinking that it would hurt his feelings..
Then it is not love..
It is - Charity...

If you love someone, because you share everything with him...
Then it is not love..
It is - Friendship...

If you demand someone to accept you as you are,
Then it is not love…
It is selfishness…

If you kindly advise someone that you like travelling, but you do not say, who will pay the expenses…
Then it is not for love…
It is for money and dolce vita

But if you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stable
And you cry for him…
This is - real LOVE...

There are many things that we can do to perk up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships. Yet the most effective involves the saying of just three words.
"I'LL BE THERE"
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
"I MISS YOU"
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you"
This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.
Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of the workday, just to say "I miss you."
"I RESPECT YOU"
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.
"MAYBE YOU’RE RIGHT"
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe your right" is the humility of admitting, "Maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.
"PLEASE FORGIVE ME"
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
"I THANK YOU"
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
"COUNT ON ME"
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating you can "count on me."
"LET ME HELP"
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.
"IUNDERSTAND YOU"
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. This applies to any relationship.
"I LOVE YOU"
Perhaps these words are the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs; they need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your family, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words. I love you.
When spoken or conveyed, these statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled. These three-word phrases can enrich every relationship. Use them!